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sofldan -> I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 5:57:06 PM)

So I have come under attack by a person who shall remain nameless. This person has for some reason decided to drag my name through the mud and tell outright lies about me an who I am.  I met a certain person that I had been talking to for about a week this weekend for coffee and to chat in person. We chatted for over an hour at Starbucks and then decided to go hang out at a park and hang out and talk more. After another hour close to 2 hours of chatting in the park this person had to leave due to having prior arrangements somewhere else. When we said good bye she gave me two kisses and said I'll call you later.

She never called or replied to a couple texts later saying hi whats up? etc.
So today I find out from a friend that she had e-mailed my friend that:Anyways I met a mutual Fetlife friend  yesterday for lunch and lets just say if your considering playing or getting to know him I'm not entirely to sure he's your type. He showed up for our date with wholes in his clothes, and unless you want someone who weighs 350+ he's not your person.

So whatever not the first time its happened probably wont be the last. Upon finding out what she had said behind my back today I text-ed her and said for her to grow up. Her reply is that I had misled and lied to her about who I was. She also told some other lies that I am not getting into. I never lied about my being a large guy. In fact I had asked her bluntly the second time we talked if she had a problem with big guys because I am and that I did not want to waste her or my time. I do this with anyone I haven't met in person before because I know to some this is an issue. Secondly there were no "wholes", holes being misspelled in my clothes, my jeans were not ripped, nor was there ass hanging out of the back of my pants. And I even had a couple sprays of obsession on.

My pictures on my profile here and on cm are current and not Photoshopped. My profile on cm sofldan in the first paragraph I admit I am a big guy. I have never gone about trying to mislead anyone at any time and don't understand why I have come under attack by this person. I am big but 350+ is a great stretch. I don't judge people and don't talk bad about someone behind their back if I had something to say I tell them to their face. And she is no model or beauty queen and there is plenty that I could say. But I wont go to that level it's not appropriate and I don't judge by appearance, but on how a person acts publicly and privately.

So anyway I thought I would share this story and warn people that sometimes people are not who they say they are and will do whatever they can for shits and giggles.



DarkSteven -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:09:34 PM)

Yep.  It happens....



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:13:17 PM)

Yeah DS it does. Karmas a bitch though.



lizi -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:27:09 PM)

Hard to say what her motivation was in trashing you, after all she did spend a good deal of time with you. It would be nice if people were honest and upfront in their dealings with others, but obviously that doesn't always happen. Actually be glad that you found out what she was like right away and got away without investing too much time.



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:30:02 PM)

Yeah I dont get it either. But who knows the motivations of some people. Its a first for me and the more I have thought about it today the more pissed off I have become.



GreedyTop -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:31:44 PM)

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So anyway I thought I would share this story and warn people that sometimes people are not who they say they are and will do whatever they can for shits and giggles.


Not to be snarky or anything, but this was a lesson I learned as a teenager.

Sorry you had this experience.



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:35:16 PM)

Not snarky at all lol... just never had had this happen to me before and at 36 years old I guess I can say Ive been lucky? But I am infuriated by it because especially at this age you think people would have grown up a bit. Guess I have to much faith in humanity. Life goes on lesson learned.



smartsub10 -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:36:36 PM)

You have a very well written profile and sound like a nice guy.  Trust me, most women find that attractive.
As lizi said,  better that you found out what kind of person this woman is sooner rather than later.



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 6:45:56 PM)

Thanks I appreciate that. People who have actually gotten the chance to know me know who I am and my good and bad sides. But being that the meeting originated from this site and comments were flung on fl there really wasnt anywhere else I could go to vent my frustration about this. 



windchymes -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 7:37:12 PM)

Meh, you met a flakey female. Sounds like she's not worth the energy you're spending being angry at her. I mean, I don't blame you, but as you said, you were upfront about your looks (and it's not like you're a bridge troll or anything, lol) And whoever's in her circle of friends that she's texting isn't worth your time anyway.

I'm sure every one of us here has met a jerk at one time or another. Forget them. Onward and upward! :)



GreedyTop -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 7:38:18 PM)

yep, what Wyndie said!



windchymes -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 7:44:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sofldan

Thanks I appreciate that. People who have actually gotten the chance to know me know who I am and my good and bad sides. But being that the meeting originated from this site and comments were flung on fl there really wasnt anywhere else I could go to vent my frustration about this. 


Also, she's the one who's going to look like the twat over on Fetlife, not you. I would just continue whatever you do over there like nothing ever happened. If you stumble on a thread that she's yapping on, just quietly say something like, "I'm sorry I wasn't into you and we couldn't connect, but there's no need to be nasty." and leave it at that. She and her circle of harpies will shriek for awhile, but the rest of the group there will see who took the high road. [;)]



DarlingSavage -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 8:04:21 PM)

Obviously, it made her feel superior to do this kind of thing.  She must not have a very high self esteem.



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 8:09:41 PM)

Thanks ladies for the advice. It is what it is but once your names been drug thru the mud it kinda stays there and had to vent. I'm sure we all have heard the term his name is Mud? 



GreedyTop -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 8:12:17 PM)

DS!!! long time no see!! how are you?



windchymes -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 8:18:30 PM)


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ORIGINAL: sofldan

Thanks ladies for the advice. It is what it is but once your names been drug thru the mud it kinda stays there and had to vent. I'm sure we all have heard the term his name is Mud? 


Nah, a group of gossipy girls is not being drug through the mud. Have some faith that the smart people will see through her and know the difference. We do, you know [;)]

Remember Forrest Gump: Stupid is as stupid does. You take the high road and be respectable, let her keep showing her true colors. Actions speak louder than words.

If, as you said, you did nothing wrong, you're not in mud. Fetlife is a big pond and she's only a guppie. Now get back in there and win one for the gipper!



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 8:37:13 PM)

lol awesome post 10/10.



juliaoceania -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 8:44:45 PM)

I haven't met anyone like this yet, and I would hope I avoid such people.

It sounds like she dismissed someone who could have been at least a friend if it had not been for her shallowness and her desire to be a bitch.

You know what I say? Fuck her.... and not the good kind of fuck.



sofldan -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/6/2011 9:10:59 PM)

I have a couple people who are ex's that we remain friends to this date. Theres one in particular that I havent talked to in weeks that I especially miss. lol Im ok with something not having the spark or whatever when you meet. Im a grown man I can take a youre not my type and move on. But I usually leave the hey lets be friends door open, because having good friends in the community is always a plus, just because lady abc and i didnt connect doesnt mean lady xyz and I wont and who knows in this tight knit group of people lady abc might be the one to introduce me to lady xyz. Ive seen it happen and have done that with friends in the past, a good friend of mine when I was living in south fla I introduced her to her fiance but we had dated for a minute and it just wasnt going to work for several reasons.

anyway starting to really ramble but cant get myself to sleep.



fragilepieces -> RE: I guess it was gonna happen eventually (6/7/2011 5:19:19 AM)

quote:

I don't judge people
ORIGINAL: sofldan    It's funny you say this in your thread when this is posted on your profile: 

"If you are batty, nuts, insane, bi-polar, “off”, loony, “odd”, eccentric, bizarre, fanatical, mad, or any other form of crazy, please move on…

If you feel like you need therapy, a shrink, to be committed, put in the funny farm or any other assistance to get over the above mental ailments, please move on…"  

Just saying...




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