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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 10:37:25 AM

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*reads and then reminds self not to get on the lovely Lady L's bad side....

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 11:06:46 AM

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LOL... Yikes.. I did it again! To me it is just fact and response and I am a tough ass. Thus my soon to come new thread... lol

I could be in for some correction... god... I sometimes dread accountability! Yet, I hold others accountable, if they put themselves out there or involve me... I must hold myself accountable and refine myself as well.

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 11:35:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherbonds

It has been about 7 years since I have actively used collarme.com and have been browsing through the site the last few days to remember how to navigate the profiles. Unfortunately, I was flagged as sending out too many bulk mails because the only way I could access a person's entire profile was by sending a " friend request", which displays the profile. I didn't realize that the full profile is displayed off the bottom of the scroll down page BELOW the message and notes block. It is not intuitive to this site unless one is a regular user. Well, several people put a spam block on my profile and made unduly harsh comments.

Let me say that if you are that intolerant, in my opinion, you do not belong in this lifestyle! By definition, any alt lifestyle requires members exhibit patience and tolerance towards each other whether or not they are interested in meeting. Although some of the younger female members may feel overwhelmed by messages, your emotional immaturity is on display by the way you respond to any sort of message in your mail box, even though it was not truly a request to get to know you.

For me, I am attracted only to those whose actions don't betray their words and who can respond in an adult manner.

Well, you are only attracted to those whose actions don't betray their words and who can respond in an adult manner... and... who are 30 years younger than you, petite and with no emotional bagage.

Thank goodness my Master's preferences were different than yours. ;)

We all have our preferences.
Apparently some of the people you messaged preferred you to have not message them and perhaps had given indicators within their profiles that they did not see you as suitable to their needs.

Personally, I think blaming the site and the people in it because you did not take the time to re-familiarise yourself with which buttons were which has given you a great disadvantage.
Perhaps now that you got that out of your system you could recognise your own foibles, (it comes with the territory of being human I'm afraid), realise you got off on the wrong foot and begin again?

The buttons frustrated you and in your eagerness... .

Accept responsibility and move on happily; begin again.

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 3:47:55 PM

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I knew there was a reason I don't feel I belong in this "lifestyle".

I'm extremely impatient and intolerant of a lot of people.

Oh well...guess I'll just go to my corner and sulk.

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 6:10:54 PM

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Dude. You say in your profile that you are a strong and smart Dom. How does that square with being too impatient to use a scroll bar, and with whining about how this site is unfair to you, and that the women you spam aren't treating you nicely?

Sheesh.

Edited to add: We ARE in fact very tolerant here, but only of kink practices, not of poor manners.

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 6:26:29 PM

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OP, as many have said, we don't like when strangers send a friend request.

I delete every single one if I have not spoken to them or they did not introduce themselves to me.

You are a grown man; you cannot figure out how to contact people??

Finally, as if this needs to be reiterated yet again...this is a place full of people, doesn't matter about kink, just people and no one owes you an overwhelming amount of tolerance simply because we like BDSM.

Jeez.

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/25/2011 7:17:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherbonds

It has been about 7 years since I have actively used collarme.com and have been browsing through the site the last few days to remember how to navigate the profiles. Unfortunately, I was flagged as sending out too many bulk mails because the only way I could access a person's entire profile was by sending a " friend request", which displays the profile. I didn't realize that the full profile is displayed off the bottom of the scroll down page BELOW the message and notes block. It is not intuitive to this site unless one is a regular user. Well, several people put a spam block on my profile and made unduly harsh comments.

Let me say that if you are that intolerant, in my opinion, you do not belong in this lifestyle! By definition, any alt lifestyle requires members exhibit patience and tolerance towards each other whether or not they are interested in meeting. Although some of the younger female members may feel overwhelmed by messages, your emotional immaturity is on display by the way you respond to any sort of message in your mail box, even though it was not truly a request to get to know you.

For me, I am attracted only to those whose actions don't betray their words and who can respond in an adult manner.

Is the above quoted entry your example of your actions not betraying your words and practicing at replying in an adult manner, like you expect of others?

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RE: Patience and tolerance in the lifestyle - 1/26/2011 12:43:39 AM

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what is this 'lifestyle' you speak of, OP?

seriously, where is it written that just because I like to get my kink on, I have to like, be patient with, or tolerate everyone? Assholes are assholes, and I see no reason whatsoever that I should be patient with - or tolerate - them just because we share a fondness for kink.

Yeah, ditto. I'm not in any "lifestyle", I'm just kinky, and not very anymore.

I DO, however, live the drumming lifestyle. And the film-watching lifestyle. And when Spring springs, I'll spring into the Gardening lifestyle. Especially the day-lily-transplanting lifestyle. SO many masks to wear!

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