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Does your partner - 1/17/2010 4:35:19 PM

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require you to have a certain look? For instance do you have to wear your make up or your clothes a certain way or keep your weight at a normal level or to keep your hair ahort or long, etc?

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 4:41:51 PM

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Not usually for normal days. He will require specific outfits at times when he wants to see me dressed a certain way.
I'm not allowed to alter my body in any way without his permission. And I have to weigh in for him every morning.
He has required me to lose another 15 pounds and is tremendously supportive and a huge motivator for me with this.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 4:43:23 PM

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Yes. He doesn't require it all the time, but very often will tell me to wear my hair up.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 4:53:28 PM

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He lets me know what he likes, yes.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 5:42:07 PM

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As long as I'm not wearing a bra, he's happy.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 6:04:54 PM

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Shoot - my Sir is happy - infact- demands that i be naked in the house. Does that count?

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 6:10:30 PM

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Nope. He prefers short skirts and stockings and garter belts but is understanding that our life rarely allows for that. I'm certainly not planning to shovel snow tomorrow in stilettoes. He prefers my hair long enough to grab a handful but doesn't care if I cut a couple of inches off.

Sometimes he'll pick clothing for me but usually panties and bras, not outerwear.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 6:15:03 PM

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I've been letting my hair grow long and I've been known to do some cooking wearing nothing but heels. And I take my bra off in the rest room outside of baggage claim. :)

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 6:27:15 PM

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He has seldom required me to dress in a certain way except when we are at lifestyle events. He has encouraged me to change to different styles. For example, he really prefers pants when I love to wear skirts. At one time I had no pants to wear. However, now I have several pairs of pants and wear them more often than skirts. My skirts are reserved for more dress up occasions.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 7:06:37 PM

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I've told Tink how to dress, I've laid out his clothes for him, and I've packed his bag for a week long trip. He doesn't mind it, and usually appreciates it.

Due to low self esteem about my own looks, I get very indignant whenever someone tries to tell me how I should look for HIM. If he can't accept and be happy with what I've done all on my own, then he can go fuck himself. (Because he sure ain't going to be fuckin me!)

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 7:36:41 PM

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Not usually. He may drop suggestions about what he likes in women but he never tells me to dress or wear my makeup or hair a certain way.

I do though try to dress in ways that I know he finds sexy just because I think it helps to keep the passion alive when partners do that for each other.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 7:59:23 PM

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Since being collared, I have grown my hair out from a long bob to halfway down my back, I now wear makeup daily (and much more -in more dramatic colors), and when with Him, I wear 4 to 5 inch heels (and many here have met me and think my natural height is 6 ft, but it's only the heels-lol). My wardrobe has changed radically, too- much more feminine; tighter skirts, more colors and more body hugging cuts.

He likes girly-girls and a certain look, which I work to maintain for His pleasure. I also work out regularly and watch my weight. The most radical thing I have done is a breast augmentation. It was my idea because I had a dramatic weight loss and was unhappy with the loss of that area, but knowing His preferences really made the decision easy.

His latest interest is black hosery- so I have been going through lots of hose and thigh-highs.

He has never made anything mandatory (except for the heels)- I just try to be pretty for Him. He's really good at positive reinforcement so I have naturally evolved into His vision of me over the 4 years we have been together.

I think that works better than a series of edicts on appearance. I also think I look better now, at 46, than I did even in my 20's.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:02:38 PM

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He's really good at positive reinforcement so I have naturally evolved into His vision of me over the 4 years we have been together.

I think that works better than a series of edicts on appearance. I also think I look better now, at 46, than I did even in my 20's.

I agree with the above - I've been with other men who would tell me what I should look like, and had to conform to, but it's must cooler to be with someone who gradually molds you into the person he wants, rather than just being any random chick from the internet who is ordered to wear garters and heels.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:46:17 PM

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I am to be a totally natural girl when with him. He doesn't like make up, fussed with hair, jewlery, perfumes and soaps that smell overly perfumey. I am to be in skirt and top or dress unless he specifies I can be otherwise. I am to always have long hair in my natural color and only combed neatly and only put up in a way he may state, if he wants it up at all. And there are a couple more intimate details to my appearance that he also requires.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:51:08 PM

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I have never had any of the men I had relationships with tell me how to dress, how to wear my hair, to change my body, nothing.

I think they were all with me because they liked what they had.

I also know how to take care of myself and maximize my looks. Also, if I know someone likes stockings, I will wear them, someone else like lingerie or to open the door naked, I do it because I want to.

If anyone insisted I do something like alter my appearance I would not be with them since they would be looking to change me.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:52:13 PM

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He doesn't necessary "require" anything. If the subject of cutting my hair comes up, he makes a face. It reaches nearly to my waist and he likes that. Shoot the other night, I asked him what he would think about bangs, and he just pointed out that I would end up pulling them back and they would annoy me so why bother (he is right of course).

He prefers that I don't wear a bra, but only gets that regularly in the summer because I wear a lot of halters. I don't really like bras so it is easy to not wear them.

The only time he actually will bitch is when I wear makeup. He has never liked it, so even on an occassion where I'm going to wear it (like a wedding or something), I try to wear as little as possible.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:53:08 PM

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I think they were all with me because they liked what they had.

In my case, I think he likes what he has just fine. He wants ME to like what he has.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:53:42 PM

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I think they were all with me because they liked what they had.

In my case, I think he likes what he has just fine. He wants ME to like what he has.

Ah...well you already should like what he has. :)

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 8:54:55 PM

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I think they were all with me because they liked what they had.

In my case, I think he likes what he has just fine. He wants ME to like what he has.

Ah...well you already should like what he has. :)

I'm working on it. And he is helping me.

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RE: Does your partner - 1/17/2010 9:03:54 PM

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I'm required to keep my weight between 130-140 (the holidays were a killer...my weight has been hovering right around 140, but I know He prefers me to be 133-135), keep my hair short, and wear dresses and skirts unless I ask (He usually says its ok to wear pants if it's cold). Oh, and no panties when I'm with Him. He likes me to wear earrings and perfume, but they aren't required.

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