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lally2 -> just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 3:25:01 AM)

.... and i have to share. ive told wisdomtogive, but she hasnt read my cmail yet and im bursting to share this, so please humour me [:)]

a while back, actually quite a long while back this guy strolled up to me and asked me out. he had this air about him i found a little alarming (dominant, very! i realise now) and i hadnt really sussed all of that stuff out then and had convinced myself that men like that just did me no good. i was still getting over the bust from my sons dad and so i turned him down. but ive often regretted it. handsome, charming, a farmer - lovely actually, but a bit scary to me then (not now, i know how to handle all of that stuff now.. lol)

anyhoo.....! [:)]...., i was in my wild wood the other day and didnt realise it but my purse dropped out of my pocket (i never walk with my wallet, i remember feeling it there and thinking i should be careful not to lose it). now to say this wood is wild is to uderstate, plus i go to where only the deer and wild things roam, so its off the beaten track, infact there is no track, its just trees and undergrowth and wildness. so to lose my wallet in there (though i thought id left it at a shop or somewhere else and had spent most of last night ringing around trying to find out if someone had found it, with no luck) but to lose it in there is like losing a needle in a haystack! .

so i get a call from my uncle this morning who says this person rang up to ask if theyd lost a wallet. my aunt shares my name and ive never changed my surname and so my uncle assumes its mine and of course it is. he gave me the number of the person who found it and i rang up.

its the same guy who asked me out - what are the freaking odds. his farm is close to the wood where i clamber about, but its a wild area and the chances of him finding my wallet, him of all people, is so incredibly remote. anyway, im going over tomorrow to pick it up. i know he isnt back with his wife (theyd split when he asked me out) cos i mentioned that the church i had to pass to get to his farm was where my parents had married and hed responded ruefully that was where he'd got married and then added with a laugh 'never mind!'

i know its him but i didnt say so and im pretty sure he doesnt know its me though, when we talked on the phone there was something in his voice that seemed like maybe he did. so...., do i go dolled up, should i be coy and wait for him to ask me out and if he doesnt should i ask him. maybe he wont want to now, maybe he's met someone, but i didnt get that impression. how would you guys play this??????

im just so amazed how fate has kicked in here. we sort of bumped into each other in a supermarket a few months back i was with a friend at the time and i introduced them, he seemed really pleased to see me and hovered about a bit, but i think my friend being there put him off.

well, ill keep you posted. thanks for letting me share.[:)]

edited to add: of course he might be very nilla with no interest in bdsm stuff atall or Ds or anything else like that - but i cant help feeling theres more to him than meets the naked eye. oh well, its a bit of fun if nothing else but.., he delivered me some hay back then when he was pursuing me and his personality was so Dom it really put me off... lol. id just left a Dom, it was the last thing i wanted right then, funnily enough.

i know im coming across as some desparate saddo, im not atall, i just find this whole catalogue of coincidences really amazing




Elizabeth666 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 3:43:28 AM)

Coffee is totally non-threatening and casual. I say ask him out for coffee, chat and have fun.

Either way, good luck :)




LaTigresse -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 3:57:46 AM)

Perhaps, if it was such large odds for him to find it, he was doing something to increase those odds. Like trailing you through those woods. Stop and consider why you found him scary before. Maybe there was good reason.




SweetPoosy -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 4:14:52 AM)

There are no coincidences, whatever happens is meant to happen!

If it were me, I'd make sure that I look good, but not anything out of the ordinary. If you believe that you missed an opportunity when he asked you out before, then this is an excellent opportunity to rectify that. If he looks interested, but reluctant to be rejected a second time, then you have the perfect opening to take him out for coffee or lunch as a thank you for finding your wallet.

You can also find out just WHERE he found your wallet, and if there is anything that seems stalker-ish in his answer, then you can end the acquaintance after lunch is over.

Also, he probably knows that it is you, and you will be able to see what hopes he may have by how he presents himself.

Let us know what happens! I'll be holding high hopes for you!




Aileen1968 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 4:30:28 AM)

Doll yourself up, smell really good and smile. Meet him and trust your instincts. Don't assume he will be like others that you've had bad experiences with. Have fun.




Lucienne -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 4:56:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Perhaps, if it was such large odds for him to find it, he was doing something to increase those odds. Like trailing you through those woods. Stop and consider why you found him scary before. Maybe there was good reason.


I admit my  response to the OP was 7 parts "awww" and 3 parts of the above. How long has the OP been traipsing around those woods? Was she aware that his farm was adjacent to her traipsing ground? Is it possible that she was the ones trying to increase the odds of an encounter (subconsciously or not)? Did the wallet not have a picture in it of the OP that the man would recognize?

Lally, I wouldn't worry at this point if the man is kinky or not. It does seem important to be sensitive to your initial negative reaction to him. It could be exactly what you think it is. Or it could be that a perfectly healthy self-protective response is being confused and lost in the jumble of all the growth and education you've gone through since that first encounter. You don't sound "saddo," you sound excited by the potential. Don't let your imagination get carried away (I know, easier said than done). Is it too late for you to call him back and say "hey, I realize we've already met, why don't you bring the wallet into town and I'll treat you to lunch?"






lronitulstahp -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 5:14:22 AM)

quote:

 handsome, charming, a farmer -
*drool*

you had me at this point....what's that people said about safety?????




breatheasone -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 5:49:00 AM)

~~FR~~

Its KISMIT!




lally2 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 6:46:00 AM)


what kismit?

i honestly didnt know his farm was close(ish) to the wood, i knew he lived in boldre but its a widespread area, mostly rural so, no, i didnt mean to leave my wallet there for him to find, it never occured to me that he even went into the wood, the whole area of Boldre is woodland and open heathland and country. this particular wood is a tiny little pocket compared to the forests and open country around really and not much interest i wouldnt have thought to a busy farmer. i truely believe him finding the wallet was a total coincidence and all he did was the decent thing in trying to find its owner. alot of people would have just dropped it of with the police.

LT, i take youre point absolutely but the reason i didnt agree to go out with him was because i was just coming out of a relationship and he was just (from what i could make out) going through a divorce - the timing was all wrong. i didnt get a bad vibe, the only thing that put me off was that he was/is quite a strong personality and i just wasnt receptive to that then, or any man for that matter. but i will keep the possibility in mind.

i go to the wood alot, at random times and if he goes there too he might have seen me before. he knows my first name but beyond that he knows nothing about me. when he delivered the hay it was to a place im not at anymore.

anyway, ill be careful - but he's only ever come through as youre typical bloke really. if he was a stalker he would have surely stalked me back then or at the yard where i was keeping my horses, but he didnt.

but yes, youre right and thanks, i hadnt thought of that and ill take care.




wisdomtogive -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 6:48:30 AM)

hi lally

Sorry i didn't get back to emailing you, I did read it. Phone work been busy :).
Oh i am so excited for you...and just keep yourself aware and take it in slow steps. don't write the ending of this yet...just let it open and explore.

i will email you when i get a chance..wanted to pull a few cards:)





lally2 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 6:49:39 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

 handsome, charming, a farmer -
*drool*

you had me at this point....what's that people said about safety?????


giggle)) - he has deep brown eyes, like chocolate. ive been having all sorts of fantasies about it all day - but the guys are right i guess [&o] need to get a grip (a bit) [:D]




breatheasone -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 6:49:52 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2
what kismit?

Serendipity baby!




lally2 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 6:50:38 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

hi lally

Sorry i didn't get back to emailing you, I did read it. Phone work been busy :).
Oh i am so excited for you...and just keep yourself aware and take it in slow steps. don't write the ending of this yet...just let it open and explore.

i will email you when i get a chance..wanted to pull a few cards:)





K [:)] xx




lally2 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 6:54:37 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Elizabeth666

Coffee is totally non-threatening and casual. I say ask him out for coffee, chat and have fun.

Either way, good luck :)


i thought what id say was 'ive often regretted turning down that drink' that way he can either shrug and say 'oh well' or he can say 'the offer is still there'

whaddya think?? subtle, non pushy, gives him room for maonoever




wisdomtogive -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 7:04:24 AM)

You got cmail hun:)




windchymes -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 9:31:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2


quote:

ORIGINAL: Elizabeth666

Coffee is totally non-threatening and casual. I say ask him out for coffee, chat and have fun.

Either way, good luck :)


i thought what id say was 'ive often regretted turning down that drink' that way he can either shrug and say 'oh well' or he can say 'the offer is still there'

whaddya think?? subtle, non pushy, gives him room for maonoever


I think that's totally reasonable and "innocent".  [:)]  

Sounds like the song "Christmas Wrapping" by The Waitresses.  They meet and keep bumping into each other all year long but can't get it together until they bump into each other in the grocery store.......




GYPSYMAMBO -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 12:57:33 PM)

LALLY
awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww right on[:)]

 
GM




Elizabeth666 -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 3:09:08 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2


quote:

ORIGINAL: Elizabeth666

Coffee is totally non-threatening and casual. I say ask him out for coffee, chat and have fun.

Either way, good luck :)


i thought what id say was 'ive often regretted turning down that drink' that way he can either shrug and say 'oh well' or he can say 'the offer is still there'

whaddya think?? subtle, non pushy, gives him room for maonoever


I think it spunds good :)

Good luck :D




LookieNoNookie -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 3:13:02 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2

.... and i have to share. ive told wisdomtogive, but she hasnt read my cmail yet and im bursting to share this, so please humour me [:)]

a while back, actually quite a long while back this guy strolled up to me and asked me out. he had this air about him i found a little alarming (dominant, very! i realise now) and i hadnt really sussed all of that stuff out then and had convinced myself that men like that just did me no good. i was still getting over the bust from my sons dad and so i turned him down. but ive often regretted it. handsome, charming, a farmer - lovely actually, but a bit scary to me then (not now, i know how to handle all of that stuff now.. lol)

anyhoo.....! [:)]...., i was in my wild wood the other day and didnt realise it but my purse dropped out of my pocket (i never walk with my wallet, i remember feeling it there and thinking i should be careful not to lose it). now to say this wood is wild is to uderstate, plus i go to where only the deer and wild things roam, so its off the beaten track, infact there is no track, its just trees and undergrowth and wildness. so to lose my wallet in there (though i thought id left it at a shop or somewhere else and had spent most of last night ringing around trying to find out if someone had found it, with no luck) but to lose it in there is like losing a needle in a haystack! .

so i get a call from my uncle this morning who says this person rang up to ask if theyd lost a wallet. my aunt shares my name and ive never changed my surname and so my uncle assumes its mine and of course it is. he gave me the number of the person who found it and i rang up.

its the same guy who asked me out - what are the freaking odds. his farm is close to the wood where i clamber about, but its a wild area and the chances of him finding my wallet, him of all people, is so incredibly remote. anyway, im going over tomorrow to pick it up. i know he isnt back with his wife (theyd split when he asked me out) cos i mentioned that the church i had to pass to get to his farm was where my parents had married and hed responded ruefully that was where he'd got married and then added with a laugh 'never mind!'

i know its him but i didnt say so and im pretty sure he doesnt know its me though, when we talked on the phone there was something in his voice that seemed like maybe he did. so...., do i go dolled up, should i be coy and wait for him to ask me out and if he doesnt should i ask him. maybe he wont want to now, maybe he's met someone, but i didnt get that impression. how would you guys play this??????

im just so amazed how fate has kicked in here. we sort of bumped into each other in a supermarket a few months back i was with a friend at the time and i introduced them, he seemed really pleased to see me and hovered about a bit, but i think my friend being there put him off.

well, ill keep you posted. thanks for letting me share.[:)]

edited to add: of course he might be very nilla with no interest in bdsm stuff atall or Ds or anything else like that - but i cant help feeling theres more to him than meets the naked eye. oh well, its a bit of fun if nothing else but.., he delivered me some hay back then when he was pursuing me and his personality was so Dom it really put me off... lol. id just left a Dom, it was the last thing i wanted right then, funnily enough.

i know im coming across as some desparate saddo, im not atall, i just find this whole catalogue of coincidences really amazing


I didn't read the whole post....just to the punchline.

You have to go....the outerworldly essence is calling you....you have to respond.

(You must).




persephonee -> RE: just such a funny thing has happened. (12/15/2009 3:19:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lally2


quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp

quote:

 handsome, charming, a farmer -
*drool*

you had me at this point....what's that people said about safety?????


giggle)) - he has deep brown eyes, like chocolate. ive been having all sorts of fantasies about it all day - but the guys are right i guess [&o] need to get a grip (a bit) [:D]


Okay, heres my initial reaction to your OP...my gut instinct, which is wise and true says the following:

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