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OwnedFreedom -> New to this (8/24/2010 9:39:52 PM)

I'm sure you have heard it a million times now. Yes I'm new...yes I'm young...and yes I'll be damned if I'm not serious. Lets cut to the point. I know many people look at the young of my generation, when they enter into the path of BDSM and think "Psh another teen jerk off looking for Kicks in a place they don't know anything about." -I KNOW- This is not true to every one. I'm not here to smash about how people think I'm to young. I don't care and really neither should you. As long as I'm over 18 anything is golden sexually with in limits of course. All of this being said, I'm done ranting.

I am new to the society even though I have been on Collar me for around a year now. I know there are fun and wonderful people here. I also know this is a breeding ground for the money thirsty. Namely Cam Models and Financial Doms...Which I don't see the point of...how do you get anything sexually from a person you keep forking over money to and not getting anything in return. Maybe its just me. SO really CM is six of one half dozen of the other. I am dead serious about who I am...where I am...and how I am..Right now I'm more or less looking for a teacher. Some one to teach me the basics for I know there is no one set way. I know I will have to find my own path...I also know its not a game I can just rush in with a whip and start beating on the nearest hot bod I see. I know there is a focus on safety..Also I'm looking for some one to learn with not much of a dom if I don't have a sub. Thank you for your time and sorry for any possible disrespect.

-Al



ResidentSadist -> RE: New to this (8/24/2010 9:42:50 PM)

Having insecurity issues?  



OwnedFreedom -> RE: New to this (8/24/2010 9:45:44 PM)

By standards no...I'm rather secure/always on the IRC Channels..just looking to get the rest of my body in the door that my foot is already inside of.



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: New to this (8/24/2010 10:07:05 PM)

I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but them sure are some pretty lips you got there. Hmmm, not sure there's a right way to say that, but it needed saying.

Ok, now that I have that out of the way. Hello and welcome to the forums. Have you looked into any TNG groups in your area? That might be a good way to get out and meet some kinky people in your age group.

good luck and best wishes

WinD



dreamerdreaming -> RE: New to this (8/24/2010 10:52:25 PM)

HI CUTIE!  [:D]

Welcome to the forums!

Explore, and have FUN! 

[sm=flowers.gif]



Ayamuz -> RE: New to this (8/24/2010 11:26:23 PM)

Fairly new to the lifestyle myself, and while I haven't had much of the oh it's another young clueless guy, I have noticed there are a lot of people who have been doing this longer then ive been alive. I am lucky though in that those same people are willing to give advice to me, as a lot of what I know is intellectual with no practical experience. That said check out your local community and keep introducing yourself to people and you should be able to find what your looking for, I would also second the TNG groups, I have found them to be great, at least in my area.



DarkSteven -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 2:08:22 AM)

Alex, here are a few suggestions:

1. Drop your main pic.  It doesn't look Domly and even looks a bit feminine.
2. Remove the "adopted son of pantera" from your profile.  I have no idea what that means and is either an allusion to some fantasy world or else a serious breach of privacy.  Neither one is good.
3. Remove "In most of my spare time" from "In most of my spare time I like to Role Play as well as occasionally write Erotic Literature."  With it in, it sounds like you spend hours of time online doing this, i.e., that online is your life.
4. The computer stuff is VERY good.  It shows that you have goals and an agenda for yourself.  At your age, that's important so you don't seem drifting.

I second WinD's suggestion of TNG groups (isn't she smart!).



dreamerdreaming -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 2:24:48 AM)

I CM'd you, because I liked your profile so much. I think this pic should be your main one. I just think its awesome.

[image]local://upfiles/522953/7415AEF914C943A19AA5BADE3F99C82B.jpg[/image]



PeanutTigerinBox -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 2:29:36 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Alex, here are a few suggestions:

1. Drop your main pic.  It ... looks a bit feminine.


wha??? [8|]

we wimmens look like that???

Stevie you better get your eyes checked [>:]

[sm=welcomewave.gif] on board OwnedFreedom [:)]



DesFIP -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 4:06:43 AM)

I thought the op was feminine.

OP, you don't need a teacher. You need someone to explore with. Date, be honest with your dating partners as to what interests you. If you have chemistry with someone and they're also curious, then try things together. Not to mention that you aren't likely to find a ton of experienced subs your age willing to submit and teach a newbie. Do go to the TNG meetings to make friends and learn.



OwnedFreedom -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 5:06:35 AM)

Thanks guys I'll take all of that into account and reedit my stuff a little later. Constructive criticism is a good thing :D



OwnedFreedom -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 5:16:35 AM)

Alright main pic changed, no idea why its not working on the forums yet, Profile rewritten to some degree dropped the necessary things as suggested. Later I might go for a full rewrite after I get some down time from work (Work at home as you might know so its easy enough) Thanks guys...if anyone knows ho to change the forum pictures pleas tell me. Also I took dreamers advice of adding that as my main pic. As for TNG I might need some help getting pointed in a good direction...maybe looking into it on Fetlife as well since they are widely group based. for now

-Ciao and thanks.



mnottertail -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 5:19:49 AM)

Takes time for the servers to find and go update all your posts.



OwnedFreedom -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 6:16:39 AM)

Oh, that makes sense. Thank you.



texangael -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 6:50:03 AM)

Your profile talks a lot about your life, but says nothing about you.

You're 19.  Legally, you are a man.  Very well, then, what manner of man are you?

Are you like Conagher, whose prime credo is "when I take a man's money I ride for the brand"?

Are you like Flint, a complete predator?

The question is not just "who are you?" but also "what are you?"



OwnedFreedom -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 10:12:37 AM)

I'm in the process of updating the profile. I think I might have gone about this whole thing wrong.



horizonz -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 10:23:32 AM)

Hello and welcome!  Good luck with the profile update, I also had to update my profile recently-- and now it's covered in some strange code [:@]! 

Best wishes on finding the teacher you seek.



texangael -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 10:35:42 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: OwnedFreedom

I'm in the process of updating the profile. I think I might have gone about this whole thing wrong.

It's always wrong until you find that one magic slave who can't wait to be yours.....and after that it doesn't matter! [;)]



ResidentSadist -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 11:58:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OwnedFreedom

By standards no...I'm rather secure/always on the IRC Channels..just looking to get the rest of my body in the door that my foot is already inside of.

Forgive me if I mistook your good manners for something else, the OP seemed almost apologetic.  Seems you have found a warm welcome here.  Best wishes.  



leadership527 -> RE: New to this (8/25/2010 12:06:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: OwnedFreedom
I'm in the process of updating the profile. I think I might have gone about this whole thing wrong.
Not a bad profile. Were it me, I'd get rid of the cheesy test at the end. Someone writes to me and they either have something useful to say or they do not. Reading my profile certainly increases their chances of saying something relevant but it's not mandatory. Why not simply evaluate messages on the basis of the message? You'd also have done well to avoid the rant in the OP... such things seldom go over well. On the other hand, I admire the self-assuredness with which you can state that you are new and learning.

Other than that, welcome to collarme and good luck. I'm not going to be able to help you much in your topping skills though, that's outside of my interest and knowledge. I'd assume that your best bet there is a local munch.



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