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bobbylynn -> Cheating (3/30/2010 2:50:41 PM)
Just wondering about this....probably stirring up the pot here however it is something i'm just wondering about and would love to hear some life experiences on this question. Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things?

Smutmonger -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 2:54:30 PM)
No..that's like healing from a gunshot wound by blowing your head off with a howitzer. quote: ORIGINAL: bobbylynn Just wondering about this....probably stirring up the pot here however it is something i'm just wondering about and would love to hear some life experiences on this question. Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things?

DesFIP -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 2:55:06 PM)
It won't help. Might improve your self esteem by showing you that you were still wanted. But it wouldn't be getting anything back because once the other person cheated on you, the relationship effectively ended. You don't trust them, you don't want to be with them. It's over so move on.

Jeffff -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 2:56:06 PM)
A revenge fuck never really helps anyone. Self respect should demand that you behave in a way that meets your standards, not another's. Still, if you are on your way out anyway.........

Madame4a -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 3:02:42 PM)
Been lied to, but never been cheated on that I know of... and no, I wouldn't do that.. seems childish and stupid and would not likely make me feel better.. probably worse...

LaTigresse -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 3:08:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bobbylynn Just wondering about this....probably stirring up the pot here however it is something i'm just wondering about and would love to hear some life experiences on this question. Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things? No.

GraciousLady -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 3:33:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bobbylynn Just wondering about this....probably stirring up the pot here however it is something i'm just wondering about and would love to hear some life experiences on this question. Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things? Your not stiring the pot at all. If anything your bring out good points and maybe helping people deal with their own expierences. I have never been cheated on that I know of but I don't see how doing the same would accomplish anything. To me, it would degrade my standards and me. I'm an adult. I don't have to sneak or lie or cheat. If the relationship I'm in is so intolerable I feel I have to sneak or lie or cheat I would leave that relationship. And, I don't see how degrading myself would ease my pain. It would only make me feel worse about myself. Besdied, isn't having the person your in a relationship cheating enough drama without causing more?

Viridana -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 3:50:26 PM)
FR Yes I've been cheated on and for a while after I found out the notion of a revenge fuck was very present in my mind. I didn't go through with it though and now, 3 years later I'm very glad that I didn't.

blueeyedbbwsub -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 3:53:53 PM)
Been there, done that, wore the t-shirt. Didn't feel too damn good about myself either. Haven't repeated it since then. Not going to go there in the future either. Too much hurt isn't helped by hurting yourself all over again.

ricken -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 4:07:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bobbylynn ......Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things? I've been cheated on by my (ex)wife with someone I THOUGHT was my friend... I went through a million thoughts and I can tell you IF someone is cheating don't wast your time, get the fuck out, move on, empty joint accounts, empty the apartment or house of all your possesions, get a lawer, get out....DONT LOOK BACK.... Don't wast time on a revenge fuck, don't wast time....If someoneis going fuck someone else behind your back, they already established themself as a lier, if they lie once, why won't they do it again? Why wast time? They probably did it more than once but only got caught once..... You want to get over the pain fast? Empty the joint accounts and go on a long vacation. No joint account? talk the idiot into buying you an EXPENSIVE gift "to make up" and dump their ass. Going out and fucking someone, because someone fucked aroud on you, then you go back to that person? Nuts and just looking for more soap opera fucking around... Yeah I got a REALL strong opinion on this.

HisSub1213 -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 4:46:20 PM)
I've been cheated on. But I think it would be beneath me to do the same.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 4:57:41 PM)
quote: Have you ever been cheated on Yes. quote: and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? No. Because instinctively, I knew the answer to the question would be that... quote: If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things? It would not only complicate things, but it would also make me bend my values, and then I would be doubly disappointed, in him and in me. Just because he broke our trust and was dishonest doesn't mean that I need to stoop down to his level. If I did, he would have hurt me not one, but twice. - LA

dreamerdreaming -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 5:52:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Smutmonger No..that's like healing from a gunshot wound by blowing your head off with a howitzer. Exactly. (Thank you, Captain Obvious!) smooch [:D] OP: If the above is not glaringly obvious to you, then you've got a LOT of growing up to do.

OrpheusAgonistes -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 6:22:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bobbylynn Just wondering about this....probably stirring up the pot here however it is something i'm just wondering about and would love to hear some life experiences on this question. Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? If so, did it help you get over that pain or did it complicate things? Yes. When I was 16. Even at that age I was aware that it was probably a pretty terrible, ultimately ineffective strategy. Spoiler alert: It proved to be a pretty terrible, ultimately ineffective strategy.

littlewonder -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 6:34:35 PM)
I've been cheated on. It ended the relationship. I don't stick around so there's no one to cheat on. Once they cheat, it's over for me. If I were you, either move on or try to repair your relationship. But cheating on him for revenge? Seems useless, inane and childish to me.

itsmeinLV -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 9:07:14 PM)
Never been in a situation like that and knock on wood that I never know that kind of pain...but I wouldn't think that would help the situation out any. Probably just confront the person and move on? Easier said than done but I don't think it'd help to sink to the same level they are in.

TheHeretic -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 10:26:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bobbylynn Have you ever been cheated on and then decided in order to get over the pain of being cheated on...to do the same and cheat on them? No. I have been the revenge fuckee however, and it was amazing, bucket list, fucking. Sweet deal if you can get it.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Cheating (3/30/2010 10:31:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff A revenge fuck never really helps anyone. Yes it does... She should come over my house and revenge fuck her big breasted self into blissful oblivion until she feels much better!

bobbylynn -> RE: Cheating (3/31/2010 4:22:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming [ quote: OP: If the above is not glaringly obvious to you, then you've got a LOT of growing up to do. Relax dreamerdreaming.......didn't say it is my intention to do ths, i'm just curious about other people's experience who have done this is all.

DomImus -> RE: Cheating (3/31/2010 6:15:37 AM)
Cheating on someone because they cheated on you? Not a good strategy. To my knowledge I have never been cheated upon so I can't speak to that point from experience. I have been accused of cheating when I was innocent of the charge and honestly I think that pissed me off more than someone having cheated on me ever would. I threw her out that evening.

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