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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 9:21:55 PM

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Often, on a first date, if met by one of the kink-aware adverts, I propose she arrive at the restaurant sans underthings ...

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 10:37:14 PM

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He doesn't require it however, he does have certain things I can do about my looks that he prefers to see. And it feels good to know I've done something I know he likes.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 5:06:07 AM

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Not really, apart from wearing skirts and no knickers when he's around and we're at home. He likes me the way I am, which includes my weight, I've always been slim...if I got fat from indolence and over-eating, he'd put a stop to both. Neither of us would like it if I was fat, so he'd step right in if I was slack.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 5:14:00 AM

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require you to have a certain look? For instance do you have to wear your make up or your clothes a certain way or keep your weight at a normal level or to keep your hair ahort or long, etc?

Nope. He trusts me to keep myself looking nice and the best I can.

ETA: He's, very rarely, said "I hate this" or "I love that" which leads to me either wearing it more, less or simply not around him.

But his edicts concerning my appearence are few and far between.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 5:30:32 AM

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Long full hair, always done, always make-up, 4 to 5 inch heels, size 8 (that's a hard one for me, I am edging up to a 10, ugh, back to the gym) he likes tailored fitted clothing, kind of business sexy I guess, with stockings, garters, full lingerie underneath. At home, still the hair and makeup and heels, usually naked or one of his shirts. Sometimes it drives me nuts, but usually I say nothing, what's the point? I do get to wear jeans on occasion, but they are always dressy, tight, with heels and sexy tops. He has been known on more than one occasion to throw things out without even telling me, but hey if he's paying for them, go ahead/.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 5:42:22 AM

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require you to have a certain look? For instance do you have to wear your make up or your clothes a certain way or keep your weight at a normal level or to keep your hair ahort or long, etc?

I'm not your target audience, and I don't have a partner right now, but yes, she would be expected to conform to a number of things.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 5:45:23 AM

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i'm vertical *yawns, burps and scratches butt*

not sure what more he would want

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 6:33:17 AM

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Blimey holly you make me larf!!!

He doesn't have a list of things i have to comply with, but He does like me to not wear knickers. i like to make an effort for Him as it makes me happy to please Him so i wear more skirts and make up than i used to before i met Him. i think however that has come from having more confidence and the feeling that i am worth me making an effort for...all His doing! The only thing i would say, is that He would love me to wear higher heels, but i just have not got the feet for them and i end up taking them off after about half an hour lol!

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 6:35:22 AM

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He likes me to be clean and wear clean clothes. I require the same of him. Other than that there are no other requirement.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 8:16:20 AM

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require you to have a certain look? For instance do you have to wear your make up or your clothes a certain way or keep your weight at a normal level or to keep your hair ahort or long, etc?

Sometimes he'll tell me what to wear but usually he enjoys my choices. He has picked out my perfume and he will choose what I wear to bed. I am in the process of losing a lot of weight so some of the other preferences he has, he's put on hold until I get closer to my target weight. He has been extremely supportive in the weight loss process, which I began before we met. 52 pounds and counting - woot!

He already likes how I wear my hair and make up, although I consult with him before any changes (like the weaved highlights I just got).

He is so positive and encouraging in expressing his preferences, I find myself eager and happy to meet them.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 11:07:51 AM

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He likes my makeup done in a certain way, which has never been my preference, but I am glad to do it for him, since it makes him happy. He also likes to pick out what I am going to wear when we go out, although I am allowed to be in loungy clothes when I am at home. He doesn't like short hair, which is something I tend to have, so I'm still trying to grow it out for him.
But overall...he loves me as I am, and any physical changes are things that I am glad to do, if it pleases him

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 11:12:06 AM

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require you to have a certain look? For instance do you have to wear your make up or your clothes a certain way or keep your weight at a normal level or to keep your hair ahort or long, etc?

He doesn't require anything of me, but I require him to keep his underarm and pubic hair neatly trimmed, his head hair the lengths I like it (within military standards as he's active duty), and no facial hair except a rare goatee when he's on leave... but never a mustache or beard or such, just the goatee style I like.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/18/2010 12:33:25 PM

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I basically dress the way I like which is skirts or shorts over pants (gotta show off your assets lol) and something nice, not too casual on top. He has always seemed happy with my choices and he does tell me I always look nice. I don't think he's ever paid attention to my underwear except to tell me to take it off- he doesn't care if I wear them but he doesn't care what they look like either. He does prefer just being naked, he'll ask me to take off my clothes if we're at home. Whatever we do ....cook, watch football, work on the computer....we do it naked if at all possible.
I do try to pick up on any preferences he has. For instance over the time we've been together he's made it known that he likes my hair long and with it's natural curl so I do that for sure when I'll be with him unless we're hitting the gym or going on a bike ride- then I need a ponytail.

Lately I've been taking pictures for him when we can't be together and he's been very happy with the results. I'll put together an outfit, a hairstyle, different makeup and all kinds of little touches (gloves, stockings, a choker, etc) that he notices and he just goes crazy for the results. It's so easy to set up the cam and take a few nice shots in a couple of minutes. In fact his birthday is coming up next month and he has requested for his gift more pictures with a birthday theme...should be fun.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/19/2010 7:23:02 AM

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require you to have a certain look? For instance do you have to wear your make up or your clothes a certain way or keep your weight at a normal level or to keep your hair ahort or long, etc?

I don't ask much of my submissive, but I do like her hair a little longish (for obvious reasons...).

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RE: Does your partner - 1/19/2010 7:55:10 AM

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The only request he's had of me is to keep my hair below my shoulders. While he'd love my hair to be down to my waist, he also understands that logistically, it just doesn't work for me.

He doesn't choose my clothes but he has been known to pick something out in a store for me to try.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/19/2010 9:57:14 AM

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He instructs me for going out attire, and underwear. I'm welcome to suggest things though. He prefers my hair up for these occasions and will say so. He'd like me to gain some weight but understands I have issues about being fat and would rather me be comfortable and confident in my appearance. Generally speaking though He finds me attractive no matter what. This morning He was thrilled to have me kneeling before Him in a hoodie from His college, a thong and knee socks, it doesn't take much to make Him happy!

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RE: Does your partner - 1/19/2010 1:38:08 PM

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I will be perfectly honest . . .

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Not usually for normal days. He will require specific outfits at times when he wants to see me dressed a certain way.
I'm not allowed to alter my body in any way without his permission.
Same with me, cosmetically

And I have to weigh in for him every morning.
He has required me to lose another 15 pounds and is tremendously supportive and a huge motivator for me with this.
The hard honest part, I wish I had this sort of support from him.
It starts and then it dies out cause he gets so busy.
I think living together would help, but more self control on my end is MY responsiblity.

I was told that my shoulder length hair would not be cut. It's to my ass and it's trimmed to keep it there. A very lovely gal french braids it for me every Tuesday which lasts 2 days.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/19/2010 1:51:04 PM

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I don't make my girl wear anything special the only requirement is the hair I like lots of hair hers is now about four feet long I like to tangle myself up in it to go to sleep.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/19/2010 3:05:07 PM

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i admit it, feminine attire that is easily rearranged to reveal is my fav

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