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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It depends on how the person is using the term.

A switch can be a person who can enjoy either the D or s position in a dynamic.

A switch can also be a person who enjoys being either the top or bottom during play.

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: sexisubi

people who do the switcheroo, they can be either dominate or submissive during play depending on their mood and their compromising skills.

Say what?  That little faux paus up there notwithstanding, what the heck are "compromising skills"?

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

It's another way to say "indecisive."

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Thank you, I.  Your explanation is greatly appreciated.  I really had no idea what you were talking about.  I think that EVERY relationship requires compromise - if it's healthy anyway.  Craptastic relationships don't require it so much. 

As for the "controversy"... The term "switch" is like many terms.  People can argue ad nauseum but still it always rolls back to ... "this is MY definition, and it works for me."

best,
sunshine

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A switch can be a person who can enjoy either the D or s position in a dynamic.

A switch can also be a person who enjoys being either the top or bottom during play.

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It's another way to say "indecisive."

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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker
I provided a very honest answer and should be thanked.

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

To "aroman" -

I, for one, do not compromise with my Sir. He is always in the Dominant role, and I am always submissive to him. Unless two switches are in a relationship with each other, there is no 'art of compromise' needed. It is the same with my relationship with my sub. He is never in the lead, I am. His role is as well-defined as mine is to my Sir.

~ Red

*edited bc typing on a phone is hell when trying to remember who I'm writing to & their screen names*

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

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A switch can be a person who can enjoy either the D or s position in a dynamic.

A switch can also be a person who enjoys being either the top or bottom during play.

or both, or all of them together.....
i'm submissive towards dominant women

i'm dominant towards submissive women

i cannot switch my dominant/submissive status, that is determined by the woman in question, my orientation is a response to theirs.

i can be either top or bottom with either of the above types, there is no correlation between dominance/submissiveness and top/bottom for me.

i can top or bottom with men

i am neither dominant nor submissive with men, though i can play either role with a man, but its just that, a fucking role i am playing.

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It's another way to say "indecisive."

this is a common misconception usually held by people with limited fucking mental capacity, often overly behindular in their general world views. one can usually recognize these wormy little fucks as they tend to be overly effeminate men with long hair and pale hairless bodies, reminiscent of a dead fish, they worry more about their looks and that they are wearing the latest trendiest fashions than a 10th grade schoolgirl (though the school girl is usually much further along on the maturity scale). when you come across one of these fuckers, don't be frightened, they are harmless as they are generally too socially inept to actually engage a woman in conversation beyond a few pathetic attempts at witticisms. if one does persist in bothering you, just throw a spider at him. these sad little sissy boys are all so fucking afraid of spiders that they fucking piss themselves (and ruin their expensive clothes - an added bonus).

hannah lynn