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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/25/2010 8:34:42 PM

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DevilWolf100,

I have taught many Dominant men and women in the course of years in the scene.

Although I can teach you the basics, tricks of the trade per se; it is on your shoulders of responsibilities to practice on targets, such as a pillow, post-a-notes and things that give you feed back before trying it on an individual.

Once you have a technique down, I often have the mentored Dominant have their submissive back up into their flogger/single tail throws, as its hard enough to maintain a technique as well as aim. By allowing a submissive to back up ever so slowly, they can adjust themselves, shifting to the sides...thus putting themselves in the correct target frame. At this time your eyes and your sense of feeling, depth of field and confidence in a sensual flow of the whip with control is gathered into one. Repeating this, thus trains your eyes as far as depth and feedback from the whip.

Video taping yourself may also be a tool. However, I would erase it when you show other more accomplished Dominants and their feedback; you don't want to watch yourself and old bad habits--moving forward and improving is the idea.

Practice, practice and practice.

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/25/2010 10:22:09 PM

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I learned most of what I know from girls I dated.

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 4:28:18 AM

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Does this ever happen?
Im so new not even been to a munch so if you do, i think i could do with some help?

It happens and has happened for a long time. Historically and logically it's good and proper. The most pertinent part of that history for the modern M/s system, I feel would be at the start of the Leathermen or "Old Guard" movement and formation that evolved into what we basically have today as a form of training and protocol-based behavior in BDSM. Dominants teaching dominants seems like a natural thing. I've had dominants train me on certain things I wanted to learn, and I've returned that favor as well (and hope to do so again whenever the occasion arises).

On a more simplified level, if you pick up a book written by someone within the BDSM community that is a 'how-to' book; then you are essentially being 'trained' or learning from that dominant (or submissive) who wrote that. When going to a play-party or even some formalized hands-on learning like at something along the lines of TES-Fest, then you are getting valuable training or mentoring. We need to use more than just our imaginations when applying D/s. We also need the practical and logical side of those that know more...or else we will tend to repeat those horrors that others have learned from in the past the hard way.

Welcome to the boards and good luck!

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 5:15:12 AM

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Hey... I was talking. Period. You want to take offense or get snippy... go for it, but you will be talking to yourself.

Is it only me who has the response of HUH to this response to my post?

Lockit, How the heck you found any concept of my seeing offense or my getting SNIPPY in the below is beyond me.

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Ohh thanks for pointing that out. I know absolutely nothing about BDSM or the scening concept or kink stuff and techniques, so when i wrote my post it never occured to me that yea some Doms will need to be taught about that stuff. My view was simply more of the mental and philosophical aspect of themselves and their dominance and stuff like that -- what molds them so to speak.

i was actually recognizing because of something you said and my recognition of my own ignorance about kink things and techniques and people "playing" that i should clarify something because i felt the distinction between someone being taught to say crack a whip on someone is very important (and something i didn't consider because its not the concepts i know) and wanted to clarify that my ADVICE concept was only for the concept of philosophy and knowing self (what i do know) rather than things that needed techniques for safety ect concept. And because i don't know BDSM or KINK things, i felt that clarification would be helpful.

Your post is looking to make something negative that isn't in any way.

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 8:37:18 AM

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I don't like no Doms touching my subs. So just keep your meathooks off. If I catch any of you Doms in my stuff, I'll kill you. And I don't like nobody touching me. Any of you homo Doms touch me, and I'll kill you. ~DomFrancis

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 9:01:16 AM

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 9:21:50 AM

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 9:50:47 AM

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You lezbo's can touch my stuff anytime!

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 12:35:16 PM

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Ok thanks, im gonna go to a munch on tuesday if i can find the place

Hey Dom,
Mind if I tell it to you straight? What the hell kind of Dom are you anyway? "If you can find the place"???. Hell, if you want to go to a munch, you'll damn well FIND the place. It's filled to the brim with willing subs who just want to get on their knees to suck your huge hard long-lasting tasty dick. They will beg for it. And, you're still LOOKING for the place?

And, as for your eloquent titles and well researched questions ... well, I already bespoke about that in your last thread, strangely enough (given what I'm trying to tell you), titled "Help!".

Good luck my friend ... you're gonna need it.
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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 1:39:00 PM

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Sure they Do!
Alot of times you will find that Doms actually have classes ad seminars you can go to to learn new techniques. Beyond Leather does some of this. With some of the more dangerous forms of play I feel confident learning exactly what I am doing. I will be taking an upcoming class on Electroplay just to make sure I don't turn anyone into a french fry. LOL

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 3:58:19 PM

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If i am interested in an area of BDSM that i know nothing about I start by reading and researching that area, I then , in my interest is still engaged, try to find a Dom/me with some experience and get advice. Failing that I look for a sub with the experience lol Not for any elitist reason but I am a Dom so i look to Doms to advise or help me. Since I regard the worst thing that a Dom can do is to hurt a sub accidentally the idea of Dom/mes learning from others Dom/mes is perfectly acceptable.

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 5:41:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I don't like no Doms touching my subs. So just keep your meathooks off. If I catch any of you Doms in my stuff, I'll kill you. And I don't like nobody touching me. Any of you homo Doms touch me, and I'll kill you. ~DomFrancis

Domi, you are so full of shit, I taught that one bitch of yours what a real assfucking feels like and you cleaned her ass out like a famine victim!

As for doms teaching doms, there are lots out there who get off on that, gives them a chance to pontificate in front of their harem. If you are single and someone is willing to teach you technical stuff, leap at it.

As for "learning"....most of what you see at play parties you would be hard pressed to hurt someone, floggers are childs play, spanking is so safe people do it to children, etc. The real damage that is common is emotional wreckage caused by piss poor relationship skills, master that and you can learn how to use toys with your eyes closed.

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RE: Doms teaching Doms? - 4/26/2010 5:50:27 PM

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I don't like no Doms touching my subs. So just keep your meathooks off. If I catch any of you Doms in my stuff, I'll kill you. And I don't like nobody touching me. Any of you homo Doms touch me, and I'll kill you. ~DomFrancis

Lighten up Francis.

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