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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:43:24 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		I found your op well written and amusing!  I too wonder at what some people are thinking when it ccomes to their expectations.

I'm not looking, but I went through a period of wondering what exactly did I realistically have to offer anyone else, and took myself off the market until I feel that I DO realistically have something to offer in a relationship.

Best wishes in your search.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:47:23 PM   
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Guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of trailer parks that demand a woman who knows her place.




Yew gunna be mine! Now git yer butt down heah, and git to obeyin'!

< Message edited by Level -- 6/27/2010 12:48:37 PM >

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:47:49 PM   
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I don't want somebody that's going to be turning me down every 5 minutes like my ex husband used to do. 


For the love of God, make sure that your ex goes to a shrink to see what's wrong with him.  And an eye doctor as well.



I dunno, I like sex, a lot, but sometimes I'm not in the mood, and if she keeps asking every 5 minutes I imagine I'd get kind of grouchy.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:49:32 PM   
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I'm not sure that all the young naive girls will bite at what the older trailer park guy is offering. The fact that they're looking for it doesn't mean it's likely to happen. It may just mean they're delusional


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Guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of trailer parks that demand a woman who knows her place


I can only imagine the outcry if someone had just written something about "older ghetto guys" or "guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of the ghetto housing project." Oh, the hypocrisy.

I know I'm the lone voice in the wildnerness here but I happen to like "trailer park" guys AND girls Damn, those trailer park girls are hot and the "Stanley Kowalski" types I've known often lived in trailers. Ooooh, the animal magnetism. Give it a try............luci


More power to you.  I think the issue the OP and others have with trailer park guys, which would also apply to ghetto guys, is that they are lower income.  Being a lower income guy is like being a fat woman.  Some people like it, but it's generally considered unattractive.



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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:51:34 PM   
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Thanks, you always know how to lighten the mood........luci

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:51:52 PM   
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Guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of trailer parks that demand a woman who knows her place.

Yew gunna be mine! Now git yer butt down heah, and git to obeyin'!

What worries me about that image is that I'm sure that toilet isn't connected to anything.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:52:58 PM   
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Level.......



Thanks, you always know how to lighten the mood........luci


Yep, Level's sense of humor, and talent for finding just the right picture is a valuable public service! 

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:53:02 PM   
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More power to you.

Thanks!
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I think the issue the OP and others have with trailer park guys, which would also apply to ghetto guys, is that they are lower income.  Being a lower income guy is like being a fat woman.  Some people like it, but it's generally considered unattractive.

As I do not wish to derail this interesting thread, I'm not touching those gems with a 10 ft. pole...........luci

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:54:35 PM   
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SL, that's one of the slave's chores, she's under there "playing catch"

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:55:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SL4V3M4YB3

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Guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of trailer parks that demand a woman who knows her place.

Yew gunna be mine! Now git yer butt down heah, and git to obeyin'!

What worries me about that image is that I'm sure that toilet isn't connected to anything.

Yeah, don't mean to sound like a snob or anything, but indoor plumbing is kinda a hard limit for me.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:57:42 PM   
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WinD:

Yep, Level's sense of humor, and talent for finding just the right picture is a valuable public service!


Thanks, beautiful

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 12:59:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think one of the many problems people have is in their expectations of a partner. I don't agree that as you get older you lose the ability to attract and should settle instead of keep your preferences.

The biggest issue today in finding someone is opportunity and communication. Oh, and luck.

I get tons and tons of emails here and on other sites. I have dated a bunch of people after my ex. People are constantly asking me how I could be single. It seems to mystify them that an attractive, intelligent woman could be single.

They never understand it is because I have not met the next right guy for me. It has nothing to do with age, looks, money, etc. It has to do with compatibility.

My last relationship was 13 years younger than me and gorgeous. He still thinks I am 13 years later but so what? We don't connect anymore on any level other than sexually.

I know after trial and error in relationships that I need someone exactly on the same page as me in what we BOTH desire in a full fledged relationship.

And it will not matter if he is older, younger, gorgeous, plain, rich, poor. I only care if we have chemistry and compatibility for the long term. I do need smart, self aware, sense of humor and easy going though; that is a must.

I don't even think like the OP in that I don't see myself as having to settle just because I got older.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 1:10:33 PM   
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I think one of the many problems people have is in their expectations of a partner. I don't agree that as you get older you lose the ability to attract and should settle instead of keep your preferences.

The biggest issue today in finding someone is opportunity and communication. Oh, and luck.

I get tons and tons of emails here and on other sites. I have dated a bunch of people after my ex. People are constantly asking me how I could be single. It seems to mystify them that an attractive, intelligent woman could be single.

They never understand it is because I have not met the next right guy for me. It has nothing to do with age, looks, money, etc. It has to do with compatibility.

My last relationship was 13 years younger than me and gorgeous. He still thinks I am 13 years later but so what? We don't connect anymore on any level other than sexually.

I know after trial and error in relationships that I need someone exactly on the same page as me in what we BOTH desire in a full fledged relationship.

And it will not matter if he is older, younger, gorgeous, plain, rich, poor. I only care if we have chemistry and compatibility for the long term. I do need smart, self aware, sense of humor and easy going though; that is a must.

I don't even think like the OP in that I don't see myself as having to settle just because I got older.


I don't think settling is what I would call it.  However I do think that as we age our expectations and desires should change.  I know what I am seeking now is different than what I was looking for in my 20's.  It is also important to take into account what sort of people we are likely to attract and recognize when the sort of people we are desiring don't fall into that category.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 1:37:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Picky picky. Ok. How about ghetto guy, or person living in his moms basement, ect.
Sorry to be blunt, but around here trailer parks are mostly falling apart dwellings that are no longer up to code. There are trailer parks, and there are mobile homes, Mobile Home parks here look as if they were built on solid foundations.
I am not PC, nor do I have wish to join the ranks to satisfy someone else.

What should one put in, in its place? And do you plan to help out changing society, comedians, ect, to suit?
Good luck on that.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP
I'm not sure that all the young naive girls will bite at what the older trailer park guy is offering. The fact that they're looking for it doesn't mean it's likely to happen. It may just mean they're delusional


quote:

Guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of trailer parks that demand a woman who knows her place


I can only imagine the outcry if someone had just written something about "older ghetto guys" or "guys with crossed arms, mean looks, standing in front of the ghetto housing project." Oh, the hypocrisy.

I know I'm the lone voice in the wildnerness here but I happen to like "trailer park" guys AND girls Damn, those trailer park girls are hot and the "Stanley Kowalski" types I've known often lived in trailers. Ooooh, the animal magnetism. Give it a try............luci


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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 1:38:33 PM   
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I dunno, I like sex, a lot, but sometimes I'm not in the mood, and if she keeps asking every 5 minutes I imagine I'd get kind of grouchy.


I was exaggerating.  The point was that I would get dressed up to surprise him and he'd act like I just asked him to spend the entire weekend mowing the lawn and cleaning out the garage.  We had sex about once a month and it lasted about 3 minutes, til he came, that is. 


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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 1:40:45 PM   
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*smooches luci*

SL, that's one of the slave's chores, she's under there "playing catch"


Oh GROSSSSSSSS!  The picture was funny, I laughed my ass off, but now you've just gone too far!  Can you say hurl?


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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 1:59:20 PM   
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I dunno, I like sex, a lot, but sometimes I'm not in the mood, and if she keeps asking every 5 minutes I imagine I'd get kind of grouchy.


I was exaggerating.  The point was that I would get dressed up to surprise him and he'd act like I just asked him to spend the entire weekend mowing the lawn and cleaning out the garage.  We had sex about once a month and it lasted about 3 minutes, til he came, that is. 



I was being kind of facetious too.  Definitely sounds like a very unsatisfying relationship in any case.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 2:33:33 PM   
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*smooches luci*

SL, that's one of the slave's chores, she's under there "playing catch"


Oh GROSSSSSSSS!  The picture was funny, I laughed my ass off, but now you've just gone too far!  Can you say hurl?



Hell, she has a bucket to use down there, what more do you want?

Missokyst, good thread, very thought provoking.

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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 3:05:29 PM   
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RE: Realistic expectations - 6/27/2010 4:54:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		One of my friends in some ways is even more worse off than I. About half a year ago he started looking online for a partner ten years plus or minus his own age. No takers.

Recently he found a woman fifteen years older than he is.

As for me, I know that a few very attractive females twenty to thirty years younger than I am in principle have been attracted to me. Likely they would not be if they knew me.

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