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slavemoth -> HOW (7/11/2011 7:21:55 PM)

Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?




DarkSteven -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 7:36:35 PM)

Okay.  This is the second freaking post in which you whine that it's really hard to find an owner.  You've been on one week.

One of the reasons you have not been snapped up is that you have been given advice to stop whining, to shut off the computer and go and meet people.  Why would anyone think you could even be a decent slave when you refuse to do as is suggested to you? 

That said, welcome to collarme.  Learn to quit hunting so desperately and just enjoy the conversations here.




catize -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 7:42:37 PM)

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well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.


According to who??????????????????????




LadyPact -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 7:57:34 PM)

Thanks for saving Me the keystrokes, Steven.




DarkSteven -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:05:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Thanks for saving Me the keystrokes, Steven.


You're welcome, although I still left the possibility for you to comment on him showing a nekkid pic on his profile.  Cuz, you know, LadyP, in real life, slaves don't always serve nude.




LadyHibiscus -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:07:03 PM)

Steven, Steven. You and your fantasy-crushing REALITY![:D]




Palliata -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:09:05 PM)

A perfect slave is unassuming, does not gloat at how submissive he is, does not focus on his own capacities. He focuses on the needs of his mistress, focuses his efforts on improving his capacity to serve her, not on self-aggrandizement and demands to have his needs served at his soonest convenience.




LadyPact -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:09:16 PM)

While I appreciate you being such a gentleman at leaving Me the opportunity, I don't think we're quite at that level yet.  Whining might just be a tad bit more annoying than having to look at someone's ass. 

Score - Personality and attitude, always more important than physical characteristics.




TheDarkSaint -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:14:18 PM)

Just my opinion, and I don't post much around here, so take it for what little it is worth.

Just like anything in life, both "Real" owners and "Real" slaves (as you have chosen to call them) would be wise to choose carefully and with great consideration as to who is to be taken on or who they choose to serve.

For myself.. My very first warning sign of something to avoid would be any sense of urgency or desperation on the others part.




MistressDarkArt -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:19:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Palliata

A perfect slave is unassuming, does not gloat at how submissive he is, does not focus on his own capacities. He focuses on the needs of his mistress, focuses his efforts on improving his capacity to serve her, not on self-aggrandizement and demands to have his needs served at his soonest convenience.


This!




LillyBoPeep -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:19:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Palliata

A perfect slave is unassuming, does not gloat at how submissive he is, does not focus on his own capacities. He focuses on the needs of his mistress, focuses his efforts on improving his capacity to serve her, not on self-aggrandizement and demands to have his needs served at his soonest convenience.


A+ for Palliata

to the OP, perhaps your self-centeredness comes across more than you think it does. this is, indeed, the 2nd such post you've made; obviously you think that you are more entitled to something that other people have, i.e. successful relationships, and you're bothered by the lack of one. why do you think that?

interestingly enough, your profile is written fairly well and you do have vanilla interests mixed in with the kink ones -- however,  it's possible that your self-centeredness comes across in messages you write. if they are composed anything like your threads, the me-me-me would be pretty obvious right off the bat.






Killerangel -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 8:49:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?

Aw, poor thing.
You seem to think that you are special somehow. You're not really. I honestly think this delusion is at the root of your problem here. No one is going to 'snap you up'....there are so many others like you out there and maybe even less pushy and whiny. If you're being turned down or finding liars what is the common denominator here...you perhaps? How about giving it some time and putting in some work, give yourself an attitude adjustment and see if that doesn't get things on the right track. Stop with the whiny threads though, please.




sirsholly -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 9:04:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slavemoth

Why is it so difficult to find a genuine owner,ive had a few enquires but theyve turned out to be liars.some people have said to me its very rare to find a real slave,well im a real slave and that is a 100 per cent true.so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?
Not as special as you thought you were, huh?




slavemoth -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 9:17:41 PM)

well ive read the replys and learnt somthing your all right,it has come across and selfcenterd and desperate.im going to learn here.and im feel embarresed sorry.




hangemhigh1953 -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 9:26:37 PM)

Humility is one of the most important traits for a slave to have.




sirsholly -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 9:29:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: slavemoth

well ive read the replys and learnt somthing your all right,it has come across and selfcenterd and desperate.im going to learn here.and im feel embarresed sorry.
You are correct that you will indeed learn a great deal here. There is a huge amount of experience and wisdom on these boards.

Now...stop feeling embarrassed and welcome to CollarMe [:)]




myotherself -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 11:00:09 PM)

I will echo Holly here - welcome to cm [:D]

And I will add - finding a Mistress (or Master in my case) is NOT easier than finding a bf or gf. In fact, I think it may even be a bit more tricky.

I have met men that really float my boat in so many ways, but their kinks and mine are so badly mismatched that it could never work. Similarly, I have met men whose kinks match mine extremely well, but I feel no attraction to them and they don't inspire in me the need to submit.

It took me 8 years to find the man I needed. And when I asked him a few days ago why he wanted me rather than anyone else, he said it was my sense of humour and my self-confidence. He got sick of "whiny, desperate subs looking for anything with a whip".






HannahLynHeather -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 11:54:44 PM)

quote:

so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?
maybe because your profile reads like they're written by a fucking 4th grader. grammar, spelling, syntax, punctuation, and spacing - they're not just for kids.




sunshinemiss -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 11:56:27 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

quote:

so why am i not snapped up and owned again.this really puzzles me?
maybe because your profile and posts read like they're written by a fucking 4th grader. grammar, spelling, syntax, punctuation, and spacing - they're not just for kids.


Hannah,
Nothing but love, but... physician - heal thyself.  Ahem.




HannahLynHeather -> RE: HOW (7/11/2011 11:58:46 PM)

you don't see me fucking whining that i haven't been snapped up in a week now do you?




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