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Phoenixpower -> RE: Manipulative trade off’s? (1/22/2010 11:36:08 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Hardbutt
There have been plenty of times in my life where I needed help and a stranger offered 'just because' and we talked, but I have not found any who will work for me if I don't show up. The goodness in my heart is feed by the other person's heart, so it is reasonable to expect to share their company, IMO, for the good to grow in both.
Very well said. Those few experienced make the difference to me living in the UK at the moment....the rare occassions where your frustration level is sky high and then you get a helping hand out of nowhere...
In 2006 I moved...in a real bad accomodation, unfortunately...as there was a real cockroach problem. Gladly I realised that before I had to stay a single night there as I still had my other place. A guy whom I didnt like at all when he flirted a bit in the beginning then turned out to be an enourmous unexpected help. I only wanted to get out of there basically NOW and found a place 3 streets further (damn long streets further away and sadly we couldnt use the short cut via the park). However, talking a lil bit with him at the end turned out that he borrowed a car from a person from a corner shop nearby to help me to move out straight away and so with his help I had moved fast then at the end....he even helped me carrying boxes downstairs and at the new place upstairs...there was no need from him to bother to get a car and to waste his time and effort to help me to move...but gosh was I glad he did...
on the other hand it gets on my nerves over here when people keep trying to give me advice I never wanted and never asked for....it got less now but it annoyed me a lot in the first few years....because if i need advice I go out and get it...no need to "look out for me!" thats not something I like...certainly not from a person i am not involved with apart from work or so....so I do understand a little bit the feeling as it can get on the nerves big time....
so for me it depends on what it is about and who the person is.....at times it feels ok, at other times it just isnt.
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