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RE: New to BDSM and a single mother - 12/22/2010 3:37:27 AM

LoveSparkie

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Do NOT allow ANY man to come into the lives of your children who may be abusive to them...just because you might think that is "sexy."

Why the FUCK would you think that I would think a man abusing my children would be "sexy". What the hell is wrong with you? Fuck you for even thinking that!

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RE: New to BDSM and a single mother - 12/22/2010 4:19:23 AM

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It really is no different than with any other guy you might date. Is he a good guy? Does he understand that your children's needs come first? Does he have any experience with children? Does he treat you well, with respect and caring?

Your children aren't going to see you crawl naked on the floor. They may see you give him his plate before you get yours, but they now see you give them their plates before you get yours, so there isn't any difference. What it comes down to is not what you do, but what kind of person he is. Your son will only learn that women are to be used and discarded if you pick a man who views women in that light. If however he appreciates how wonderful it is to have a partner who doesn't want to fight over who has to do what, and he shows that appreciation, then that is what your kids will learn.

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RE: New to BDSM and a single mother - 12/22/2010 4:36:34 PM

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I like DesFIP's post. Howe about pretending I intended to write exactly that, but she simply posted it first?

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RE: New to BDSM and a single mother - 12/22/2010 6:01:46 PM

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Do what is best for your kids. Don't get so caught up in what you want to experience that you forget they are priority #1.

Agreed completely.

However...

There are things that can be done with out the child even knowing what's going. There could be items worn under clothes, to the very clothes you'd be wearing. It doesn't need to be an overt control, just subtle reminders that keep that cloak of dominance around your shoulders. And keep your submissive mind present in your daily tasks. I think that's ultimately the goal with in a 24/7 total power exchange. As life has ways of interfering with our desires, it's all in how your dominant adapts and reacts to your needs so that you can tend to his.

I knew someone many moons ago, who was married to her master, had a couple of kids, and they initiated a code word when they were ready to engage in the power exchange after their kids were in bed.

I don't think your problem is that unique, but I would be weary of anyone who wanted to expose your child to this sort of lifestyle.

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RE: New to BDSM and a single mother - 12/22/2010 6:37:11 PM

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I like DesFIP's post. Howe about pretending I intended to write exactly that, but she simply posted it first?

Bad enough you go around stealing cookies, but now you're stealing my post!

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