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Introducing myself - 9/26/2009 3:23:24 PM

geomease

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Well I thought I'd introduce myself to see if there are any mistresses that are interested in me. I live in Minnesota, 21, currently living at home due to financial restrictions but looking to branch out on my own soon. I'm heavily interested in feminization, mainly because I feel so uncomfortable with my masculine side. I hold an interest in many things that society considers "girly" I love bright colors, pink is my second favorite color behind Cerulean Blue, and I absolutely love cute and adorable things. I'm a very tactile person and love physical contact with other people, the texture of material also affects my personality so something soft or squishy has a calming effect on me. I suppose I'm looking for the right person to help unleash my feminine side from forced hiding.

The reason I tend to be submissive is that I feel a certain comfort of being able to let everything on my mind being washed away. it's nice not having to think about anything other than serving master or mistress. The 2 forms of submissive play I am most interested in at this moment are pet play and forced feminization (though for me it's not really like it can be forced seeing as it's what I want) and pet play is a natural for me because I enjoy the physical contact involved and being able to put myself in a simple pet like mindset. However I'm more than willing to have my boundries pushed by a mistress. Some basic training would also be nice since I am quite new to this.

Lately I've begun to develop an interest in general housekeeping. I've found cooking to be quite fun and cleaning can be enjoyable too as well. I even conquored my old fears by cleaning the bathroom including scrubbing the toilets, which for quite a while was plaguing me. I found that any hesitation or fear was easily overpowered by my desire to be helpful and useful to others. I'm interested in other home related activities such as cooking, cleaning, gardening ect ect. If any of you have any tips, suggestions or recipies that might help me on this path I'd love to hear them so I can better myself.

I suppose I've rambled on about myself for quite long enough and since this is ask a mistress I should be asking a question. My question is this, given what I've said about myself is it even possible if there is a girl out there for me? Am I just too unorthodox? If any of you wish to talk to me privately or publically about anything at all be it personal or just a budding friendship (I could use some gal pals in the area to help me do some publicly girly things like salons and shopping, which I'm scared of doing alone) let me know so we can talk. Also if I put this in the wrong thread forgive me I'm still getting used to this place and I thought this is where I should put this, Ron mentioned that i should introduce myself at either ask a mistress or ask a master so i just put it here. Anyway i hope to get to know everyone and put my embarrasing display of sub frenzy early behind me.

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RE: Introducing myself - 9/26/2009 3:25:31 PM

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welcome and enjoy your stay here!

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RE: Introducing myself - 9/26/2009 4:53:05 PM

CarrieO

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Hello,

I'm not a mistress...just a woman who identifies as a switch...so I may or may not be your target audience. Either way...welcome.

Yes, mnottertail (Ron) gave you some excellent advice on the "Introduce Yourself" forum, probably some of the best I've heard given here to a new sub in a very long time. But, don't forget the other bits offered, especially this from VampiresLair...

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Slow down and look around, then worry about who you want to be with. Remember these are relationships like any other, dont be a role, be a person. Dont meet someone because they are Dominant, meet them for who they are and then enjoy their dominance. Get to know them, not their title.

Now...First things first. You asked for ways to "better" yourself in regards to domestic service. If this is a real interest of yours and something you would like to offer as service, take a look at this thread... http://www.collarchat.com/m_2798445/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2798445 It offers list upon list of ways to expand your knowledge.

Now to your questions...

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My question is this, given what I've said about myself is it even possible if there is a girl out there for me? Am I just too unorthodox?

Anything is possible, the question really should be "Is anything probable?" You're so new, given what you've offered thus far on these boards and in your profile, I bet you still have bits of packing peanuts floating around you! My advice is to slow down, get to know people, attend a local munch and learn what it means for you to identify as a submissive male. Talk to other subs, both male and female. Make generous use of the search feature found in the top right-hand corner and READ. Along with doing all that, take the time to develop yourself as a person and the skills you'll need, not just to offer a perspective dominant but also life skills. Take a read over Lockit's thread on cabbagepatch submissives (which I found not only amusing but spot on right!) http://www.collarchat.com/m_2800628/tm.htm

If you really are serious about your approach, and not just looking for kinky sex or a "do-me" session, then you'll have some work ahead of you. Once the frenzy wears off and you start getting to know people, you'll learn to appreciate the concept of having discerning tastes.

Good luck

< Message edited by CarrieO -- 9/26/2009 5:13:05 PM >

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RE: Introducing myself - 9/27/2009 2:25:35 AM

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RE: Introducing myself - 9/28/2009 7:06:04 AM

geomease

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Thank you all for the helpful advice, greetings, and links. I'm sure it will all help me better myself. Looks like I'll be bust for a while now.

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