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sexyred1 -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 3:46:50 PM)

I always say I think online sex, online domination, online romance, is an oxymoron. IF that is your only outlet for those things.

I do not believe for a nanosecond that any of that works online when you HAVE NOT MET IN REAL LIFE.

Chemistry can only truly be discerned when meeting in the flesh. You can, of course, after meeting and digging each other, have hot, hot, hot phone sex, or sexting, or emailing, etc. But only after you met and did it in real time.

I understand that some people believe in long distance relationships and have proven them to work for themselves, but for me, if I am not meeting you in person, I am not doing anything else with you online or the phone.



Mistletoe -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 3:50:05 PM)

 
quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

You can, of course, after meeting and digging each other, have hot, hot, hot phone sex, or sexting, or emailing, etc. But only after you met and did it in real time.



I wish I had said that!



AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 3:52:18 PM)

No.

QSM



DomImus -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 4:54:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?


I never started out/never have done online but even if it were suddenly were the only option I doubt that I would consider it. There are certain things in my life that are adaptable to circumstance and other that must be done a certain way. For me, bdsm falls into the latter category.



domiguy -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 4:58:56 PM)

Hot, hot phone sex is incredibly limitating. I like to do the wild thing.

If she wants online...

Say what
Yo love you must be kidding
You're walkin' babe
Just break out of here
Hasta la vista baby

Wild thing



sexyred1 -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 5:15:38 PM)

Hot hot phone sex is only limitating to a Dominate.

It is however, limiting to a Dominant.

[;)]



thishereboi -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 5:16:48 PM)

I started learning online, but basically quit when I met some people and started going to munches. I could never understand the draw to online and I doubt I would ever have a relationship that never left the net. 



sublizzie -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 5:51:43 PM)

I started on-line but quickly realized it was just not enough. I don't see ever going back to on-line only. I'd rather have nothing then to feel as empty as an on-line only relationship makes me feel.



littlewonder -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 6:37:02 PM)

I've have never done online only. I just never could get into it. I need to feel and touch in person. I need to see the flesh to get any kind of interest whatsoever in anyone.

So no I could never...go back.



switchingcrone -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 7:11:28 PM)

one word no



BKSir -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 7:20:04 PM)

Could I do so?  Yes.  Would I be happy/satisfied?  No, I wouldn't, and I'm not.  But, patience is a virtue, and for now, I must be virtuous... at least in THAT manner.  Which is good, because it's all the virtue anyone is getting from me. ;)



pattayonacracker -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 7:33:59 PM)

Even to a relatively new person in this lifestyle, doing the online thing, just isnt going to cut it for me.
i crave the touch, the sound of His voice and the scent of Him as He comes near me.
i need the real thing, not to say that those who can only have online is not real.
dont want to get bashed for that.
but i nead the human factor that you can not get from a keyboard.
i dont think that i would be as far along as i am, and man-o-man have i got a way to go,
but i really doubt that i would have gotten this far being online.



Selinda -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 7:54:05 PM)

I found wiitwd back in the days of alt.sex.bondage, but even then my participation was in discussions, never cybersex. Both phone sex and cybersex are just too far removed from the actuality of another's touch. I imagine that if life took away all of my physical play options I'd continue, as I do now, to spout off in discussions about wiitwd without ever being tempted to try recreating it online. 



camille65 -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/21/2010 7:58:52 PM)

FR

If I had to then yes. If I had no way to live a real life with BDSM then I'd go back to substituting with online BDSM.

It wouldn't be an active choice though, it would be more of a last resort thing.



Twoshoes -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/22/2010 12:14:44 AM)

I've never done online cybering or online relationships and I don't intend to try.

I can write a fantasy down, but pretending to be interracting with someone wouldn't work for me. I get most of my fun out of watching someone's reactions more than anything else. I don't mind vanilla sex or just rough sex so not really worried.



ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/22/2010 1:23:45 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This is in direct relation to another thread on the forums.

There are a number of folks who get interested in wiitwd first by doing so online.  Many of them move to the physical (meaning in the same room) participation of BDSM.

My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?



Never. I would never have the least bit of interest in "online" D/s. D/s is about real time, real life personal connection with someone I love and want to be with.

Hell, i don't even know what online D/s  is. It sounds about as emotionally satisfying as watching television, and I hate television.



phoenixmoonn13 -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/22/2010 1:29:29 AM)

having only been online at the begining now i have rl i couldnt go back to online. saying that however if it was the only way then who knows but as we are happy inlove and deeply commited its not an issue



StrangerThan -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/22/2010 5:19:14 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This is in direct relation to another thread on the forums.

There are a number of folks who get interested in wiitwd first by doing so online.  Many of them move to the physical (meaning in the same room) participation of BDSM.

My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?



Simple answer.

No.

That, in no way, derides anyone involved in online relationships. If I were to step back however, it would be from relationships in general.



BonesFromAsh -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/22/2010 6:52:28 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact


My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?



Haven't really participated in anything D/s or bdsm related online, so I guess there's nothing for me to go "back" to. There's nothing for me to go "forward" to either, in that regard.

I've never quite understood how the whole online thing works anyway. I use this site, and Fet, as a way to meet people and find out about events...not as a way to live my life.

Just my opinion, though.



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Could You Take A Step Back (8/22/2010 7:10:23 AM)

My one attempt at online Ds went like this:

Domidude: Ok girl, turn on your webcam
Moi: I don't have a webcam
Domidude: No problem, I'll just turn on mine so you can see me.
Moi: Ok then
Domidude: See that cock? That's you stroking that cock. Now suck it.
Moi: Um, (insert baffled expression here) Seriously?
domidude: ohh yeah, that's the way I like it, you have such a hot wet mouth. (I guess he figured the umm was me typing with a mouthfull?)
Moi: Umm thanks?
domidude: Put yoru clover clamps on yoru nipples, slut.
Moi: I don't have clover clamps.
domidude: Now tug on the chain. I want to see you squirm. That's a good girl (said while he's busy humping his hand)
Moi: Yeah, about that (insert amused but exasperated sigh) never mind
domidude: What color are your panties?
Moi: Not wearing any, sorry.
domidude: excellent, now pull them dowwn so I can see your naked ass.
Moi: Yeah, I'll get right on that.
domidude: good girl.
domidude: Spank that ass girl. That's my hand on your ass.
Moi: (watching TV, not even paying close attention anymore )
domidude: That's a good girl. You like that don't you.


So, to answer Lady Pact, I'd have to say a big fat no thank you on that whole online thing.



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