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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 6:11:41 AM

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pahunkboy...I am not preaching to you so please don't take it that way...I believe from your past posts that you have little faith in God...if I am wrong I am sorry. But look at it this way there may... and I say may be a soul. There is that small chance that there is despite what your mind tells you. Why not use that small possibility to hold out hope that life means something in the end?

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This is of interest. Many years ago- some jerk lectured her- on how she is not a real Christian. The reason why this bothered me is it was because of me. She and my ex was trying to get me a space to stay. So the premise was- if you cared you would not be asking for the space. I did get the space- but shortly after that- I packed my junk and moved to PA.

I guess I should have more faith. She really did light up when I joined her at church.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 6:24:49 AM

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Hunkie, a good friend once told me that our feelings, even the ones of the deepest hurt and pain, are what make us feel alive.

If my life will matter to one person as much as this person obviously mattered to you, then I consider myself a deeply blessed person.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 6:42:51 AM

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It is still too early to phone out there yet.

I need a shower- but want to do the grass first- which of course is wet. lol

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 6:43:03 AM

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I don't want to be pushy at all. He is a recovering drug addict. His brother accidentally fatal overdosed- on Easter. So I always kept in touch.

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I want to go thru the feelings tho. I held in my dads death and that was very destructive.

it seems you just handed yourself the answer, Hunk.

You know first hand how destructive bottled up emotions can be, and even moreso when battling an addiction.

A phone call from one who cares, allowing him the chance to open up and vent his feelings, cannot be anything but positive.

Don't attempt to force him to do something he does not want to do...just open the lines of communication and give him the chance to talk about her.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 7:01:26 AM

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I had a teacher in high school who was very much a mentor. Some of us students still visited her after graduation, that was around the time she developed bone cancer. I still visited but then moved away, started a business and was planning a marriage. That was when she died. I found out many months after because all of this. I was able to get her obit. It moved me and saddened me and I have never stopped missing her existence in the world. In leiu of flowers, she asked people to either mentor a child or donate to the humane society. She was an amazing woman right to the end. You never forget those people, you never stop missing them. My grandpa is another on of those people. I suppose the best you can do is think of who means so much to you now that is still alive and make the most of the living time.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 8:05:00 AM

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Hello- all.

I called my ex.

He is not one to talk on a phone- so my time is always limited.

The topic did not come up. It was a 20 minute call.   Being that he wanted to rap about health remedies- and his job- I went with it.

He really does have a brilliant mind.   :-)

Anyhow- he was off to class and later to work.

-- so busy is good.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 8:17:13 AM

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I did what I could for today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJixs2FoZ_Y

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 12:24:30 PM

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Ah, now I see. That really does suck.

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I have no idea who you're talking about.

I learned a month ago- that a very dear lady to me- passed away back in October. This would have been my sorta mother in law of 7 years. Even after I moved to PA- I kept in touch with my ex and his family. It was amicable. We took trips together and had many nice holidays together. I can not burden him with how I feel - nor my family who also knew his family. So that is the deal. It sucks.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 1:32:41 PM

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So why can't you call your ex, tell him you just heard, and share your memories? It would make both of you feel better.

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RE: private pain. - 4/3/2010 1:47:16 PM

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