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ORIGINAL: switch2please

Hi there  :)   hoping for advice...

A good friend was brutally dumped by his girlfriend. They've been dating intermittently for almost ten years, and every now and then she decides to break up and see if the grass really IS greener on the other side. She's fun and gorgeous and wild and slightly unstable, and while it's this instability that makes her shake up the relationship, it's also exactly her unpredictable spontaneous nature that he adores the most. He is absolutely mad about her and is really torn up.

The worst part - to my mind - is, I think this will play out the same way as last time: she'll go out and have her fun while he's an absolute mess, she'll instigate a couple of booty calls, and when she's reminded herself that the grass may be greener but it's usually astroturf (excuse my metaphor) and my friend is imperfect but the real deal...she will come back, play the repentant and lovestruck girlfriend for a month, they'll fall back into routine, and the cycle begins anew.

I want to help him, but I don't know what I can do - and I've never exactly been accused of being sensitive. I'm going over tonight to talk and write and draw (we both emote best on paper). I'm blunt so I'm bound to tell him what I think about the situation, but what can I SAY that might make him feel better?
In this situation, what would you want to hear?

Thank you for reading,
       M

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ORIGINAL: switch2please

Hi there  :)   hoping for advice...

A good friend was brutally dumped by his girlfriend. They've been dating intermittently for almost ten years, and every now and then she decides to break up and see if the grass really IS greener on the other side. She's fun and gorgeous and wild and slightly unstable, and while it's this instability that makes her shake up the relationship, it's also exactly her unpredictable spontaneous nature that he adores the most. He is absolutely mad about her and is really torn up.

The worst part - to my mind - is, I think this will play out the same way as last time: she'll go out and have her fun while he's an absolute mess, she'll instigate a couple of booty calls, and when she's reminded herself that the grass may be greener but it's usually astroturf (excuse my metaphor) and my friend is imperfect but the real deal...she will come back, play the repentant and lovestruck girlfriend for a month, they'll fall back into routine, and the cycle begins anew.

I want to help him, but I don't know what I can do - and I've never exactly been accused of being sensitive. I'm going over tonight to talk and write and draw (we both emote best on paper). I'm blunt so I'm bound to tell him what I think about the situation, but what can I SAY that might make him feel better?
In this situation, what would you want to hear?

Thank you for reading,
      M

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ORIGINAL: switch2please

They do have an open relationship, and the three of us were quite close when B and I were open and I was enjoying experimenting with poly. She just needs to be alone and do something crazy sometimes. I can understand since I do this too - not as dramatically, but sometimes I just need to be myself and I won't see or talk to B for a week. I like space.