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LadyAngelika -> RE: switches get a bad wrap (12/23/2009 4:31:54 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Ernesto100
To all:
Is a switch really a bad thing, as long as they are switching from a vannila person who may or may not take care of things in his or her's person's life, to being a demanding person who switched just to get his way. I think a real switch has been given a bad rap by peopel who have met the later not the former
Ernesto,
I read your profile and I think that what you are defining as switch is different than what most people here consider to be a switch.
In BDSM terms, a switch is someone who switches between being 1) a top or a bottom, 2) a dominant or a submissive and/or 3) a sadist or a masochist.
What it seems you are alluding to is someone who switches between a Vanilla lifestyle and a BDSM lifestyle. Though I can see how this could seem like a switch in your mind -- you switch it on, you switch it off -- if you use the term switch here, you will be misunderstood (just see the posts to date).
Many people are chose to just have fun with BDSM now and then without submerging themselves in a full on lifestyle. To further complicate things, people have very different definitions of what living 24/7 BDSM lifestyle means. What might be 24/7 for me might not be what 24/7 for another person is.
Are "part-timers" or occaisional BDSMers seen as something negative, yeah, sometimes and by a few. But there is no reason for this other than ignorance and insecurity, really. I mean, this is your life and your choice. There will always be some people judging you, but you have to be honest. As long as you are honest about the degree of involvement that you want BDSM in your life, you should be fine. The most important is that you are straightforward with people you might be involved with so that you minimize confusion, struggle and eventually dissapointment.
Hope that helps!
- LA
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