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Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/4/2009 8:04:30 PM

KnightofMists

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Are you sensitive..... are you a hard ass? what is sensitive anyways. What is a hard ass!!! and not not your back side either *grin*.....um well not that it isn't hard!!!! but... I am not saying it is... I just don't know if it is or isn't... oh my... I am digressing here!

anyways...

My girls would like tell you that I am Highly Sensitive... but many would say that I am Cold as Space!

The reality is... my sensitivity is directly connected to the emotional connection to the individuls making said comments. Those that I have a signficant emotional connection will have more weight to their impact on my sensitivity than those that are of little or not siggnificance...

Then of course... another fact for me.. . is the issue it self. Some issues... it really doesn't matter who the person is at all... some issues... No one will affect my opinion or push my buttons.. sometimes I even feign the button is pushed to draw them in.... I find that they become very exposed when they believe they have an advantage...

Of course... some things/issues will be hot button for me... but those are very very few.

So... what are your thoughts on your own sensitivity..... do you think your over sensitive... to much of a hard ass... or... is this bed JUST RIGHT!!!

I kinda like the bed I am sleeping in for the most part... But... it did take me work to get to where I am today!

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/4/2009 8:45:29 PM

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Both. Depends on the situation. Depends on my mood.

Sometimes I'm sensitive to certain things, certain times.

Other times you'd find people saying that I am just cold and ruthless.

I like to think that I'm a finely balanced person although there is the occasional tilt too far in one direction or the other.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 5:23:51 AM

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Im mixed. I'm not generally sensitive regarding people (not counting children), but animal cruelty and such hits a nerve.

A dead body in the street would not bother me as much as a dead dog.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 5:39:52 AM

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There are a lot of variables in this question.

In most situations I come off leaning toward the indifferent side. Kinda analytical. It just is type of thing.

Then there are times that the situation needs to get done. Then I can get to be a bit demanding. The hard ass.

Then there are times when I can relax. When I am with someone that I have an emotional connection with I can be sensitive. Also a bit playful.

To most people I come off as more of a motivator. I push them to achieve. But in a way that is not overbearing. Though some may say that I can be a hard ass.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 5:41:45 AM

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I have always been too sensitive. I genuinely care about people. I though have learned to not fix them, or change them. I am very seldom a hard ass, but it is there within me, and i will draw on it when needed

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 5:43:08 AM

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Im very senstive. Please dont hurt my feelings.

Yours... I could give a rats ass about!

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 5:52:55 AM

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depends on the person

I can be cold, hard, sensitive....even weak towards some people

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 6:01:19 AM

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For me, being sensitive is simply a reaction that I feel, which is closely connected to being aware. I can cry, display empathy, sympathy, anger, bewilderment or any number of a wide range of emotional reactions, depending upon the situation. I've spent a lot of time learning to balance the intensity of my reactions, and in general like to maintain a balanced equilibrium. I have deep respect for others who have mastered themselves enough to react with not only the appropriate reaction to the given stimuli, but to have a measure of control over the intensity of it as well.

It's easy to see who has not worked on themselves in these areas by the way they respond to events/others they come into contact with. Folks who haven't healed or come to terms with the pain from their past will often over-react or react inappropriately when faced with normal situations in daily life.

Being sensitive in this world is often difficult when one is constantly forced to see all the struggles, pain and difficulties in it. Everywhere we look, it seems that our senses are being BLASTED and over-stimulated by the wars, poverty, drugs, anger, lies, deceit and so on. It's been very tempting to "shut down" , crawl inside a hole and die..But so far, I have not.......

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 6:24:11 AM

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In all seriousness, I think empathy is a very good quality to have. It shows the ability to emotionally connect with others.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 6:28:38 AM

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I think everyone gives more or less weight depending on how they feel about the person doing the talking. Someone you think of as a total idiot criticizing you would be taken as a sign to keep on doing what you're doing. Someone whose respect you want telling you that would be given a great deal more weight.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 6:48:41 AM

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I am sensitive about my loved ones and like omb, I am sensitive about animals.
I am cold and perhaps ruthless to anyone who threatens my family or anyone who is cruel to animals.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 6:49:20 AM

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The way people are discussing sensitivity seems more to do with their response to sensory input, not whether or not they get the input. One responds sensitively to a person you care about. One disregards the sensory input from a person one does not care about and therefore can appear to be a hard ass.

Not that I mind the confusion. For the most part, I'd rather have a person I've offended thinking that I'm merely insensitive instead of knowing that I'm fully aware of their emotion and immediate desire I've just made a conscious decision that it's not important to me under the circumstances.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 7:16:32 AM

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I believe that "sensitive" in the context of online forums is one of those hot button buzzwords like "Closed-minded", or "doormat". "Closed-Minded" means "you don't agree with me and I can't convince you". A "Doormat" is someone who is more submissive than I am, and someone is "Sensitive" who is insulted by something that wouldn't insult me.

It's all about perception, to some people I am sensiitve and empathetic and others consider me a cold bitch.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 7:30:52 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I think everyone gives more or less weight depending on how they feel about the person doing the talking.

So ....... what are you saying here - are you saying i'm overweight?????? Are you weightist??? Thats an insult and i stand insulted!!!!!! How could you? I'm very sensitive about my weight!!!!!! *turns and storms off*

and on a completely different issue, there are some so-called sensitive people who just use their "sensitivity" to browbeat others into doing what they want. ( but not DesFIP - i was just using her.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 7:37:09 AM

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I've often been described as sensitive.. but not in the "my feelings are easily hurt" context.. more in the context that I have a strong sense of empathy. I am sensitive to what those around me are feeling, and it matters to me what they feel. I make an effort to be a positive emotional influence on others, and in return, I "pick up on" their moods, and I end up in a positive state. However, a bunch of grumpy people won't necessarily make me grumpy.. I still have the most influence over my own moods.
It's not a major thing.. but it's helpful in my relationships, to be able to pick up on moods before they become issues.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 10:52:23 AM

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The answer to this one is a part of why I created My signature line.

There are a few folks running around here who will tell you that, when it comes to those that I care about, I am absolutely nothing like what most people with no experience in wiitwd, think a Dominant woman is. In other words, I'm somewhat of a softie under the surface. Most don't understand how that works considering that it's mixed with a good dose of sadism. Oh, I'll delight in the fun I have showing a bottom a new meaning of the word pain when playing. Let that same bottom be exposed to something that wasn't of My own creation, and I'll be the first one rushing to make sure they are all right.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 11:37:48 AM

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One of my better attributes is my sensitivity will only show in actions not words

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 12:04:23 PM

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Regarding myself...it depends on who you ask.

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 1:57:49 PM

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For me, i think my sister summed it up perfectly a few years ago in stating i am a compassionate hard-ass. Although she was refering to my vanilla persona and big heart, generosity and compassion to others, i saw it as reflecting my power exchange persona as well.

The hard-ass aspect to me pertains to values and character attributes such as trust, honesty, respect, integrity, etc. Seldom do i relinquish ground in those areas and typically for me it is the principle that matters. It is my value structure and two way venue in that i give such and in return also anticipate it from others. It is something taken seriously and when it is lacking i am with little compromise... or what others call stubborness.

I am sensitive as i care and attempt to attune myself to the feelings of others and perhaps too often allow it to influence me. I can be wishy-washy at times and willingly will go with the flow so to speak, easily adapting to circumstance as it transpires. Also sensitive if my character is assailed or if my buttons are purposely being pushed. In being sensitive to such i typically react strongly. Obstinance or stupidity for the sake of stupidity gives me a rash. It is someting i am sensitive to and thus with very little patience for.

At times it is confusing to see myself as so hard, strong and even stubborn but at the same time to see myself as totally opposite. Do not always understand such aspect but i am totally content with it.

If you are not pushing the envelope... you are not pushing hard enough!

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RE: Sensitivity!!!!! - 12/5/2009 5:47:38 PM

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Like it says on my profile, "a marshmallow with a titanium core". I am very empathetic, I have suffered a great deal in my life, and I understand what that's like. That doesn't mean that I can be coerced just to make someone else happyhappy at my own expense.

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