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aldompdx -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 1:22:02 PM)

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the truth..is black and white..
you wouldn't know if you bought cola or 7-up?


... but for that pesky little word "THE" which spreads ambiguity throughout your certain truth.

The subject of discussion has no absolute universal truth, such as the "speed of light" or the gravitational constant. Only a narcissist would "know" their truth to be absolute. Thus applying the "reasonable man" legal standard, it is patently obvious that here are discussed relative rather than absolute truths.

BTW, what kind of cola? Would that be the Cost Of Living Adjustment to social security? Would it be dn-L instead of 7-up, or Limca? "The truth" is that it is mostly soda water and sugar, not the ambiguous and culturally relative "absolute truth" labels you suggest.

Thank you for demonstrating my point about limited conceptual thinking.



Justme696 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 1:30:09 PM)

the point is not what cola..the point is cola or 7-up.
What kind of cola would also need a label.
See..with my labels I already could chose between cola or 7-up. You wouldn't be able to do that.

oh man..look up the word  truth...

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Thank you for demonstrating my point about limited conceptual thinking.


glad you admit.
lol





xssve -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 9:49:16 AM)

For every online submissive, there are probably a thousand online dominants.

There are very few submissive women available at all in my immediate area, I was set to meet one recently who I seem to have a lot in common with, but her online dom told her not too, which is just being greedy IMO.

I talk to a few long distance subs, but I don't try to tell them not to have any RL relationships, at our age, you have to make hay while the sun shines.

In my experience, the women who are looking for an online dom exclusively, tend to be married and only comfortable with an online relationship, which could work out for everybody.



mnottertail -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 9:51:02 AM)

how am I gonna eat a online ribeye, garlic mashed, and asparagus?

I don't even know how to compute the calorie count.

Ron



xssve -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 10:03:35 AM)

Lot's of people disparage it, particularly in here, but it constitutes a paraphilia all on it's own - fact is a lot of people have urges they'd like to act out on but can't, for various reasons - I think cybering is on the list of things you can include in your profile preferences, but most profiles I read specify they aren't interested in cybering in the body text.

I'm really not that good at it if I'm trying, I'm very much into visual and physical feedback, cybering is like sensory deprivation for me, it just makes me agitated.

I do my best, the cyber relationships I have, the women came to me, but I find it a bit frustrating overall.

Still, it might be nice get rid of the whole onus, it is pretty much safe sex, and mutual masturbation is probably better and more sociable than going it alone.



RealSub58 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 11:29:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DesertEagle44

i just dont like to lie to any.  im a Quadriplegic so everything is in my head.  your prob. asking "how can a Quadriplegic be a dom"  i think its possible but who knows. 



You are speaking of mental, sexual online control ??
I do know of one married woman that found this type of submission satisfying. 

Women, for the most part, are wired for the emotional and physical intimacy that is not available with online control. 

Being afraid to go offline with your desires is a fear that is not realistic. 

It is a rare and beautiful spirit in a woman that would unconditionally accept your "condition" as well as the man inside the body that is "wounded."   Finding her means looking in the right places in the real world not the world of a webcam and keyboard.

Control is mental, physical, spiritual, emotional.
I remember one of the first times I was with my Sir....  there was such an emotional and mental control that I cam with no manual stimulation.  But I was also in his arms.

Negativity of finding your desires and fear of unconditonal acceptance  is something you must work through or you will be whining for a long time.

Only if you have searched a lifetime and found nothing would I believe no such woman existed for YOU.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 11:38:24 AM)

It's not shallow* despite the debate on the weight thread* to not want someone based on something they are or they do, or they are not. It's a preference and it's completely their right, and when you start realizing that, maybe you'll  be ok with it.

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ORIGINAL: DesertEagle44



i just wonder why most, not all people are so shallow. 

im not trying to start a fight here, im just voicing my option and the truth

thomas





DesFIP -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 11:43:41 AM)

I'm not sure how much of it is a conscious choice. Some of it is inherent in us. Lots of us are only attracted to men of a certain type. I'm not attracted to shorter men. Doesn't matter how nice a person he is, he still isn't someone who does it for me. I don't go for bald men or redheads. And this has been true my entire life. I'm not choosing to do this, I simply am this way.

Shallow implies choice. If it's something I'm wired for, then I don't have the choice.



porcelaine -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 11:44:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

It's not shallow* despite the debate on the weight thread* to not want someone based on something they are or they do, or they are not. It's a preference and it's completely their right, and when you start realizing that, maybe you'll  be ok with it.


*golf claps*

i swear that word keeps cropping up every time someone's personal choice excludes another. [;)]

porcelaine



xssve -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 12:23:59 PM)

There was a disability forum I used to visit, can't seem to find it again - there were some horny paraplegics.Try googling.



DrkJourney -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/18/2009 12:49:43 PM)

All the "truth" talk aside.  I've seen several people here that said you were offered names of people that want online, and others who have offered you other suggestions.  So since you made this thread, does that mean you exercised "your" right to choose and turned down these people and suggestions?  Does that make "you" shallow?

Also, my opinion only (cause some people might like such things), looking at your profile, after a few paragraphs I'd be outta there.  It has a bunch of flowery language, but it doesn't come out and say who you are and what you are looking for.  A lot of people, including myself like just plain old conversation.  Put all the rest in your journal.

Am I wrong that this post is about people that reject you because of your physical situation? You say they want online, then they find out about your physical limits and back off?  If this is the case maybe it's "when" you tell them.  It's not in your profile...so it's not like you are contacting people that say they only want online, they read your profile that states "the truth" and turn you down.  Maybe if you don't tell them up front, and you are telling them somewhere down the line, say maybe if they ask to meet their new friend, maybe they thing you have more "truths" that you didn't tell them....like maybe a wife....I've personally been hit by that one before.

Let people know about you and what you are looking for, and for goodness sake if people send people your way...act on it

good luck to you



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