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DesertEagle44 -> On Line Dominance (10/16/2009 11:37:53 PM)
people keep telling me that a few women like the mental part of this lifestyle. i have been trying to find her for years. if people know who i em, you will know why. i know trust and the truth dont seem important to most but i must be one of a few people who believe in the truth. i just wonder why most, not all people are so shallow. im not trying to start a fight here, im just voicing my option and the truth thomas

Justme696 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/16/2009 11:52:46 PM)
quote: im just voicing my option and the truth if it is the truth...then there is nothing to discuss

sravaka -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 12:03:35 AM)
quote: people keep telling me that a few women like the mental part of this lifestyle. i have been trying to find her for years. if people know who i em, you will know why. i know trust and the truth dont seem important to most but i must be one of a few people who believe in the truth. i just wonder why most, not all people are so shallow. im not trying to start a fight here, im just voicing my option and the truth Truth? A large proportion of those who like the mental part like some sort of physical part to go along with it. Are you implying that only indifference to the physical part qualifies as "true"? and/or "deep"? If you'd put it in terms of "true" interpersonal connection, so wonderful and compelling that physical considerations pale, or some such... i might have a particle of sympathy. For good or ill, you have to work with what is out there, not bemoan the lack of what would be convenient. And bringing terms like "true" and "shallow" into it will only work against you. Drop them and try again.

aldompdx -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 12:11:17 AM)
quote: if it is the truth...then there is nothing to discuss Justme -- I hear black and white thinking...limited by labels and assumptions. DesertEagle: The brain is the greatest erogenous zone. Almost every woman's priority is the mental and emotional aspect of relating with a partner. Trust is more often misplaced than it is breached. Confidence gained through the experience of honesty is very important to many people. Every person has depth. The question is whether they have explored it and gained their deeper awareness. This is one area in which a master earns the confidence of his partner. By exemplifying depth, discipline, and self mastery, one guides their partner to greater awareness of self.

Justme696 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 12:15:17 AM)
quote: Justme -- I hear black and white thinking...limited by labels and assumptions. the truth..is black and white.. Opnions are not so black and white people who use the the word "truth" in a discussion...leave no space for a discussion. Never go into a discussion with people who preach the "truth" ps with out labels you wouldn't know if you bought cola or 7-up :P

DesertEagle44 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 1:19:00 AM)
i just dont like to lie to any. im a Quadriplegic so everything is in my head. your prob. asking "how can a Quadriplegic be a dom" i think its possible but who knows.

GreedyTop -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 1:29:38 AM)
Personally, what I keep thinking is "why does he keep posting essentially the same thing over and over again?"

DarkSteven -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 3:29:52 AM)
Repeat advertising, perhaps? OP, I don't know why you cannot find online only female submissives. I just sent you a mail with the profiles of two Denver area ones. Good luck.

DesFIP -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 3:51:30 AM)
Preferring to have a relationship that is mental, emotional and physical is not shallow, it is a preference. I'm curious if you are picking out who to write based in part on their pictures, because for online only that should not be a criteria.

DomImus -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 4:21:49 AM)
I have found that if you are part of a particular target audience you will have more success seeking out others who are part of that target audience. I'm kinky so I would seek out others who are also into kink in some fashion. When I was kinky and married and in a poly relationship it seemed best to seek out partners who were also kinky and married and in poly relationships. Perhaps you should be looking amongst the ranks of kinky paraplegic or quadriplegic submissives.

daintydimples -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 4:50:56 AM)
"Online only" is a red flag to me. Why? Because 99% of the time, it means you're hiding something. You either have a pesky spouse or significant other who does not understand you, or you are hiding from yourself. Now, I understand the OP has a disability. Perhaps he is in that 1% category. But stating that people are shallow b/c they want a physical relationship is just....ridiculous. I feel quite sure if the OP were not so disabled, this would not be his stance. (Yeah, yeah, I know, I was mean to the disabled guy. )

ncbabe -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 5:41:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesertEagle44 people keep telling me that a few women like the mental part of this lifestyle. i have been trying to find her for years. if people know who i em, you will know why. i know trust and the truth dont seem important to most but i must be one of a few people who believe in the truth. i just wonder why most, not all people are so shallow. im not trying to start a fight here, im just voicing my option and the truth thomas Could you please explain what 'the truth' is? And are you saying that people who want something physical are shallow, or did I misunderstand that bit?

bliss4us09 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 5:48:20 AM)
How do you know that trust and truth are unimportant to most?

littlewonder -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 5:52:19 AM)
I think the reason you have problems finding someone is not because of being a quadriplegic but because of your attitude. I've seen you post before and you seem bitter and angry and really...that's the turnoff to women, not your handicap.

IronBear -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 6:22:31 AM)
I have found that there are people who thrive on the mental side of things and not just BDSM, D/s, M/s or kink in general and I have found there are people who need a hands on approach and find the mental aspect tedious. Once i would have stated empirically that a balance between the mental and hands on is needed to be well rounded and well balanced. However since i have been involved to some small degree with programs dealing with kids who want to drop out of school because they can't, for any reason, deal with the mental or book learning approach and yet year to be able to become in trade courses where they learn the principles by doing instead of reading, I have revised my views. I feel that those who enjoy the mental aspect of what ever it is they do should be encouraged to pursue this with what ever hands on aspects they are able to deal with. Conversely, I also believe the reverse should be encourages for the hands on practical person. I don't believe that disabilities should be allowed to negate people from achieving successes. In years past I have had the honour of knowing and watching some magnificently talented artists using only what they could hold in their mouths create works of art. Some people develop such a creative mind able to see and visualise things far better then many not disabled folk can do. many of those who do find sucess either socially and/or financially have beed in a dark place and needed to relear many aspects of themselves to not just overcome the disabilities, but to develop an attitude in general which diverts people from any disability and draws them to enjoy the company of the disabled person. On the whole I found them some of the happiest people with such a positive outlook on life that you just want to be in their company. There are time when I am more than a tad unhappy that my legs don't want to support me and thus stopping me from doing things about the home that I normally would do, and after, when alone, have exhausted my vocabulary of good old fashion Anglo-Saxon expletives, I take stock over a pipe and take on board the lessons I have learned from these remarkable people and work on readjusting my way of seeing things so that I may be able to find solutions rather then being part of the problem. Luckely I can enjoy laughing at myself and even taking the mickey out of myself. It works for me others will find alternative ways and means.

MidMichCowboy -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 6:48:46 AM)
I have often stated that I believe too many people search on too narrow a basis and that is why it doesn't work out. I think that for a relationship to work, it has to work on all levels, shared interests in things other than just the kink. You must share dreams and hopes. You need a spiritual base that is compatible. You need to match lives not just a narrow interest. Does this make it harder to find someone? Probably. But it means you are more likely to succeed in a lasting relationship if you do find each other.

Justme696 -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 6:51:03 AM)
Personally I think searching sucks any way. It is better to "meet" people. People who search often wish to much to fast and get disappointed fastly.

porcelaine -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 6:54:58 AM)
i have read posts by the op in the past. i also recall a particular thread where an offer was made to provide assistance with getting him to a local munch. what i don't understand is why it is so difficult to fathom why one situation isn't ideal for a person. that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with the one making the offer or the one that declines. it would seem that too much energy has been invested in what is lacking rather than celebrating the access that is available. many people are unattached and seeking partnership, yet they recognize there are many factors involved and don't bemoan someone else's decision. porcelaine

oceanwyndsLoves -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 6:57:37 AM)
Hello OP I am going on the asusmption, be it true or not, that you might be open for suggestions. If you are, my suggestion is go within and become the person you seek to have in your life. In my life a major red flag is anyone who has a need to put down a person or group of people, because they have not found anything positive in their own experience. I see this a lot on Cm. To me they might as well branded themselves to not be approach, but that is my major red flag in all areas of life. I also look at people as mirrors to aspects of who I am, and if being approached in ways that are a 'turn off' to me, then I will go inside to find if those characteristics are being shown to others by me. I work a lot on inner, mental discipline. My mind and others are my major focus. Sir's mind is what attracted me to him in the first place, same as with those who have had an important part in my life. I am not big on blaming society, or a group, or anything outside of me for the condition my life is in. I would not want to be with anyone who does, and never have been with anyone that would want a person who blames outside themselves for their lot in life. May you find what you are seeking within and outside of you, blessings oceanwynds

maat -> RE: On Line Dominance (10/17/2009 10:48:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesertEagle44 people keep telling me that a few women like the mental part of this lifestyle. i have been trying to find her for years. if people know who i em, you will know why. i know trust and the truth dont seem important to most but i must be one of a few people who believe in the truth. i just wonder why most, not all people are so shallow. im not trying to start a fight here, im just voicing my option and the truth thomas I think many women are atracted to the mental side of BDSM but also atracted to the physical aspect of it. Many simply cant separete the two. There are places online were a pysical side to bdsm isent a consideration were you live your submission or Dominance in the viritual world alone. Maybe it is just that you are looking in the wrong place? I was an online submissive for many years before i started craving more. I know of online relationships that has laster for years that eventaly moved to phonecalls and skype. i meen no offence here, but maybe you shuld try looking in chatrooms. there are alot of places online were you can find women who will be happy to serve mentaly only. best of luck

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