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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 11:29:47 AM

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To be his balance and his soul mate.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 11:54:44 AM

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my place is where he needs me to be at any given time. And that is as it should be.

ps - i really like porcelains reply.

I really like your reply

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 1:08:51 PM

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I dont have a particular place that I inhabit in our relationship, apart from being myself. I would say that we both KNOW our place in it , but apart from the *he directs and decides* and * I follow*, there isn't much else to it in terms of *stuff we do*. I don't tend to overthink these things....lol

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 1:28:33 PM

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I do so love questions like this.

My place is at my master's side, I am his friend, his partner, his support and his submissive and his slave. The role I play depends on where we are and what we are doing although it is possible to be all of those at once.

I am at his side as I could not be without him... I think he feels the same about me too

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 2:07:03 PM

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So just what is your place in your relationship submissive leaning folks? How do you fit into your relationship? Dominants, what do you believe to be your partner's place? How does that understanding function within your relationship?

Despite being very clear about expectations and all the rest, my partner recently asked me what I believe my place is. I found it difficult to answer just due to its simplicity for me. My answer doesn't really matter in the context of this thread. I am just wondering how other people view the position, role, expectations, and responsibilities of the submissive. Please be kind. It's been a long enough day.

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That is impossible to answer from a generalized pov. The best I can do is answer from my own perspective in my own relationship.

My place was less than that of an animal.

To him, I was considered nothing but property; property that had less value than that of the dogs he owned.

*shrug*

My responsibilities were to follow orders. It's as simple as that.
Sometimes I followed them without thought or argument; other times, I needed to be persuaded to see the light of day

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 4:12:16 PM

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Thanks for the responses! I did not intend for anyone to try to generalize. I wanted exactly what I've been getting, what it means to each individual.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 4:53:09 PM

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(I took care not to read any of the other posts)

I'll start by saying that her place is wherever I want her to be. I can't control her emotionally or psychologically at all times , nor do I want to. Today. But, a ayear&a half in she knows where I want "her place" to be.

Having said that, off the top of my head, she's my anchor - she enhances my life immeasurably via her obedience, her submission&subserviance&deferral to me, her caring & her devotion. She's a calming influence ina world which isn't always kind, at the least. She's my cook, my housekeeper, my errand girl& my organizer, though due to her job I pick up some of that hence she's also my partner. She's my extra pair of eyes&ears. She's not only my masseuse but she watches my back. She's my masochist & my slut&my plaything. She's my companion & my confidante. She's whatever I want her to be, & I every so often have her repeat those words to me. She's my good girl & she's my anchor, which brings me full circle.

She's mine. I'm a proud Sir......

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 5:16:08 PM

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My place....

..at his feet when he commands it,
on my back when he requires it,
always by his side when he needs it....

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/19/2009 7:05:36 PM

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I am his partner, lover, his boy, teacher, companion and I am everything he needs me to be to keep the relationship stable and strong.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/20/2009 7:07:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: kallisto

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

my place is where he needs me to be at any given time. And that is as it should be.

ps - i really like porcelains reply.

I really like your reply

I too like this.
Being in a new relationship, this helps me on a daily bases. Thanks kiwisub for stating it so clearly.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/20/2009 10:31:02 AM

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So just what is your place in your relationship submissive leaning folks?

His slave, slut, pet and toilet...available to Him, for whatever use He desires, 24/7, 365.

His pleasure is paramount.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/20/2009 8:01:12 PM

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my place is in waiting for the next turn of the road - each twist is different. i'm His slave, His slut, His loved one, His adorer, and hopefully much more as time passes. i want to be whatever He needs, whenever and wherever we may be.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/21/2009 8:10:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

So just what is your place in your relationship submissive leaning folks? How do you fit into your relationship? Dominants, what do you believe to be your partner's place? How does that understanding function within your relationship?

As much as this probably sounds like a standard copout... my place is by his side and what I'm doing depends on the situation. Sometimes I'm quietly sitting on the ground by his feet, sometimes it's caring for him, sometimes it's less than gently reminding him of the things he told me to remind him of!

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/21/2009 9:17:37 PM

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my place is beside Him at restaurants, events etc.
my place is kneeling before Him at home, or at the club
my place is is being ready for being tied up at any moment He so chooses
my place is massaging Him, and making sure His needs are met
my place is to be His slut, His whore His anything He so desires when He desires

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/22/2009 5:44:06 AM

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AquaticSub : " reminding him of the things he told me to remind him of" ..... Yup,she does that too, as well as remind me of things I've said I'm going to do(which I've also told her to do). She's gentle about it, to be sure, but it's not always easy to be my anchor. A good submissive should be appreciated, & not taken for granted.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/22/2009 5:52:58 AM

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My place is to be her best friend, partner and lover, with the proviso that she has the final say.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/22/2009 5:54:22 AM

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we are equals, on opposite sides of the relationship

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/22/2009 11:12:25 AM

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AquaticSub : " reminding him of the things he told me to remind him of" ..... Yup,she does that too, as well as remind me of things I've said I'm going to do(which I've also told her to do). She's gentle about it, to be sure, but it's not always easy to be my anchor. A good submissive should be appreciated, & not taken for granted.

*smiles* I always try being gentle first but... my love is hard-headed so I have to walk a line between and sometimes end up going "Sir, I have to whap you because you told me to make sure this got done!" Happily, he's quite aware that it is one of his shortcomings and we simply laugh about it.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/22/2009 6:09:33 PM

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I am his, He is mine. Like a Yin Yang. One circle two together.

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RE: The Submissive Place - 9/22/2009 10:44:23 PM

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My place....

..at his feet when he commands it,
on my back when he requires it,
always by his side when he needs it....

lil curtsey

I liked a LOT of these answers, both from My Domme side in terms of what I'd like a sub boy to feel, but also from my Domme side. However this one particularly spoke to my sub side. Thanks glitter!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

Edited to add: Also on HIS back when He requires it ... He too likes me to be His personal diary, alarm clock and reminder LOL!

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