MsMillgrove
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Joined: 5/27/2008 Status: offline
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I like to hear subs' fantasies because it gives me ideas of what specific triggers will excite them. But i never recreate their fantasies. i use those triggers in ways that suit me. Our play becomes something unique to us both, that we wouldn't or couldn't enjoy with another. most standard bdsm toys don't turn me on, I am not sure why this, perhaps my tendency to clumsiness or my disinterest in "tools" in general. My sadism is mental rather than physical. Play for me tends to be joyous, silly and most of all unpredictable. I love to spring something out of the blue. (it's not "out of the blue" for me as I have planned and rehearsed) From there I am open to taking many different directions based on the sub's responses. The script is only beginning, middle, end.. in between--I prefer spontaneity. I'm flexible too in changing the script if a better conclusion presents itself. What I enjoy is the planning and preparation, going over and over in my mind--looking for details, props, locations.. like making a movie in my mind. Final result--doesn't matter too much if it matches the original screenplay--it's that "thinking about it" phase that it the most pleasurable to me. Some kinksters wish to have "behind closed doors" relationships. I understand and respect their choice, but for me.. I love to be outdoors especially. I like to do things that can't be noticed and don't involve the public in any way, yet are done right in front of them. Public parks are my favorite! (handy to have a dog and to dress and look vanilla.)
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