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Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 11:42:40 AM   
LadyPact


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There are a number of folks who get interested in wiitwd first by doing so online.  Many of them move to the physical (meaning in the same room) participation of BDSM.

My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?


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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 11:49:46 AM   
leadership527


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact
My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?

I would go back to "online only" if I had an online-only relationship with a slave personality. Otherwise, I'd just go back to vanilla. While I enjoy owning Carol a great deal, owning my partner is not a necessary or even terribly important part of how I would evaluate a relationship.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:08:22 PM   
StrongSpirit


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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:11:33 PM   
myotherself


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I did online for a month or so right at the beginning, but finished it because I didn't get enough out of it.

If for some reason I couldn't find a dominant man to be with, I'd either stay single or just try to find someone who is alpha enough for me to want to be with.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:18:44 PM   
wandersalone


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Status: offline 		The only way I would do this would be if the person I was seeing moved away for some reason and we decided to stay together (eg. working elsewhere temporarily).  I crave touch way to much to be able to have an online relationship which would never proceed to real life meetings. 

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:29:34 PM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		I got into this before I had tinternet... nah online only wouldn't do it for me at all.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:31:54 PM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		No, but . . .
I went to Australia to meet a prospective pup who was a complete no-hoper in bed, despite months of RT trying get it right: lick there, do this, suck that was completely beyond him. To my surprise, and because of the solid base of humour and mutual interests that attracted us in the first place, we've remained mates in the buddy sense for years. He knows I date/fuck other men and we meet up again when I'm over there, with his completely respecting that I'll never touch him sexually again. he's never touched another woman, despite my encouragement for him to date. I've spoilt the poor boy!

And because I'm no longer interested in him sexually, I'm not interested in cyberdomming him, either.

Part of the reason I need local: long distance is TOO long!

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:48:08 PM   
juliaoceania


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This is in direct relation to another thread on the forums.

There are a number of folks who get interested in wiitwd first by doing so online.  Many of them move to the physical (meaning in the same room) participation of BDSM.

My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?



I was not satisfied with online, so why would I be satisfied going back to it?

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 12:52:55 PM   
kallisto


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact



My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?




Simply put, no maam.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 1:20:44 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		Absolutely not. If they can't do real life, then they're gonna have to do online with someone else, cause I am NOT willing to do online only.
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This is in direct relation to another thread on the forums.

There are a number of folks who get interested in wiitwd first by doing so online.  Many of them move to the physical (meaning in the same room) participation of BDSM.

My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?



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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 1:27:48 PM   
Wolf2Bear


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

This is in direct relation to another thread on the forums.

There are a number of folks who get interested in wiitwd first by doing so online.  Many of them move to the physical (meaning in the same room) participation of BDSM.

My question on this is really simple.  If you have participated, in the flesh, so to speak, could you be happy/satisfied going back to online only?



No. Having participated in off line kink playing combined with many aspects of D/s dynamics over the past few years, going back to strictly online BDSM is not an option. After experiencing the intense rush of endorphins and the satisfaction of being able to serve another, online dynamics fail to achieve what I I have engaged in and continue to pursue.


< Message edited by Wolf2Bear -- 8/21/2010 1:29:22 PM >

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 1:33:59 PM   
MistressLavinia


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Status: offline 		I don't think I could ever domme online. I have never done it, but I'm pretty positive I couldn't. One of the biggest things for me, is touch, and looking directly into my subs eyes, I can't see myself as satisfied at all with online domination.



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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 1:44:05 PM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Life is always about moving forward.... Anyone who can be content going backwards at *anything* was out of their depth to begin with.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 1:50:31 PM   
Wheldrake


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Status: offline 		Well, I never like to say never. Maybe it's just possible that there's someone out there who could use words and images in such a compelling way, and come up with such scary and interesting torments for me to inflict on myself, that submitting to her online would be as satisfying as submission in the flesh. Or maybe in a few decades some artificial intelligence genius will even write a computer programme capable of dominating a human being to that standard. However, these are really just theoretical possibilities. More realistically, interaction in the flesh is always going to be essential.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 2:02:52 PM   
SorceressJ


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Status: offline 		What Lavinia said, plus the fact that, for Me, online feels too much like a game and not the real thing. If I wanted that, I'd go play WoW or something..
P.S. I've recently made a fairly promising new connection that only lives an hour from Me. We use online to keep in daily touch because he works long hours for a living, as a practical aspect. This is the only context in which I personally would find 'online' to be of any relevance. Just sayin'..

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 2:17:20 PM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		I coudn't either, but online has always only been a tool as the phone is for me. So, in that regards, the internet is just dandy.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 2:26:28 PM   
lally2


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Status: offline 		on-line for me is this, here, boards and chit chat.  .

i dont see the point of having a man on the other side of a screen who i cant touch and cuddle up to at night - i just dont see how that wouldnt get massively frustrating and in the end pretty isolating and lonely.  id need him physically and after a while that would just eat away at me and id lose heart.

but also surely it takes up hours of time IMing and huge phone bills and for what - a wank on youre own and maybe a bit of self abuse with a paddle -  - id sooner curl up with the cat and a bar of choccy and watch a movie

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 2:42:26 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		If my life where in the same or similar place that it was years ago I might again be in an online relationship. I did not find it completely satisfactory way back then however one takes what one can get at times. I do have to say that I can not see my real time life being what it was 7 years ago either.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 3:23:31 PM   
soulfulessence


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Status: offline 		I want the physical part a relationship. So online only is out for me. I will admit in the beginning of coming into the lifestyle I did online only but as I grew and discovered more about myself I want more than what an online relationship could offer me.

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RE: Could You Take A Step Back - 8/21/2010 3:42:22 PM   
Mistletoe


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Status: offline 		There is no way that online domination is going to work for me. I tried it and after being with a Dom partner physically ...online sex only it is a waste of time as far as I am concerned. Being online is just another tool I use to meet people I might not ever meet.

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