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Farabor -> Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 9:31:01 PM)

A pet peeve has come up several times today, and I felt the need to get it off my chest, and to see if anyone else had thoughts on the subject.

So,  I'm using the search feature to skim dozens, if not hundreds of profiles, looking for that rare person who might be someone I can connect with.   One of the basic limiting factors I include is "Actively seeking submissive men."   So,  it confuses me when I start to read through someone's profile, and I get "NO MEN." or "NO SUBMISSIVE MEN", or some other variant.  

This disturbs me on multiple levels.   First, there's the fact that a valuable resource (my time),  is being wasted...why include yourself as actively seeking men if you don't want them?   Second,  it includes these people on the list of searches by other, less intelligent individuals, who are likely to spam email them with inappropriate stuff...and thus perpetuate the idea that all/most men here are idiots/can't read/etc.  It does a disservice to the whole community..

Thoughts?



stef -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 9:34:45 PM)

You've been a member here since 2007 and when you finally decide to post, it's to whine about people's profiles?  Your behavior does a disservice to the whole community.

~stef



DarkSteven -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 9:39:55 PM)

You have to be kidding.I remember when there was no Internet.  We'd have to meet peopl offline.

Now, by your own admission, you are actively plowing through hundreds of profiles.  Do you realize how powerful the Internet is, how quickly you can scan the profiles?  Do you realize that the admins and mods here are volunteers?  You have SO much to make things easier for you.

And yet you whine about how your valuable time gets wasted.



DCWoody -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 9:52:25 PM)

The man has a point, I've noticed that now and again.....I'm sure we can all agree that simultaneously saying 'actively seeking dominant men' and 'no men, male messages will be blocked unread' is, at the very least, unhelpful. It's not exactly the biggest problem on the other side though.....



tigreetsa -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 10:20:13 PM)

While I understand the OP's frustration I think his expectation that everyone on a BDSM site to communicate and behave in a logical or even understandable manner is a tad unrealistic.



VaguelyCurious -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 10:32:21 PM)

FR

I have *nothing* ticked on 'actively seeking' and with all due respect to your (nonsense) theory that I would get less spam as a result I still get spammed to all fuck.
Actually, make that with no respect to your theory at all-because I can tell you first hand that it is rubbish.



Rule -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 10:34:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Farabor
One of the basic limiting factors I include is "Actively seeking submissive men."   So,  it confuses me when I start to read through someone's profile, and I get "NO MEN." or "NO SUBMISSIVE MEN", or some other variant.  

Thoughts?

The solution to me is obvious: do not include that basic limiting factor and the problem will disappear as if by magic.



GreedyTop -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/26/2010 11:28:57 PM)

um, perhaps the person who made the profile didnt tick all the appropriate boxes?  I know that I didn't tick a lot of the boxes when I first signed up....



xxblushesxx -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 1:33:53 AM)

Rumour has it she's ticked plenty since then though!

*runs*



sunshinemiss -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 1:44:15 AM)

I've heard GT has ticked *off* a few as well.

To the OP:
Glad you feel better. Now if you had been on the forums awhile, you would know there is a thread here. It is called "I Hate it When" and your post would have nicely fit into it.

I do hope you will use your time more wisely by... ohhh I don't know... meeting people in real life? There is a surprising number of people on the boards who know each other real life. That could be an option for you.

Good luck,
sunshine



CarrieO -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 3:13:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Farabor

...I start to read through someone's profile...



Well, atleast someone's reading profiles.[:D]

OP,  May I suggest along with scanning hundreds of profiles that you also check out some local munches. 
http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgsflorida.html    That should help you get started.   Enjoy and don't forget to smile....this is suppose to be fun!



LadyAngelika -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 5:09:59 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

FR

I have *nothing* ticked on 'actively seeking' and with all due respect to your (nonsense) theory that I would get less spam as a result I still get spammed to all fuck.
Actually, make that with no respect to your theory at all-because I can tell you first hand that it is rubbish.


My experience as well. I get emails from around the world daily of men wanting me to dominate them and I have not only nothing under seeking but my profile actually says that I'm not particularly looking at the moment.

To the OP: This comes with the territory. I'd prefer to focus on the positive that this site gives me. DarkSteven is bang on about this site. So now it's up to you to suck it up or ship it out. Glass half-empty folks are a drag.

- LA



DomImus -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 6:11:40 AM)

It works like this: When someone's profile says that they are "actively seeking submissive men" only to say somewhere else  "NO MEN." or "NO SUBMISSIVE MEN"... then they are an idiot and that is your merciful red flag to click the x and move along. Don't complain about it - they just saved you more time and trouble than you spent looking at their profile.




divi -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 6:20:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Farabor

A pet peeve has come up several times today, and I felt the need to get it off my chest, and to see if anyone else had thoughts on the subject.

So,  I'm using the search feature to skim dozens, if not hundreds of profiles, looking for that rare person who might be someone I can connect with.   One of the basic limiting factors I include is "Actively seeking submissive men."   So,  it confuses me when I start to read through someone's profile, and I get "NO MEN." or "NO SUBMISSIVE MEN", or some other variant.  

This disturbs me on multiple levels.   First, there's the fact that a valuable resource (my time),  is being wasted...why include yourself as actively seeking men if you don't want them?   Second,  it includes these people on the list of searches by other, less intelligent individuals, who are likely to spam email them with inappropriate stuff...and thus perpetuate the idea that all/most men here are idiots/can't read/etc.  It does a disservice to the whole community..

Thoughts?


wah wah wah



windchymes -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 6:59:47 AM)

I gotta box you can tick, riiiiiight here.....[8|]



divi -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 7:01:18 AM)

I wanna tick your box baby
(stole that from some cmer )



windchymes -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 7:12:12 AM)

I'm just going to sit here and hope divi really wants to tick my box and didn't just use the default reply [;)]



divi -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 7:16:28 AM)

darling I want to do more then just tick it...
You're one of my hotties on my who to do list



pahunkboy -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 7:18:44 AM)

I think he is rather cute.



domiguy -> RE: Pet peeve: Inaccurate "Actively seeking" (5/27/2010 7:20:08 AM)

A tad bit mulletish and an overall inappropriate length of hair.



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