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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/6/2009 4:56:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Are you sensitive..... are you a hard ass? what is sensitive anyways. What is a hard ass!!! and not not your back side either *grin*.....um well not that it isn't hard!!!! but... I am not saying it is... I just don't know if it is or isn't... oh my... I am digressing here!

anyways...

My girls would like tell you that I am Highly Sensitive... but many would say that I am Cold as Space!

The reality is... my sensitivity is directly connected to the emotional connection to the individuls making said comments. Those that I have a signficant emotional connection will have more weight to their impact on my sensitivity than those that are of little or not siggnificance...

Then of course... another fact for me.. . is the issue it self. Some issues... it really doesn't matter who the person is at all... some issues... No one will affect my opinion or push my buttons.. sometimes I even feign the button is pushed to draw them in.... I find that they become very exposed when they believe they have an advantage...

Of course... some things/issues will be hot button for me... but those are very very few.

So... what are your thoughts on your own sensitivity..... do you think your over sensitive... to much of a hard ass... or... is this bed JUST RIGHT!!!

I kinda like the bed I am sleeping in for the most part... But... it did take me work to get to where I am today!

Depends on who you ask..I like to think I'm a little of both when needed..I prefer to be the sweet sensitive person whenever possible but have no problem flipping the nitrous switch when I deem necessary.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/6/2009 5:33:53 PM

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KoM,

thank you for an interesting topic.

Firstly i was tempted to answer: Your opening post covers the way i am nearly exact, but then i thought why bother to answer, if i only say: Yes.

After reading other replies, i renembered something somebody on here wrote in an message. He accompanied another person to a hospital specialized in oncology, and that part was further specialized into brain tumours.

And during the day they spend there, he saw an unblievable amount of people suffering, but what led to him crying, was in the end the amount of children who were visibly very ill and so near their death.

The reason i cite that?

Because i am the same as him. My compassion, my sensitivity is not limited to my family (be it blood or my choosen), my most beloved kind of dog or Celtic Glasgow, but and that made growing up a nice challlenge, to everybody. Even as a jew, i can not stop to feel the hurt, talking to a Palestinian men, who can not travel to Haifa, because the Isrealians would not allow it.

Because there is no black and white in my books. Certainly i have my topics where i feel black or white, but in reality there is not such an easy way out.

And the same goes for my hardassing self. I was or choose to be a warrior a long time ago.

Over the years i learned to control both integral parts of my being, but that learning process will never stop.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/9/2009 9:31:46 PM

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After reading other replies, i renembered something somebody on here wrote in an message. He accompanied another person to a hospital specialized in oncology, and that part was further specialized into brain tumours.

And during the day they spend there, he saw an unblievable amount of people suffering, but what led to him crying, was in the end the amount of children who were visibly very ill and so near their death.

And the worst of it was... you could see in their faces that they didn't know. They didn't really understand what was happening. But their parents did - you could see that in their faces.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/10/2009 3:45:17 AM

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Yes that would be horrible for me, perhaps because I am a parent.

I think I am much like KoM described himself. Some would see me as very sensitive while others will describe me as quite a hard ass. And the hardass in me is going to say that from me, you get what you deserve. If I do not care about you, trust you, etc.....you will likely only see the hardass or more likely, the personally reserved, but friendly and laughing, LeeAnn. I won't take the effort to give much of any effort for any emotion at all. But if something about a person or situation touches my heart, then you will see other aspects that show signs of sensitivity and caring.

Something I realized, just this last Saturday, is that most people have no idea who I really am. Even people that have known me for decades. A relative said to me, Lee I have known you for over 20 years and I still don't know you at all. You are a total enigma. I was actually rather surprised.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/10/2009 4:40:05 AM

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You are a total enigma

La Tigresse,

that quote made me smile, because it is quite common to refer to my first husband as sphinx.
Somebody used it for him as he was 25 and it is still with him some 20 years later.

Reason is the same as the one you described, people seem not to know him, even if they have spend a lot of time with him. Not because he is such a closed person, but because he surprises other people with totally unexpected behaviour.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/10/2009 7:55:34 AM

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With me it is because I am so closed to most people. Which leads back to a deep inner sensitivity towards others. Not in being sensitive of their feelings, etc. but of how they could affect me. If I open myself up to everyone, I feel and absorb too much from them.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/10/2009 2:08:50 PM

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niether.

im not a hard ass and could never be. i can try to be but it twists back on me and i feel guilty. but niether am i over sensitive (anymore) - that was a nightmare.

much of the time i kinda slip along the stream inbetween these two things. strong enough to take care of myself, soft enough to feel vulnerable.

i can get seriously passionate about something, like the arse holes that drive too fast through the new forest here and run over the animals. (another dead pony on the side of the road yesterday) - its a good thing i dont have a grenade gun attached to my car, id blast those bastards to hell. (readjusts twisted knickers) - but thats not the same thing.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/10/2009 2:19:31 PM

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This is best answered by cheese 90's soft rock.

I'm a bitch, I'm a lover
I'm a child, I'm a mother
I'm a sinner, I'm a saint
I do not feel ashamed
I'm your hell, I'm your dream
I'm nothing inbetween
You know you wouldn't want me any other way

I some instances, I can be extremely sweet and sensitive - i'd say it's probably one of my best qualities. However, when needs arise I can be as bitchy and cold as Naomi Cambel on her period in the arctic. Like you, it depends on the people and the situation. In general, though, I feel I am more extroverted than introverted, and more sympathetic than apathetic.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/11/2009 3:49:18 PM

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La Tigresse,

yesterday the sphinx husband called and i read your words to him and he corrected me and said, that it is exactly the same with him as what you described for yourself. He seems not closed to me, because i know him so long.

I thought that was interesting, because enigma and sphinx are not so very far from each other.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/14/2009 10:27:28 AM

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I'm a little late to the party here, but it's an interesting topic to me. I'm finding lately that I am more sensitive than I thought I was. I think it's because only recently I've allowed myself to feel what I feel, and to acknowledge those feelings rather than cover them up by calling myself "too sensitive" or telling myself I shouldn't feel this or that. I feel what I feel, and I can acknowledge whether those feelings are rational or triggered by post traumatic stress, or anything else. The truth is, however, I can be easily affected and even hurt by people who are close to me, to a degree that actually surprises me. While I know I am responsible for those feelings, I no longer tell myself I am wrong for having them.

That said, I don't own anyone else's feelings, either, which can make me seem insensitive to some. I try to be considerate in the way I communicate, but I'm not co-dependent in this way anymore, which is a good thing!

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/15/2009 10:04:00 AM

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I'm a bitch, I'm a lover
I'm a child, I'm a mother
I'm a sinner, I'm a saint
I do not feel ashamed
I'm your hell, I'm your dream
I'm nothing inbetween
You know you wouldn't want me any other way

Great song, as i bought the cd some years back, it used to run in my head all the time.

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