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Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 8:36:58 AM   
devilishpixie


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Status: offline 		How far in advance did you start planning? I feel silly but I already have ideas running through my head. I don't want to use a wedding planner of anything of that nature I want to do it myself. So when is to soon?

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 8:48:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think its ever too soon to start planning. However - lots of places won't book anything farther than two years from your date. Places like reception halls and bands or D.J's.

Things to start planning - when, - pick a season - know that most places September and June weekends book up the earliest.
Things you can get done- know about what flowers you want - if any at all, style of dress - are you going to have a religious service? IF you are and you are not involved currently in a church - you might want to get involved (the catholic churches around here are strict about this policy)
If money is going to be a major factor in planning your wedding - you need to also think about alternative locations AND alternative days other than the standard saturday.
Friday weddings get you a serious discount around here....
I found a great deal at a local winery- 25.99 per person included dinner, a bottle of wine per every 2 people and the cake, flowers on the table (simple but pretty) and the D.J.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 8:56:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		It depends on what month you want your wedding to be. If it's a popular month like June, July, September or October, then you should start planning about 18 months ahead of time to have the best pick of locations, DJs, etc. Also, dates like November 2011 will be booked well ahead of time (11-11); October 2010 (10-10) is most likely out of the question at this point.

Halloween weddings are more unusual so you'll have more time. I would start looking at locations/vendors next summer, and start putting down deposits next August/September (note that vendors will be going into their busy season so will be slower to be available to meet with you or respond to correspondance). DJ/band and photographer should be booked about the same time as the location, and flowers can wait for a while after that. You want to order a dress about 9-10 months before the wedding if you're doing the traditional wedding gown thing - most places need about 6 months to order, then time to alter. Don't order it TOO early, because you may change your mind on the style (and don't keep looking at wedding dresses AFTER you order it for the same reason).

At this stage in the game, start a file with a notebook - tear out pictures in magazines you like, print out ones you find online, and write down ideas you have.

The biggest piece of advice I can give you is this: remember that while your wedding is about you and your future spouse, the reception is FOR your family and friends - take into account what they need to be comfortable and have a good time, too :-)

You DON'T need a wedding planner. You DO need to work with competant professionals (location managers, vendors, etc) and you need 100% reliable family/friends to handle last minute things for you.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 9:02:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well we both agreed on a Halloween Wedding for 2011 and want an outdoor wedding (weather permitting). And no we agreed nothing tradional, although I have already raised concerns about how his families reactions. lol I dont want our wedding to alienate anyone. He says it wont.

Its funny but I already have a vision for our wedding.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 9:32:19 AM   
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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 9:34:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		We both have been married before and said we would NEVER do it again. Then we meet and well we can't see not being married to each other.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 9:34:48 AM   
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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 5:49:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Most wedding planners advise at least a year in advance. If the church or hall you plan on using is ultrapopular you may want to rent a year and a half to two years in advance.

I was married by a JP. He asked me to marry him and we went to get married the next day. Unfortunately we had to wait a month because I had to order a new birth certificate. UGH.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 5:51:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow you just reminded me I can't find my birth certificate and its form out of state. lmfao

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 6:29:27 PM   
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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 6:35:15 PM   
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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 6:35:49 PM   
devilishpixie


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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 6:40:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL gotta be honest.  I had little to do with it.  It was handled entirely by friends from here.  Left up to me and Jonnie, it'd have been done at the courthouse.  I think the only thing I actually did was book the venue (which Tulip turned me on to)

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 6:46:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am so glad that my master is really wanting to get involved in the planning and even my teen daughter wants to get involved when time comes in the decorations ect.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 7:21:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't know what kind of wedding you are going to have. How many people? How much is your budget for the wedding?

Book and start planning a year in advance. Check out your local Library for books on planning a wedding.

If it is outdoors, make sure if the weather is inclimate that you have a back up place to have your wedding. I hear that a DJ is what most people are having at weddings now.

Good luck!

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 7:34:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		We wrapped the whole thing up in a couple of months before the big day, but as always, your mileage may vary.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 7:47:25 PM   
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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 8:37:58 PM   
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Wow you just reminded me I can't find my birth certificate and its form out of state. lmfao


You may also have to show the divorce decrees from your previous marriages to get the license.  Better to have them and not need them than to need  them and not have them. 

As others have said, if you want a certain hall for the reception or a certain DJ at your wedding it's really not too early to start booking those sorts of things. 

Had a friend who got married for a second time and didn't need to show her divorce decree.  Her new husband was in the military.  Three years later when she had a baby and the military added the baby to his service jacket it was discovered that they had married a few days BEFORE her first marriage was legally ended.  They spent the next six months making trips to lawyers, swearing to statements and all kinds of other stuff.  They had to hurry up and remarry again too to make it legal.  What a mess it was with the military wanting repaid for all the costs of military moves that included her, tax questions, etc. 

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 8:40:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yea i have all of that. I just need to get a new notorized birth certificate.

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RE: Question about weddings... - 10/25/2009 8:44:43 PM   
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So when is to soon?


When you haven't picked out a groom yet.  LOL.

As far as birth certificate or divorce decree, neither I nor my husband needed either when we got married.  Drivers licenses and the date of his divorce was all we needed.  I called the clerk of court for the marriage license department and asked them what we needed.

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