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RE: Speaking Protocols - 4/25/2011 10:40:09 PM

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i don't use speech restrictions. though when i'm tired of listening to her chatter i'll tell her to shut up. that usually lasts about 20 minutes at most.

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/1/2011 10:18:05 AM

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When owned i was only allowed to speak when spoken to by my MASTERS. If i needed to ask something of them i would kneel with my hands behind my back and wait for THEM to address me

In public,the same rules applied. Usually other MASTERS would ask permission first if THEY wanted to talk to me or if THEY just said something to me, i would wait for my MASTERS to say it was ok to reply

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/1/2011 12:05:59 PM

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Given every dynamic is different, I feel protocols, in general, are helpful in the beginning, and as time passes, the things that work stick and the other stuff just naturally falls away.

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/1/2011 12:41:04 PM

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For the most part I am a very low protocol person, to the point its practically nonexistent in both my relationships (both dom and sub).

However, I am old school enough to think every s-type should be trained in the strictest of high protocol as an important lesson in submission etiquette. There are two reasons for this: I want the s-type to routinely exceed my expectations in terms of protocol, no matter the occasion, and I tend to use protocol as you would a choke chain on a dog, it brings the s-type instantly to heel. Since I am very laid back as well as sarcastic in my humor, it tells the s-type I am soooo not kidding right now.

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/1/2011 1:15:19 PM

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This will sound strange but one of the few deal-breakers with me is that the woman has a good voice. For that reason I wouldn't expect a romantic interest to be silent on my command. If anything, I value actually speaking to one another like normal people or friends. Plus when they give that intentionally put on "sexy tone" well...nothing gets me more in the mood.

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/1/2011 11:18:22 PM

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You mean everyone doesn't keep her ball-gagged all the time?
Crikeys.
Weak ass weenies.

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/2/2011 10:41:47 AM

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Alandra and I have quite a few speach protocols that we are required to use on a daily basis. They can vary depending on the situation and where we are. A few of them are that we must use 'my Lord' to refer to him and must bookend statements to him with it. We also have to have him permission to express an opinion, give information or ask a question. We are required to face him when talking to him. We are not allowed to use absolutes and we are not allowed to speak inappropriately (and that includes tone of voice, posture and body expressions)

In a more formal setting we do not speak at all without express permission. This is where our hand signals are required; they are subtle and usually not noticed by anyone else. We also use the hand signals in more casual settings when certain behaviors are inappropriate to the situation, i.e. asking permission to leave his presence when one of our parents are around.

I love them and enjoy having them. For him, they are a way to facilitate effective communication. He is deaf to certain tones and he tends to tune out the world when he is engrossed in a project. Requesting permission to talk with him, allows him to decide when he wants to focus his attention on us. It has not once hampered our ability to communicate with him and in fact makes it so much better. We don't get frustrated that he is not listening because when he gives permission to talk, he is usually paying attention. It works so well, that just about all of the kids have picked up the hand signals so they can get his attention and talk to him.

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RE: Speaking Protocols - 5/2/2011 11:23:21 AM

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I'm encouraged to talk. Especially when I'm upset or need help. I tend not to because I don't want to be a bother. So if I'm in trouble with anything about talking it's usually because I didn't when I should have. There are a few things I'm not allowed to say though. I'm not allowed to say I'm sorry unless I did something *HE* thinks I need to apologize for. I think a million and one things I do are bad and wrong and blahblahblah and I'm not allowed to apologize for any of them because it's not something that upsets anyone else or that most people even notice. I'm also not allowed to say I'm fine when I'm not. I have health problems and tend to minimize things because they won't kill me so obviously they don't matter to anyone. But me being in pain matters to him so I get in trouble if I tell him I'm fine when I'm not. Same with I'm okay. Okay is ranked higher than fine though lol So it's possible to not be okay but to still be fine.

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