mistoferin
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I organize quite a good number of BDSM events and parties. There is a lot of work involved in pulling off a good party, not just in the planning stages but at the event itself. What I have been finding lately is that I am so busy keeping up on everything that must be done that I don't have time to relax/play/enjoy the event myself.
I remember a time when at a party or event, it seemed like every submissive in attendance would come at some point and say "Is there anything I can do to help?". It was kind of simple, common courtesy. This seems to be something that no longer just happens. Yes, there are always a few, usually the older submissives or submissives that have been around awhile that can be counted on to help out. It also seemed that dominants used to instruct their submissives to offer to help out too.
Now don't misunderstand me, I don't believe that what I am seeing is some sort of "intentional slacking", it seems to be more of a generational thing. I notice the same thing at family gatherings...as teenagers we were always expected to help and clean up and such....now the teenagers all wander off to groups to watch tv, socialize or play video games. So I am thinking that it is more likely to be just the way we are raised. Also, it may indeed be very possible that while there may be a desire on their part to help, they simply don't really know what to do.
I don't really feel comfortable dictating to people, "Hey, you have to do this or that" and I don't want to get on the wrong side of any dominants who may feel I have overstepped my bounds by telling their submissive to do something. So I've been tossing around a few ideas to try to get everyone on board. As you all know, many hands make light work. I am not expecting anyone to do major jobs, just little things. But when only one or two people are trying to do ALL of the little things, well, the job can be overwhelming.
One of the ideas I have been toying with is to make a list of duties that need to be done and asking if people would please sign on to a duty they might like to do. Small things like "Please keep an eye on trash cans so they don't overflow" or "Every couple of hours check the bathroom to be sure there are fresh towels and toilet paper...maybe wipe down the sink" or "Keep an eye to make sure food is covered and bowls are kept full".
The other idea is asking if a few people would sign on for certain blocks of time to make sure things stay running smoothly and supplies are readily available and stocked.
So my questions to you all are:
"Would you be offended if asked to pitch in just a little?"
"Do you think that either of the ideas I've mentioned would work well in practice or do you feel that it would be imposing and presumptious?'
and...
"Do you have any suggestions? If you organize parties or events, how do YOU get people involved in helping out?"
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Question for BDSM event/party organizers - 
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I don't get out much these days, but every now and then I get the urge to make a party or event. 
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