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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/20/2009 3:03:08 PM

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Before or after my complimentary "Two Girls One Cup" mass distribution?

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/20/2009 3:34:34 PM

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Before or after my complimentary "Two Girls One Cup" mass distribution?

chia* (the pet)

Don't you dare! I was actually physically ill when I saw that. <shudders>

Now why not be a good little pet and answer the question at hand ;-)

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/20/2009 3:55:54 PM

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You saw my little independent film starring my cousins
Jesska, Kimberrrly and the athletic supporter?

Kewl.

I live in New Mexico (pretty much like old Mexico)
where shooting a man can garner one the respect
and admiration of one's homies. Laying with a man
however, can garner one the privilege of being the
man who gets shot. (so his homies never find out)

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/20/2009 4:09:27 PM

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You saw my little independent film starring my cousins
Jesska, Kimberrrly and the athletic supporter?

Kewl.

I live in New Mexico (pretty much like old Mexico)
where shooting a man can garner one the respect
and admiration of one's homies. Laying with a man
however, can garner one the privilege of being the
man who gets shot. (so his homies never find out)

chia* (the pet)

Damn! What about wrangling up a man and hogtying him?

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 4:55:35 AM

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I'm quite interested in cultures and societies, what they consider to be appreciated and acceptable behaviour.

I live in Montreal, a very sexually liberated and open-minded city, great for kinksters and other individuals of alternate sexual preferences. Of course downtown and its neighbouring boroughs are more liberal than its suburbs. I have found very few areas that have the same kind of feeling: San Francisco, specifically the Castro, Manhattan, specifically the Village. I've heard accounts from Paris, Berlin, London, Amsterdam, though I personally haven't had the opportunity to explore Europe in contexts other than business in the last 10 years.

Many times I've had conversations with people, or read threads on the topic, about the degree to which someone is out about their kink. Now I'm a relatively private person so it isn't important for me to share this part of me with others. I gladly keep it to myself. Then again, I probably would have a lot of leeway based on where it is that I lived. To a certain degree, I would say that no one that I interact with would bat an eyelash if a kink-related remark would come up.

The point I'm trying to make is that some cities make it easier to live your life a little more freely because there seems to be a more accepting vibe. Now most big cities have got their kinky scenes, yes, but many of them need to be relatively clandestine.

Do you share this view?

At any point in your life, did you move to a more liberated city in order to be yourself more freely? Or are you considering it?

Is living where you are now, close to family and the world that you know more important? And if so, do you wish your neighbourhood became more liberated?

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While I have always been considerate of my neighbors, I will live my life as I see fit and if anyone has problem with it, I do not concern myself with what I view as unrealistic expectations of others. I do not need to move to a town or city that is more tolerant. It is not anyone's right to to pass judgement on another.

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 5:30:34 AM

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I live in the south, where the down town area 5 minutes away from my home has about 5 different churches within maybe a mile radius of each other. This area is not conducive to being liberal about the lifestyle. Add on top of that that it's a huge military town with three bases within Beaufort and you've got a lot of people hiding everything they do. The most scandalous thing I'd ever attempt around here was the Easter egg hunt I had my boy go on. He was wearing a thick collar and had to find the egg I'd hidden in our neighborhood (with clues) to get the key to unlock himself. I didn't realize it was the same day as the low-cost animal shots program being held at the fire station literally half a block from our house. Oops

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 11:57:59 AM

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Denmark, my native country i do believe is one of the most liberated countries on earth, there is still a bit of a stigma to BDSM. It is not something you openly display. On the other hand as long you don't flaunt it in peoples face it is accepted. In Copenhagen there is a number of dungeans/fetish place and when you see them it is not obvious what goes on inside. On the other hand fetishwear and bondage gear is freely on display in shopwindows.
I also lived 20 years in South Africa, from 1975 to 1995. Attitudes there on sexual issues was totally repressive under the old government which was heavily influenced by the NGK (Dutch reformed church). When you are not allowed to posses a picture showing a womans nipple, neither was the word condom allowed on TV, i am sure everybody can imagine where that put BDSM. Strange soceity as it certainly existed there, but deep underground. I believe that under the new government that has relaxed a long way as the African sexual morale is a far cry from that of the puritannical view of the NGK and the afrikaner in general. Allready while apartheid was being dismantled porno became freely availiable and some prodommes started advertising and i even did participate in a few munches or kinkparties as we called them.

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 12:13:11 PM

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I have noticed that many places are a lot more free than they used to be. I live in a fairly large midwestern city. Although many people might have some old fashioned views, I have found that a lot of people are quite accepting of how out Ms. Mlicious and I are. Not an hour ago, I ran into a man at the post office who recognized me from having seen me pulling the lady in her rickshaw at the river front.

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 12:31:58 PM

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Living in Mexico is a mixed bag... We've been living or travelling here for most of the last two decades but are still confused by the culture at times. D/s in public is pretty common since it is a macho country. Young girls can dress pretty wild, but better have on a bra and panties... go figure? Being gringos we are given a wide berth on behavior with other gringos, they already think we are crazy for being here so we get away with anything at home. Public nudity here is frowned on but transvestites walk on the streets and punk fashion doesn't raise an eyebrow. If you've ever seen Mexican TV you know sexism is alive and well here but in some families girls don't go on dates without a chaperon... even into their 30's. To add to our confusion things seem to difer with social class which most gringos can't really see very well in the first place. We have tried to break into a bdsm community over the years and are told by the few fetish people we met that if there is one here it is among the very rich and secret, maybe they saw 'eyes wide shut"?.... We have given up on that but still hope to import a slave couple or singles... It is fun trying to figure out thing all the time.

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 3:03:44 PM

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Nice! I'm glad to have so much international perspective. I think I had a good idea of what was happening in Canada & the US but I was really curious elsewhere. The one huge correlation is the link between the presence of religion, which of course I expected.

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighborhood? - 12/21/2009 3:47:07 PM

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I can't really talk about my neighbourhood....but I did shock some of so called friends big time, does that count???

Actually, so big that we aren't friends anymore these days

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 4:14:58 PM

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How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood?

Not at all... and most have youngins frequently wandering about.

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The point I'm trying to make is that some cities make it easier to live your life a little more freely because there seems to be a more accepting vibe.

Not sure what you mean by "freely"? Walking up and down the block in fetish garb... Leading another by collar and leash or ???

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Do you share this view?

I think certain areas within certain cities (certain areas of San Francisco, for example) might be more "accepting", but as stated repeatedly on these boards, we don't feel any more or less "confined" in what we do than any other couple, be they of the 'nilla or power dynamic sort. We both love chocolate cake, for example, but don't feel we're being surpressed or confined or whatever by not walking around wearing shirts that state, "We Love Chocolate Cake!" or bringing a piece of chocolate cake with us wherever we go. People would likely just think, "Weird that they need to let everyone know they love chocoate cake... is there a point to all this?!!". Same thing.

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At any point in your life, did you move to a more liberated city in order to be yourself more freely? Or are you considering it?

Nope... there are about a million other things that are more important to us.

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Is living where you are now, close to family and the world that you know more important?

Not an issue of "importance", or lack thereof... and no different from any other couple, 'nilla or otherwise.

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...do you wish your neighbourhood became more liberated?

Still don't know what you personally would consider "liberated"? Again, walking up and down the block in fetish garb... leading another by collar and leash or ???

As a reference, the city of West Hollywood isn't too far from us, and that's a pretty damn "liberated" city (it's where the annual Gay Parade is held), but even so, most living/working in West Hollywood wouldn't expect to be emersed in such wild displays (and it can get pretty damn wild) on a daily basis.

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighborhood? - 12/21/2009 4:35:03 PM

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I can't really talk about my neighbourhood....but I did shock some of so called friends big time, does that count???

Actually, so big that we aren't friends anymore these days

I'm sorry to hear that. I've actually had good reception to the friends I've come out to. But now've become the kinky sex resident expert for their slap & tickle play! Haha!

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RE: How Kink-friendly is Your Neighbourhood? - 12/21/2009 4:44:54 PM

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The point I'm trying to make is that some cities make it easier to live your life a little more freely because there seems to be a more accepting vibe.

Not sure what you mean by "freely"? Walking up and down the block in fetish garb... Leading another by collar and leash or ???

Perhaps. It was an open question. I wasn't expecting a response.

For the record, even though there are neighbourhoods in Montreal where one can walk up and down the block in fetish garb, I will remain a private person and share pretty much your views on discretion.

I started this thread simply to understand how WIITWD is perceived around the world. I'm learning things from this thread, therefore, I'm pretty glad I've started it!

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