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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/3/2009 9:50:07 AM)

I keep the two essentially separate in our household. I am an intensity aficionado, and do piercing play and other things, but they are fetish play for me, and aren't part of the authority-exchange dynamics I have with my servants--and, in fact, typically have outside bottoms (or occasionally tops) with whom I do the needle/cutting/branding/tattooing aspects of my own fetishes and it has nothing whatsoever to do with the way I run my household.

In general, I don't do physical punishment/corporal punishment within the household authority-exchange dynamic, and our focus is primarily on discipline/service orientation. I am just as comfortable in a D/s style situation or in a cultural recreation of a noble/medieval/Victorian household without any fetish/bdsm aspects, and our service-style functions equally well with or without BDSM or fetish aspects.

Dame Calla



Andalusite -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/3/2009 8:57:01 PM)

I personally would be *very* unhappy and unfulfilled in a relationship with D/s but no kink, but I don't have any problem with other people choosing to have that kind of relationship. I have been in LTRs with S/M and bondage but no D/s before, though.



Kana -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/3/2009 11:10:30 PM)

Of course D/S can be done without BDSM
The only rules are the ones the Dominant makes.
Hell, half the fun is that there is no cookie cutter definition or one way to do TTTWD.
It's wide open.


Today's word is legs.
spread the word.



porcelaine -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/4/2009 6:18:50 AM)

it is possible in situations that are service/domestically oriented as well as training and mentoring partnerships which offer a different brand of relating. however, i would never knowingly enter an exchange as a slave if the other elements would be absent. it would not be very fulfilling for me in the long run.

porcelaine



OsideGirl -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/4/2009 7:31:07 AM)

I know D/s couples that never engage in BDSM. I know people that are into BDSM and are not into D/s.



Drewspet -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/8/2009 8:34:53 AM)

Welcome to the club!  We do a little rope bondage from time to time but thats about it.  Neither of us are really into giving or receiving pain, so i think there are more of us out there than you think.  Master loves giving orders and i love doing what he wants! [;)]



LaTigresse -> RE: D/S without BDSM (10/8/2009 8:39:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Faitherbee

So, this is something I have been curious about ever since we started looking in to and acting on a 24/7 D/S style of life.

For us, this works great. She is naturally submissive towards me, gains a lot of her own emotional stability from mine, etc.

She is also a pain chicken though. Which is okay because, consquently, I don't have any urge to hurt her.

I guess my thought is I don't see any reason why D/S and BDSM need to be two parts of the same whole, and yet I have never read of anyone practicing like we do. Just raised my curiousity and I was out looking for opinions.


They do not have to be.

I can be a purely nasty sadist.......if the energy is right. However, I do not want any sort of relationship with a woman where I do not have some form of power exchange. My biggest thrill is from the M/s dynamic.



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