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RE: just friends? - 3/8/2010 2:29:59 AM

ranja

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I do not understand why you say 'them' do you have more than one partner and they are all sexually and/or emotionally remote?

Other than this confusion, i feel for you... i have been neglected sexually for a decade... it is totally naf and hurtful and depressing

there are some things you can do:

-Have your partner go for medical check ups
-be more honest about who you are and your needs
-or have a sneaky affair (don't be honest about that)
-split up
-sit it out and hope for better times and hopefully you won't get bitter waiting.

i was lucky... we managed to turn things around...
and if it would happen again i would cheat.

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RE: just friends? - 3/8/2010 5:16:43 AM

wandersalone

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My thought was that the OP had created a sock puppet profile to make their post and was trying to make their first post as anonymous as possible. If I recall it was only in later posts that they started using he and she.

Profile isn't found today but I am sure it was there yesterday

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RE: just friends? - 3/8/2010 6:09:18 AM

Nslavu

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Sounds to me like there is an emotional compatibility missing. You have the intellectual bond, maybe the physical; (though that could be problematic as well) but I can't tell based on the info. In general relationships that are unbalanced like this are missing that emotional compatibility factor, one wanting the other more. It's not an easy thing to change, unless there's is adequate communication and self knowledge (for both parties) and even then the futility could over ride if both stay in same old same old character or what they think is 'who' they are.

You also say 'them'... ??? Is this becoming a self fulfilling behavior? Are you buying into old internal maps of reality all the time? Bringing your history into every relationship, without justification?

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