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RE: Question on responsibility - 12/31/2010 10:30:38 AM

LillyBoPeep

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i agree, it's difficult to say if you're not totally familiar with it.

i'm familiar with it and i have my own ideas on this person and his lack of responsibility.

Safewords only work if the person waiting for them actually LISTENS to them.

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RE: Question on responsibility - 12/31/2010 10:30:43 AM

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when everyone has responsibility no one is responsible

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i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

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RE: Question on responsibility - 12/31/2010 10:39:54 AM

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Oops, I reread mine and think that I may have been unclear. When I say that my other half has the ultimate responsibility, I mean from the topping standpoint. My responsibilities come in the form of knowing what I'm getting into, knowing the risks involved both from a physical standpoint, and the emotional side, doing everything I can to show him what's going on since I can't tell him, and letting him know of any problems as soon as I can afterwards. While things are happening, I have to trust him that he'll do his damnedest to make sure I'm ok, but I have to give him every bit of information I can to make that possible. Nothing is ever ALL HIS FAULT. The times he has pushed harder than I was able to handle came mostly from a lack of communication on my part.
Sadly, my other half is not in fact a god, and I've come to accept that I have a part in everything that happens.
Someone who thought they could walk away from any responsibility wouldn't be someone I'd be willing to play with.

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RE: Question on responsibility - 12/31/2010 10:49:00 AM

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When I 1st read this I was think, god two Dommes would just scare the hell out of me, one is plenty. But I would have to agree with many that it can go so many ways. So all that would have to be talked about in much detail before hand.

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RE: Question on responsibility - 12/31/2010 11:25:44 AM

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M is responsible for watching me if anyone else is involved. He's like a hawk. He might trust someone far enough to *do stuff* to me, but that's a far cry from relinquishing his usual attentiveness.
And yes, we would see it as His responsibility and my responsibility to be aware, as we are the two factors that are in tune and familiar. And we are also the pair that allowed the involvement of someone else.

Unless we knew someone for years in a fairly intimate manner, we simply wouldn't allow the co-topper to have the CHANCE to have responsibility, frankly.

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RE: Question on responsibility - 12/31/2010 1:45:33 PM

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I have to ask at times if she is *ok*...though I have known her for 20 years, she always submitted to me however I am not sure where her pain threshold is in certain areas...

She is willing to let me open my sadistic side ALL the way...finally! <eg> She will end up a pain slut....

Sometimes...I dont really care, its about me LOL

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