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lovingpet -> The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 4:40:55 PM)
So just what is your place in your relationship submissive leaning folks? How do you fit into your relationship? Dominants, what do you believe to be your partner's place? How does that understanding function within your relationship? Despite being very clear about expectations and all the rest, my partner recently asked me what I believe my place is. I found it difficult to answer just due to its simplicity for me. My answer doesn't really matter in the context of this thread. I am just wondering how other people view the position, role, expectations, and responsibilities of the submissive. Please be kind. It's been a long enough day. lovingpet

littlewonder -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 4:42:30 PM)
My place is to be his slave. It is to obey, serve and please him.

Sunnyfey -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 4:42:49 PM)
caregiver, housewife (without the marriage bit for right now), slut and bootblack.

porcelaine -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 4:54:20 PM)
it would probably be something like this... partner/wife and slave. both are equal but different representations of the relationship. porcelaine

Elipsis -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 5:02:33 PM)
As a switch, I have absolutely no idea how to answer this. But I want you to know that I sat around for like 3 minutes thinking about how to define a "place" as a "switch" and I feel like it's entirely too contextual. Also given that I'm not in a relationship right now I have no currently negotiated expectations to even describe... but I did try to think of a good response so you're getting this post for my time instead.

pyroaquatic -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 5:16:50 PM)
Cook, Friend, A Pair of Ears, Massage Therapist, Pack Mule, Confidant, HER manho, Heater (for those cold days), Researcher, Entertainer, Toy, Model, Plaything, Punching Bag, Servant, Pet, Brain, Nerd, Deconstructor, Actor, Zombie, ATM (if need be... i don't have lots of money -_-), Ethically Oriented Hard Worker, Gardener, Designer, Artist, Musician, Scientist..... um... i would think of more... but... my brain. I think battery-less dildo comes into effect somewhere.

thishereboi -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 5:26:04 PM)
I was half of the whole.

sigh4u08 -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 6:05:40 PM)
thishereboy, you stated it as i would have. my heart goes out to you, and to all of us still searching...

pyroaquatic -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 7:01:42 PM)
The sum of the parts are greater than the whole, yo. One plus One does not equal Two in this case. I miss that feeling too. ;_;

DesFIP -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 7:12:03 PM)
Lover, friend, partner in crime. Part pet, part Dlg, part executive assistant. I research weird stuff for him. I job hunt in his industry and found him a position he should be interviewing for as soon as the CEO gets back from vacation. I'm his own personal cheerleader. Chief cook and bottle washer. Sock picker upper, laundry doer. And so on. Generally I do what he needs whether it's to make his tea or to nag him to come in and have lunch (he has a nasty habit of working through and being sick later on).

sweetsub1957 -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/18/2009 10:15:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I am just wondering how other people view the position, role, expectations, and responsibilities of the submissive. My place is to serve, please, and obey Him. To be and do anything He wishes me to. My expectations are for me to do this to the very best of my ability & also that I be loved, which I am. :)

fadedshadow -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 2:51:44 AM)
for me i say slave and friend =]

leadership527 -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 7:54:04 AM)
I'm not really sure what "place" means exactly, but I want Carol to behave like Carol. Her "place" is by my side in some fashion or another, collars and leashes optional. I don't have any particular behaviors, amounts of respect, etc. that I demand of Carol other than baseline common courtesy. This whole M/s thing, as deeply satisfying as it is for both of us, does not define her or I.

TwistedHeart74 -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 7:59:06 AM)
Best friend, lover, confidante, caregiver, the bitch on the back of the bike, seamstress, chef, housekeeper, date, gardener, His property, teacher, student...the list is endless. In sum, the balance between yin and yang. I would be more than his submissive as there is more than just the lifestyle to consider in a relationship. [:)]

Acer49 -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 8:14:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet So just what is your place in your relationship submissive leaning folks? How do you fit into your relationship? Dominants, what do you believe to be your partner's place? How does that understanding function within your relationship? Despite being very clear about expectations and all the rest, my partner recently asked me what I believe my place is. I found it difficult to answer just due to its simplicity for me. My answer doesn't really matter in the context of this thread. I am just wondering how other people view the position, role, expectations, and responsibilities of the submissive. Please be kind. It's been a long enough day. lovingpet I believe her to be a gift from GOD who's place is to be beside me as my soulmate

kiwisub12 -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 8:20:38 AM)
Chief footwarmer, bottle washer, and friend. Everything else is in a constant state of flux - my place is where he needs me to be at any given time. And that is as it should be. ps - i really like porcelains reply.[:)]

mbes -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 8:27:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I am just wondering how other people view the position, role, expectations, and responsibilities of the submissive. My first responsibility is to belong to him. My second responsibility is to be myself. I have this weird habit of going into contortions to be what I think will be pleasing, so some days this is a difficult task. I'm learning.

naughtysubK -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 8:32:53 AM)
we don't live together yet, but when we are together, my job is to obey him, to make his life a little easier by doing some chores at his place, and to be available and eager for whatever sex act he has in mind at the moment . I think he wants me to work more on the domesticity before we live together

DesFIP -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 9:42:05 AM)
Summing it up, my job is to be his helpmeet. And I like the Shakesperean quote "To keep with you at meals, comfort your bed, And talk to you sometimes". Simply to be there, to give comfort in however he needs it. To work with him. I find that the best part of a d/s relationship is that it is less likely to turn into an adversarial relationship. We don't use sarcasm towards each other. We love each other and want what's best for each other and what will keep the relationship strong.

lucebella -> RE: The Submissive Place (9/19/2009 11:14:44 AM)
I am his submissive, his pet, his girl, his wife, best friend, lover, companion, a shoulder to cry on, his maid, housekeeper, cheerleader, personal chef... i WANT to be his everything, that is what i strive for.

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