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kallisto -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 2:28:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

I know, I know.....  I'm going to disappoint a bunch of folks


but it really is still here.  The thing is, you can't stop being excited about it.  If you do, it stops being fun and amazing, or wonderful and exciting. 

Do you want to lose that?





What a post LadyPact!!!!!!! [sm=yourock.gif]

Your posts never disappoint me.

And absolutely not ... never, ever want to lose that. [:)]



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 2:54:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Do you remember rope?  Not just one kind, but a hundred kinds.  Do you remember talking about what types of rope you like and why talking about how one kind feels better on your skin?


Soooooooo delicious.  I'm a rope JUNKIE!!!

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Do you remember talking about how to dye it or the lengths that you prefer to have the pieces cut?


Yesssssssssss.  (And I'm a newbie.....) Again, rope junkie.  [:D]
 
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Do you remember floggers?  All kinds of those, too.  Ones that have a thud sensation and the ones that sting?


Yummy, yummy, yummy, nummy, nummy, nummy.........  [:D]
 
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Then there are the things that most folks would think about connected to BDSM at all.  You found them at the dollar store or laying around the house.  Who knew they could be such fun! 


wooden spoons, reins from the barn, scarves (for tying/being tied), sleep masks, bungie cords, etc, etc.

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Or the BDSM that didn't need anything at all, other than the mind?  What about impact play without implements or primal play?


Imagination.  [;)]

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Do you remember the fun you had?  Having control of another and how that power was like an aphrodisiac?  Do you remember how that in bondage, you felt free?


Deliciously yummy!!
 
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Do you remember what it was about this thing, this BDSM, that brought you to where you are in your life today?  Do you remember what formed your preferences about play?  Your hard limits?  How you best soar?  That inner top or bottom in you.  The one who had something in this world of BDSM that took you someplace and reached you in a way that it never had before and it spoke to you so loudly that it's impossible to ignore.

 
Yessssssssssss.[:D]
 
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Believe it or not, those things can be here.  Sure, there's a lot of white noise about the fakes, and the crap, and the outright bullshit, but it really is still here.  The thing is, you can't stop being excited about it.  If you do, it stops being fun and amazing, or wonderful and exciting. 

Do you want to lose that?


One person's fake, crap, and bullshit, is another person's real, fantastic, "one & only."



Lucienne -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 3:09:37 PM)

I bought a knot book last week. I'm going to test out the Fireman's Chair knot by lowering some cute young man off my porch. Who wants to work the lower end?



littlewonder -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 3:17:33 PM)

I couldn't tell you one kind of knot or rope from another. Never really cared either. I don't really get into toys and their uses all that much, never have. None of it has ever been a major thing for me. Sure they're fun and all that but if they were to be gone tomorrow I wouldn't cry about it.

But take away a man who is a dominant force in my life and well then...life would not be what it is for me.



johndafreak -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 3:41:18 PM)

Thanks to the OP my little walk down memory lane remains the same, really, really good.
I started doing this cmchat stuff and just ending up micro analizing myself. Timing is key here, I moved into a new roommate deal and one of the inticements given is tools galore. Not only hand tools, drill press band saw miter, radial arm and OMG fantastic, I accecpted. Downfall being is he doesn't have a clue about BDSM.. Not only 'nilla but also Sheeple, meaning a person who does not think  independently. Right away I tell him aboud BDSM and then there's all the explaining this and that and " no I don't want to hurt anyone" "then why do you hit each other?"  "becouse it hurts" .
So it took about three weeks to go thru the misconceptions ( he still comes out of the blue with shit) It's still fun reliving life changing moments. my first spanking out side of a gay leather bar in a car in the parking lot, 16 years old, nutted way to soon, Asking my girlfriend why are there ribbons on the bed and she said to tie her up, free her just before and ....
Yes, I do remember and I also forget that there are still some uptight folks out there.
My roommate has a different idea so far and I've got a feeling of freshness in regards to BDSM. Hell, I've been giggling to myself for days now 'couse I.m sanding different wood items and I'm thinking "Make it smooth so that I don't hurt anyone". Like the big bad Dom tripping on the subs toe saying" whoops. sorry dear"



NyDaddysGirl -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 4:16:33 PM)

Great post, LadyPact. 

It's amazing the uses one can find for things when you have a fertile imagination.  (Insert evil laugh here.)



LadyAngelika -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 4:57:59 PM)

I love this post LadyPact. Brava!! And I know many people here respect you a great deal and look up to you a lot. I'm hoping that it will have a large impact.

I would so much love to see posts talking about all that you listed above.

I'd also love to get to a place where people talk about an inner struggle with something, that they get support from a group that hasn't been so absolutely jaded by wankers.

I dream of a place where together we might help each other figure some stuff out and build on each other's ideas rather than trashing them.

It wasn't like this at the genesis of Collarme in 2004. Sure there were flame wars but not 50+ page ones.

The board managers seem to want us to self-police now, and I think this is a good thing. Back like at the genesis, they will be here when things get out of hand.

But these are OUR boards, a gift from someone extremely generous who wanted to give us a free space to exchange, learn, grow and feel at home. If simply not only out of respect for this generous person, let's add a bit more decorum to WIITWD.

- LA



Ladynslave -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 6:00:21 PM)

Yes, I am reminded of it every time I visit a hardware store.  So many possibilities...



Elisabella -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 6:04:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I couldn't tell you one kind of knot or rope from another. Never really cared either. I don't really get into toys and their uses all that much, never have. None of it has ever been a major thing for me. Sure they're fun and all that but if they were to be gone tomorrow I wouldn't cry about it.

But take away a man who is a dominant force in my life and well then...life would not be what it is for me.



This is exactly how I feel. I know that CM is a "BDSM site" but a lot of people I see on the boards are here more for D/s than for BDSM play.

That being said I totally feel LadyPact's real point, which is that there are quite a few threads that have nothing to do with BDSM, D/s, M/s, kink, fetishes or anything else other than "I want to whine about something, and since I'm kinky I feel a kink forum is the appropriate place to do so."



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 7:45:18 PM)

Yesterday I was in the dollar store, buying pens for work. And I hardly looked for pervertibles AT ALL!!

{cries}

[:o]



sexyred1 -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 7:51:25 PM)

LadyPact, very classy post. I don't think you ever really forget what compelled you in the first place; even if it is not around at the moment.



submissiveboy76 -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 9:09:10 PM)

Very cool.  This is an actually on-topic post about the reason we all supposedly are here; BDSM.  I remember the smell of fresh leather. I remember the feelings of floggers, paddles, canes, and finally whips.  I remember the exquisite feeling of wearing a chastity device for days - even if it was only self imposed.  I remember the excitement at meeting a Domme for that obligatory coffee house meeting after a few emails.  I remember the sound of the lock snapping on my locking collar.  I remember kneeling in anticipation of Her return.  I remember each time someone replied to one of my detailed, respectful messages with photo attached instead of when I was simply ignored.  I remember why I joined this site and I remember every day, that I'm submissive (switch to some, but 99% sub) and need to serve.  I remember the first time I see an interesting profile and work up the courage to send a message.  I remember all my experiences and how wonderful they all were.  Lastly, I hope to remember many more things after they happen soon.  Thank You for such a wonderful post.



MsMillgrove -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/6/2010 11:35:16 PM)

Thanks for a provocative, thoughtful post LadyPact.

whew yes I remember. The first sub I had the pleasure of playing with privately brought an arsenal of tools. The one that left me forever enthralled was the violet wand. He held the unit while i played my fingers across his bare back. sparks flying from them. I played piano pieces (really!) and felt like god. When he walked down the steps of my house, he said, "goodbye god". Can't explain how this felt and will never forget. Some years later I played with another big, ex-dom, like the first, who also had a comprehensive toy bag including a pair of handmade, amazing leather gloves--not vampire ones. Long strings of thin leather attached to each finger. OMG. I fantasized on those gloves until I was blind. Months later we reconnected, and he gave me the gloves!

These are the only two tools I care about, that make me l nearly lose my mind when I play with them. They are the ultimate kinky joy to me. I am more interested in d/s, but nothing really matches how the wand and those gloves make me feel. It's indescribable.



osf -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 12:07:26 AM)

i'm very simple in my approach, my entire toy collection can fit in a gym bag, cuffs, chains, locks, a blindfold and a riding crop
then there are my hands, i love the feel of flesh



eyesopened -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 5:06:09 AM)

I'm one of the fortunate ones who will never forget.  On one wall of our home we have displayed (and ready for use) modern and antique handcuffs, thumbcuffs (very effectuve btw) leg irons and shackles.  Dresser has a drawer set aside for rope, a large variety of lengths and diametes and materials.  Another drawer devoted to impact devices, yet another for body bondage like masks, corsets, belts, gags.  Our life is never really hidden from view.

From the moment I awake until the moment I sleep, my daily life is set up to one of joyful servitude.   I am blessed.



GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 5:30:57 AM)

LP:
I was aware at 18 and newly married and knew  OUR dynamic was D-s.
 
I was aware I was a leader and men and women gravitated to me as an anchor.I fed on this..I gloried in it.I loved to esteem and support others while organizing things to my benieft as well.
I knew I could  teach and"discipline" ppl and they accepted it and sought to please.I Is aw the soul essnece of others and sought to SHOW IT TO THEM
 
I began introducing BDSM explorations in to my marriage and we had a blast..the first erotic times of flogging as I had him tied in the shed.
the first collar....the magical world we kept locked safe inside and at our acerage...I found my sensual sadistic side swelling and growing
 We were thrilled!!
 
Then "husband # 2 joined us and I began to be HOH of a POLY home at 22..
that would continue for 20+ years...with my husband of 20+ years and 3 other men over a period of time.
 
We had a 60'pole shed we made into a funishment and play place..
We came to LOVE each other deeply .
We bought land together...supported each other thru job loss..school,kid problems,deaths and more.
 
and always
the GLUE that BOUND US..;
MY Dominance and their sweet surrender...the erotic exploring..from daily life and getting ass fucked at the sink while doing dishes..to beating them both in the garden.. to weekends away...and always the spontanaeity of our lives..
living in harmony in a female led home..
laughter...flogging with home made tools...tied to posts in an old log cabin..
 
WE LIVED IT...we did not session.
 
It was a full..erotic partnership built on respect and mutaul trust..love and
....fun fun....BDSM explorations as well.
MY poly home came to a close with death of first husband 6 years ago..
and once again I seek what I had...
and know how it can be..and it is soooooooooooo good.
 

GM
 



wisdomtogive -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 10:30:56 AM)

Hello LadyAngelika

I would like to comment on what you wrote:
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I'd also love to get to a place where people talk about an inner struggle with something, that they get support from a group that hasn't been so absolutely jaded by wankers.

I dream of a place where together we might help each other figure some stuff out and build on each other's ideas rather than trashing them.

It wasn't like this at the genesis of Collarme in 2004. Sure there were flame wars but not 50+ page ones.



It would be nice to see Cm message boards going back to that period where inner struggles could be talked about. I know for myself, instead of starting a post about things that i struggle with, i go to the search button and look for posts written in 2004-2006. Seem to be a different way of talking to each other then, which I do find helpful. Maybe someday that period of time will resurface again.

blessings,
wisdomtogive



agirl -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 11:31:18 AM)

 I don't have to remember bdsm, it's ever present. It's not part of my experience of collarme, and to be honest, even though bdsm activities feature heavily in our life, it's not something I would spend much time talking about, unless there's something to actually *say* about it, even with other bdsmers.

My owner is far more of a *discusser* as far as bdsm goes, than I am. Considering he's the *doer*, that's probably natural. I'm the recipient of his interest in it and we talk about it together, but that has a point, because it's a shared/together thing.

Also, there's only so much to be said about being flogged, whipped, having needles poked through you, being branded, stapled, tied, suspended, pierced, caned, cropped, caged, nappied, pissed on, pissed in, humiliation and so on........... The exciting part is him/with him/because of him. It'd leave me cold with anyone else. I'm not *into* bdsm....I'm *into* him....and that means I'm into it because that's part of what it means to be into him.

There's a reason that the fakes, the disappearers, the scammers, the relationship angst features heavily .......it's because people want someone to have all that WITH.  A flogger is a flogger is a flogger....stingy , thuddy whatever........if it's not in my owner's hands it'd just be sensation......For many people , the relationship behind the sensation is, by far and away, the biggest draw and many others are sat feeling * If only!*.........and looking for it.

agirl











MistressTonya2u -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 12:14:48 PM)

I remember..I remember every single day.



DemonKia -> RE: Do You Remember BDSM? (1/7/2010 1:41:01 PM)

FR, after skim thru

Hmmmm . . . . . & this went all kinds of places, that's kinda nice . .. . .

Sooooooo . .. ..

Our local munch community frequently does 'field trips' of various kinds, one type of which is 'pervertables' shopping at various & sundry local stores, post-munch typically . . . . . This Saturday, after the munch, we're supposed to go to a local dollar store, fer example . ...

[:D]



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