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just a question - 6/14/2011 1:25:26 PM

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this is a dumb question but me still being new and learning...can anyone explain to me what a switch is pls

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 1:29:38 PM

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It depends on how the person is using the term.

A switch can be a person who can enjoy either the D or s position in a dynamic.

A switch can also be a person who enjoys being either the top or bottom during play.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 1:54:11 PM

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people who do the switcheroo, they can be either dominate or submissive during play depending on their mood and their compromising skills.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:21:18 PM

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thank you so much...now i can go to Master and tell him what i have learned

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:27:12 PM

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It also refers to a thin branch used to whip with.

A little known usage is when a person with multiple personalities 'switches' from one to another.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:31:42 PM

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i identify on here as switch as there arn't any other 'lables' that suit. but for me it basically means i'm far too greedy to be one thing or the other. i want it all and so does the fella. this doesn't just mean that he takes the 'lead' role sometimes and then subs another, and vice-versa, it means we can both be everything all in one session.

for others it will be different.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:37:16 PM

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It's another way to say "indecisive."

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:40:26 PM

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people who do the switcheroo, they can be either dominate or submissive during play depending on their mood and their compromising skills.

Say what? That little faux paus up there notwithstanding, what the heck are "compromising skills"?

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:45:47 PM

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For questions like this, wipipedia is a good resource:

http://www.londonfetishscene.com/wipi/index.php/Switch

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:46:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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people who do the switcheroo, they can be either dominate or submissive during play depending on their mood and their compromising skills.

Say what? That little faux paus up there notwithstanding, what the heck are "compromising skills"?

i missed that sunshine......

sexisubi, what i do has nothing to do with compromising. we either want to do something or we don't. we know each other well enough to know what boundaries can be pushed and how far. maybe you should explain what you are talking about so those of us who do 'switch' can comment on it.......

NS bore off already.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:48:58 PM

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I spelled faux pas wrong. Irony.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:49:27 PM

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Oh, I contribute to a topic and I get a rude reply.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:52:28 PM

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beneath me.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:53:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PropertyofCRJ

this is a dumb question but me still being new and learning...can anyone explain to me what a switch is pls

There is a switch forum here if you wanted to learn even more about the topic, you can read the archives where issues particular to switching are discussed.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:53:59 PM

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Oh, I contribute to a topic and I get a rude reply.

dear boy what you do is not contributing, it's spouting inane rubbish. there's a difference.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 3:54:17 PM

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I provided a very honest answer and should be thanked.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 4:03:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: sexisubi

people who do the switcheroo, they can be either dominate or submissive during play depending on their mood and their compromising skills.

Say what? That little faux paus up there notwithstanding, what the heck are "compromising skills"?

I don't see what's so unclear about this. When you switch you often must compromise with your partner: you can't be dom all the time or sub all the time. Having known several switch couples intimately, I've seen that compromising at work time and time again, particularly on an evening where both are feeling amourously submissive, or both feeling amourously dominant. In that situation, for the sake of harmony, one of the partners often assumes the role that doesn't appeal to him or her at that particular time. Hence, compromise. And yes, this does require skills, fine social skills and the maturity to realize that one can't always have one's own way.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 4:07:19 PM

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I identify as a switch. I have been the submissive/slave half of a male Dom relationship for 8 years. My Sir does not switch. For me to get the other half of my needs met, I have been in the Top spot with 3 female submissives, and currently have my first male sub.

My needs and abilities are diverse. Sometimes I want the control and sometimes I want to yield that control to someone else. In play, I like to be at the mercy of someone I trust and whose style meshes with mine. If I am topping, there also has to be a good match for it to work well.

The replies you have gotten are spot on. However, DarkSteven's reply appears to be rather tongue in cheek because I don't think you are coming to a BDSM forum to hear about tree branches or psychological diagnoses. Also, please disregard the drivel spouted off by the person who tries to stir shit by saying inane things like it means a person is "indecisive." Most people just drive by trainwrecks like those posts, for good reason.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 4:11:21 PM

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To "aroman" -

I, for one, do not compromise with my Sir. He is always in the Dominant role, and I am always submissive to him. Unless two switches are in a relationship with each other, there is no 'art of compromise' needed. It is the same with my relationship with my sub. He is never in the lead, I am. His role is as well-defined as mine is to my Sir.

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RE: just a question - 6/14/2011 4:51:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I identify as a switch. I have been the submissive/slave half of a male Dom relationship for 8 years. My Sir does not switch. For me to get the other half of my needs met, I have been in the Top spot with 3 female submissives, and currently have my first male sub.

My needs and abilities are diverse. Sometimes I want the control and sometimes I want to yield that control to someone else. In play, I like to be at the mercy of someone I trust and whose style meshes with mine. If I am topping, there also has to be a good match for it to work well.

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Best answer I've read so far.

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