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ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

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I don't judge people

ORIGINAL: sofldan    It's funny you say this in your thread when this is posted on your profile: 

"If you are batty, nuts, insane, bi-polar, “off”, loony, “odd”, eccentric, bizarre, fanatical, mad, or any other form of crazy, please move on…

If you feel like you need therapy, a shrink, to be committed, put in the funny farm or any other assistance to get over the above mental ailments, please move on…"  

Just saying...

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ORIGINAL: sofldan

So I have come under attack by a person who shall remain nameless. This person has for some reason decided to drag my name through the mud and tell outright lies about me an who I am.  I met a certain person that I had been talking to for about a week this weekend for coffee and to chat in person. We chatted for over an hour at Starbucks and then decided to go hang out at a park and hang out and talk more. After another hour close to 2 hours of chatting in the park this person had to leave due to having prior arrangements somewhere else. When we said good bye she gave me two kisses and said I'll call you later.

She never called or replied to a couple texts later saying hi whats up? etc.
So today I find out from a friend that she had e-mailed my friend that:Anyways I met a mutual Fetlife friend  yesterday for lunch and lets just say if your considering playing or getting to know him I'm not entirely to sure he's your type. He showed up for our date with wholes in his clothes, and unless you want someone who weighs 350+ he's not your person.

So whatever not the first time its happened probably wont be the last. Upon finding out what she had said behind my back today I text-ed her and said for her to grow up. Her reply is that I had misled and lied to her about who I was. She also told some other lies that I am not getting into. I never lied about my being a large guy. In fact I had asked her bluntly the second time we talked if she had a problem with big guys because I am and that I did not want to waste her or my time. I do this with anyone I haven't met in person before because I know to some this is an issue. Secondly there were no "wholes", holes being misspelled in my clothes, my jeans were not ripped, nor was there ass hanging out of the back of my pants. And I even had a couple sprays of obsession on.

My pictures on my profile here and on cm are current and not Photoshopped. My profile on cm sofldan in the first paragraph I admit I am a big guy. I have never gone about trying to mislead anyone at any time and don't understand why I have come under attack by this person. I am big but 350+ is a great stretch. I don't judge people and don't talk bad about someone behind their back if I had something to say I tell them to their face. And she is no model or beauty queen and there is plenty that I could say. But I wont go to that level it's not appropriate and I don't judge by appearance, but on how a person acts publicly and privately.

So anyway I thought I would share this story and warn people that sometimes people are not who they say they are and will do whatever they can for shits and giggles.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: sofldan

So I have come under attack by a person who shall remain nameless. This person has for some reason decided to drag my name through the mud and tell outright lies about me an who I am.  I met a certain person that I had been talking to for about a week this weekend for coffee and to chat in person. We chatted for over an hour at Starbucks and then decided to go hang out at a park and hang out and talk more. After another hour close to 2 hours of chatting in the park this person had to leave due to having prior arrangements somewhere else. When we said good bye she gave me two kisses and said I'll call you later.

She never called or replied to a couple texts later saying hi whats up? etc.
So today I find out from a friend that she had e-mailed my friend that:Anyways I met a mutual Fetlife friend  yesterday for lunch and lets just say if your considering playing or getting to know him I'm not entirely to sure he's your type. He showed up for our date with wholes in his clothes, and unless you want someone who weighs 350+ he's not your person.

So whatever not the first time its happened probably wont be the last. Upon finding out what she had said behind my back today I text-ed her and said for her to grow up. Her reply is that I had misled and lied to her about who I was. She also told some other lies that I am not getting into. I never lied about my being a large guy. In fact I had asked her bluntly the second time we talked if she had a problem with big guys because I am and that I did not want to waste her or my time. I do this with anyone I haven't met in person before because I know to some this is an issue. Secondly there were no "wholes", holes being misspelled in my clothes, my jeans were not ripped, nor was there ass hanging out of the back of my pants. And I even had a couple sprays of obsession on.

My pictures on my profile here and on cm are current and not Photoshopped. My profile on cm sofldan in the first paragraph I admit I am a big guy. I have never gone about trying to mislead anyone at any time and don't understand why I have come under attack by this person. I am big but 350+ is a great stretch. I don't judge people and don't talk bad about someone behind their back if I had something to say I tell them to their face. And she is no model or beauty queen and there is plenty that I could say. But I wont go to that level it's not appropriate and I don't judge by appearance, but on how a person acts publicly and privately.

So anyway I thought I would share this story and warn people that sometimes people are not who they say they are and will do whatever they can for shits and giggles.

Shoulda fucked her

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ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

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I don't judge people

ORIGINAL: sofldan    It's funny you say this in your thread when this is posted on your profile: 

"If you are batty, nuts, insane, bi-polar, “off”, loony, “odd”, eccentric, bizarre, fanatical, mad, or any other form of crazy, please move on…

If you feel like you need therapy, a shrink, to be committed, put in the funny farm or any other assistance to get over the above mental ailments, please move on…"  

Just saying...

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

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I don't judge people

ORIGINAL: sofldan    It's funny you say this in your thread when this is posted on your profile: 

"If you are batty, nuts, insane, bi-polar, “off”, loony, “odd”, eccentric, bizarre, fanatical, mad, or any other form of crazy, please move on…

If you feel like you need therapy, a shrink, to be committed, put in the funny farm or any other assistance to get over the above mental ailments, please move on…"  

Just saying...

What exactly are you saying? That he should date crazy people?

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The only problem I have with this is that, the crazy people usually aren't reading ads and saying, 'Oh snap! I'm batty and need to be put in the funny farm....I'd better skip this guy!" In other words, the people this is directed to don't have a clue that you're talking to them.

While I agree with the principle behind it, when I read a big list of negatives with the demand to move on, I feel as though I'm getting scolded for things I haven't even done and taking the heat for the sins of others. It makes me think the writer has a lot of unsolved issues and chips on his shoulder that I don't want to deal with, so I move on.

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ORIGINAL: windchymes


...............................While I agree with the principle behind it, when I read a big list of negatives with the demand to move on, I feel as though I'm getting scolded for things I haven't even done and taking the heat for the sins of others. It makes me think the writer has a lot of unsolved issues and chips on his shoulder that I don't want to deal with, so I move on.

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ORIGINAL: sofldan

I just added that last night after dealing with this issue.

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: sofldan

I just added that last night after dealing with this issue.

...well that certainly comes across as a mature and well-considered response.

Julia: I read the post as criticisng not his choice to avoid dating people with emotional problems, but the words he chose to use. Stigmatising mental health issues by ranting and using insulting language = not cool.

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: sofldan

So I have come under attack by a person who shall remain nameless. This person has for some reason decided to drag my name through the mud and tell outright lies about me an who I am.  I met a certain person that I had been talking to for about a week this weekend for coffee and to chat in person. We chatted for over an hour at Starbucks and then decided to go hang out at a park and hang out and talk more. After another hour close to 2 hours of chatting in the park this person had to leave due to having prior arrangements somewhere else. When we said good bye she gave me two kisses and said I'll call you later.

She never called or replied to a couple texts later saying hi whats up? etc.
So today I find out from a friend that she had e-mailed my friend that:Anyways I met a mutual Fetlife friend  yesterday for lunch and lets just say if your considering playing or getting to know him I'm not entirely to sure he's your type. He showed up for our date with wholes in his clothes, and unless you want someone who weighs 350+ he's not your person.

So whatever not the first time its happened probably wont be the last. Upon finding out what she had said behind my back today I text-ed her and said for her to grow up. Her reply is that I had misled and lied to her about who I was. She also told some other lies that I am not getting into. I never lied about my being a large guy. In fact I had asked her bluntly the second time we talked if she had a problem with big guys because I am and that I did not want to waste her or my time. I do this with anyone I haven't met in person before because I know to some this is an issue. Secondly there were no "wholes", holes being misspelled in my clothes, my jeans were not ripped, nor was there ass hanging out of the back of my pants. And I even had a couple sprays of obsession on.

My pictures on my profile here and on cm are current and not Photoshopped. My profile on cm sofldan in the first paragraph I admit I am a big guy. I have never gone about trying to mislead anyone at any time and don't understand why I have come under attack by this person. I am big but 350+ is a great stretch. I don't judge people and don't talk bad about someone behind their back if I had something to say I tell them to their face. And she is no model or beauty queen and there is plenty that I could say. But I wont go to that level it's not appropriate and I don't judge by appearance, but on how a person acts publicly and privately.

So anyway I thought I would share this story and warn people that sometimes people are not who they say they are and will do whatever they can for shits and giggles.

Shoulda fucked her

OH HELL NO!!!!! NO FUKIN WAY!!!!!!

Once you fuck a psychobitch, your problems increase exponentially. Been there, done that, threw away the t shirt to get rid of the stench.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I am sorry that you're so upset about the whole thing.  From what I'm reading here though, I don't especially see it as your name being dragged through the mud.  You didn't mention in your post that your name got used specifically.  On your post you even said it was a "mutual friend" so it's not like the person named you publicly on her Fet journal to say bad things about you.  Yes, I'd have been angry if someone said I showed up to a meet with holes in My clothes and so on, so I'm not saying that you don't have a good reason to be upset.  I'm just saying it might not be as bad as it stings right now.

I'd actually be kind of surprised if everybody I ever met thought I'd be good play partner material for everybody they know.  I'm sure I don't rub everybody the right way or give some people the impression that I'm either too sadistic, too soft, or some other thing.  If that wasn't the case, everybody would be compatible with everybody else, wouldn't they?

Anyway, chin up.  It will pass.

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ORIGINAL: sofldan
After reading and considering what everyone is saying on the comments I added to my profile last night, I can see where it breeds negativity and thats really not the message I want to portray so it will be removed.

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ORIGINAL: ThundersCry

She does have the right to say whatever she wants...rather its right or wrong...

Welcome to *internet* meets...

Lose her number and move on...

Good luck next time(s)....it DOES take time...

Unless your me hahahahahahaha

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ORIGINAL: sofldan
I have come under attack by a person who shall remain nameless.