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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 10:45:41 AM   
pahunkboy


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It is too stressful for me to read.

HUGS to you.   Big HUGS.

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 10:46:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		Actually I enjoy threads like this where people share and are not afraid to put it all out there.  It takes courage.

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 10:53:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Actually I enjoy threads like this where people share and are not afraid to put it all out there.  It takes courage.


Ordinarily- I would too.    I have alot of stress tho lately.   Alot of personal stuff to go thru.    Overwhelming to me.   Extra blood pressure pill stuff.  

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 11:19:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		The key focus is to stay positive.

Mental Stress with the onslaught of illness can really compound people into a blabbering mess.

Go to a therapist, psychologist and get some real therapy work done. It may seem like six months in the present but in the mind it can last years. I would also imagine that your levels of compassion are severely low since you were taking care of your mother for half a year.

Some wish the glass was perfect and unbroken.
Some wish for no glass.
Some wonder if it is worth the effort to repair.
Some settle for cracks and breaks to the shards.
Some just replace the glass but it is never the same.
Yes a fleeting heart is like glass, delicate and sharp.

I hope you turn this around 180.



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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 11:45:06 AM   
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One of them actually told me I depressed HER since I had so many issues. Of course, I reported her.



Red, I actually laughed at that.  Sorry, but the alternative was crying.



I know, it sounds funny, but to clarify, it was not issues per se, as much as multiple life problems (job loss, break up, health, etc.). I find that many therapists want to go back over your entire life to analyze why you are upset, as opposed to responding situationally to help someone through a trying time. These therapists are not equipped to help someone cope; they are not comfortable when you know WHY you are down, they would rather look back to your childhood when the tools you need are based in the here and now.

That is why I would go to a grief support group as opposed to a therapist. Also, psychiatrists just prescribe meds, which don't work for everyone.

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 12:26:27 PM   
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That is why I would go to a grief support group as opposed to a therapist. Also, psychiatrists just prescribe meds, which don't work for everyone.


Therapists are not one sized fit all.
Many therapists do grief work and do it well.
The key is to ask questions before you sign up.
We hire therapists and can fire them.

Also, some psychiatrists just prescribe meds.
Some psychiatrists do therapy where appropriate.
Some psychiatrists do both and research proves that in cases in which medication is a necessity, medication plus therapy works better than medication alone.

A good psychiatrist will look at the whole person and will either be in touch with the person's regular physician or if that is not an option will run bloodwork to rule out medical causes for symptoms.
For example, thyroid iimbalances and diabetes can both present symptoms similar to that of depression.

Appointments with my psychiatrist involved a note pad more than a prescription pad and when an issue came up that concerned her, she called my medical doctor with my permission in my presence.

Information on how to select a therapist for those that might be interested:
http://mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/ken98-0046/default.asp

http://www.psybersquare.com/winner/find_therapist_index.html

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 12:56:49 PM   
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psychiatrists just prescribe meds, which don't work for everyone.


This is not always the case.  Mine always did more than med checks.  His practice deals with a lot of children and he did a lot of observation as part of his practice.


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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/6/2010 1:02:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Actually I enjoy threads like this where people share and are not afraid to put it all out there.  It takes courage.


I second that, Katy.

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/21/2010 8:47:30 PM   
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Thanks for responding. I hadnt been back because its beyond difficult for me to talk about it or hear about it. Hell I stopped talking to my Mom's best friend, cos its just too hard for me. Yes I've become a recluse. No I dont care.

With Hospice there is a year you have to go to grief counseling. My year is up in Dec. I just dont want to talk about it. I hate talking about it. Talking about is the same as living it again and I barely made it through the first time. I simply made it through, so my mother could die in peace. So she wouldnt worry. It was probably the last words I spoke to her. "Dont worry Mom." Cos she knows its like ripping out my soul.

I didnt really mean to create a post and jet. I just couldnt get myself to come back and see the responses. I had several wonderful ppl send me emails and while I tried to read and respond, it got too hard. I'll have to get back to that as well.

I am not alone anymore. Which is good. Seems good. Though I cant talk about it to him (or just out loud in general) either. But he's here. He wont let me be miserable all day. As annoying as it is, he makes sure I eat. And if for some reason I lose my grip on sanity and walk off the deep end, there is some one here for the young ones. Not that I'm planning on walking off the deep end... but ya never know. Stress kills.

So much easier to ignore all of it. To actually seek out talking about it. I dont see how that'll help as 5 min into the convo I'm sure I'll be bawling hysterically. So, yeah, this is hard. But it's something. Perhaps in a few years when I can actually digest that A) it is possible for to die B) she really did die and C) I can handle it - I'll talk to ppl.

It still floats in my brain. How the hell did that happen? How is it possible? She was so full of life. So in control of her life. She was Mom, she was the calvary, she was everything and to see in my memories her wasting away... falling apart... dying... just doesnt fucking add up. I just dont get it. And this is usually the point of my thinking where I want to start screaming.

See talkings no good

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RE: Need a little help dealing with insanity - 9/22/2010 6:55:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow...that is very heartbreaking to read. I feel so badly for you. There are no magic words to help you feel better.

I am very close to my mother and I am sure I would feel the same. At least you have someone to help you and you have young ones in your life.

I am sending you good thoughts.

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