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Lockit -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/5/2009 5:35:47 PM)
God save me from itunes... and my music and movie fetish! I admit... I'm an addict and I don't want a twelve step program!

DesFIP -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 10:02:31 AM)
Cruise the consignment rack at your local tack store. Tell them what you're looking for so they'll call you first if it comes in. In the meantime make a wish jar and put in all your change, the occasional dollar etc and save this jar for the boots. You'll find yourself skipping an occasional coffee to put the dollar into the boot jar instead.

intenze -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 11:49:47 AM)
Well LaT, I am glad you started this thread. I was this close to buying a laptop I cant afford. Thanks, homie.

littlewonder -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 12:01:39 PM)
When I start to get into one of those moods where I think I NEED something I will walk away for a few hours or a few days and stew on it for awhile. Eventually the feeling just disappears or I forget about it for awhile or something else comes up like a broken pipe or a bill where I have no choice anyway to forego the pleasure item. This happens more often than not it seems. I'm known for picking something up in a store, walking around with it for awhile and by the time I get to the counter I put it aside because I just can't bring myself to buy a luxury item for myself.

girlygurl -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 12:16:10 PM)
LaT, I get those catalogs in the mail and emails as well. I toss them in the garbage and delete the emails. I just don't look. [:)] It does sound like you're in need of those riding boots, so what about a "boot fund" when there's an extra buck or more toss it in the fund until you have enough. Yes, the duck tape on the current old boots might not be as sexy as the new ones (I bet you look hawt in them there boots lady) but saving up for something you want without going over budget will be part of the reward of getting these boots. Don't you think? Anyway, When you do save up for them I'd love a picture of your HAWT self in them.... and yes, that's right, I did NOT mention anything about clothing. I'm a perv like that. [:)] As for me, I can hold back on buying things for myself, it's buying for others I have a problem with.

girlygurl -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 12:20:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail LT, I will buy you your riding boots should you be willing to worship my genitalia for say, 72 hours non-stop (to my specifications). This will easily divide your need from want. Next to that, nothing is impossible. XO, Ron Ron, I really, really, really, want this Any "arrangements" you can come up with would be appreciated. [:D]

pahunkboy -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 12:40:56 PM)
I know what you are saying. The habit is one you ease into. I cut my budget too short of late. Money is tight - as I have done sort of this type of thing. One difference is- my purchases have been silver- and the other which I have cut back is party supplies. I did however sell an item on ebay this week and the encourages me. But when I think of what I dont spend money on- that makes things abit better. Will you be $298 happier? The whole pattern could be a problem because while the mortgage for this month is -paid- I am behind on the water bill. So what to do? I am convinced that some good will come out of this collapse. We will evolve and there will become less gluttony and more humbleness. How to over come it? Well- in this world we have to make choices. I find myself thinking thru purchases abit longer now. It floors me that I have $3 worth of meat that expired because I was too careless. That is $3 flushed down the toilet- the same toilet where I owe a water bill!! At the same time there is no food in the house. I don't like living that way- there is a method to my madness. Put your money and resources in the best strategic places. Life and times change and we are always re-evaluating what is best fit for our needs. If you make the purchase- make sure you get $298 use out of it. Listen to me. I just wasted $3 and I am advising you.... arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

pahunkboy -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 12:51:12 PM)
Hey- ebay lets you list 5 items for free a month. Why not sell something to make up for the money you blow? Think of it. We all have alot of junk. And people love junk. I am pumped that I sold one item- even tho the amount was small...a second one has bids in on it. So you are online anyway. Take a chance.

pahunkboy -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 1:07:24 PM)
My grandmother as well as the neighbor lived the depression. Both have some lovely qualities about them that you dont see everywhere. There WILL be some good things to come in the coming years. It is not automatically the end of life- to go thru this. It happens from all of recorded history- a cycle of sorts.

DesFIP -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 2:16:50 PM)
One thing we've started doing, instead of paying the dump to take stuff, is to separate out what can be sold. So we sold a bunch of metal for $15 and didn't have to pay $4 to get rid of it.

pahunkboy -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 2:41:07 PM)
The bad times do not mean we have to necessarily suffer. I still have the "I scored' feeling- I just am more stealth about it. Being that LAT lives in a rural area- I would check out thrift stores in a metro. often you can find pricey things there, cheap. The neighbor sent over some watermelon. And man- that was a joy! We do this type of thing. I send things over too. Alot of people grew tomatos- so - nearly everyone has them- or someone just gives them away. With shoes- I wont buy any I haven't tried on. But the item could be anything- the point is to get that- joy of getting something....we are like that- we hunt and we gather. So take that carnal urge- "hunt and gather" and apply it to more doable items.

TheHeretic -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 5:27:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: girlygurl When you do save up for them I'd love a picture of your HAWT self in them.... and yes, that's right, I did NOT mention anything about clothing. I'm a perv like that. [:)] I'd like to be on the mailing list for that pic, too. [:D] (yeah, I know, but what can it hurt to ask?)

Level -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 6:47:07 PM)
Me too, despite her horrible Ron comment to me.

cloudboy -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/6/2009 9:18:35 PM)
This makes me want to buy you the boots. My money / household neurosis has centered own whether we should try to make an upward house move. At the crunch time of making a buying decision, my own business has seen a real drop-off the past two months as I have failed to close one new client or case. My business is always cyclical, but this time I'm a bit more nervous about it than usual. As a result, I don't want to commit to a bigger mortgage for a "better" house. I can't tell if I'm being foolish, stupid, cheap, or prudent. Back to you -- spending money on something expensive in the sweet-spot of your hobby (riding boots) that is a durable good -- is worth the extravagance. This is crucial to your well being and reasonable in cost. I say you should go for it.

LaTigresse -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/7/2009 5:03:04 PM)
Well I have ridden approximately 8 hours this weekend and have still resisted the boots. I did have one hair raising moment when I tried to ride in sneakers. The tread makes the front of the shoe too wide for safety. I know that but, well, I did it anyway. Got my foot stuck in a stirrup upon dismount. The horse did a side step and I did something closer to the splits than I should be trying to do. Soooo, back to the old boots with duct tape. Tried checking discount shops and so forth. Unfortunately not many people in my part of the world ride anything other than western. UGH!! I will NOT wear cowboy boots!! Dilemma not solved, but still have resisted temptation and credit card debt! I had to laugh at the idea of photos of me in the boots. Now if I could sell them, enough of them to actually pay for the boots........ But I am pretty sure that is not something people would pay to see. It was a good laugh though.

porcelaine -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/7/2009 5:10:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse The crux of the matter is, I really cannot afford $ 298.00 for riding boots. Period. And, I can improvise. I am creative and I know how to find a plan B. Hell I did it last night. The world will not come to a screeching halt if I ride in sneakers instead. I do not absolutely NEED those boots. But I want them. BADLY. I keep thinking about them. Justifying the purchase. Making excuses. your analogy is your answer. when a person attempts to do something cold turkey it is rarely effective. even people in their most impoverished states reward themselves in some capacity. perhaps not in the manner they would if their finances were in better order. but if you've been responsible and find you have been disciplined over the years in respect to your gear you have to weigh it all out. i'm a horse enthusiast and well aware of what english riding boots would cost. so if this is something you may need on the one hand, because the others are worn and tattered. yet have earned on the other, because you weren't overindulgent when you could have been. then buy the bloody things and call it day. people have dropped 3 bills on far worse. you'll have them for years to come and will look back on this time with a smile. because it does and will pass as you know. best of luck Ma'am. porcelaine

Arpig -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/7/2009 6:02:15 PM)
My solution is very simple.I don't do credit. I pay cash for everything, that way I don't owe anything. If I want something, wellthen I simply have to save up until I have the money to get it. With my present financial situation, that means never,since I am lucky if I have $2 left over at the end of the month. There is no need to resist temptation...there is simply no way to give in to it, so it isn't an issue. Cut upthe credit card and you will set yourself free, both from debt and a lot of temptation.

DesFIP -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/7/2009 6:25:15 PM)
Have you got anything you could bring in to consignment. We went through all the horse stuff and sold a bucket of assorted bits that haven't been used in years. A blanket belonging to a horse we no longer have, a strange show saddle blanket that I swear I never bought, even such things as a can of never used white spray for stockings. My daughter bought some more socks and black spray that she does need, and when the stuff sells we'll get the difference.

IrishMist -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/7/2009 6:39:02 PM)
Hmmm, I guess my number one weakness would be the youngins. Does not matter which one; they come to me, need help ( even when I know that they REALLY- dont ) and I give them what they need without question or thought. Outside of them; I guess my weakness is my truck. I get a new truck every two years. I have done this since I started driving. I don't NEED a new truck every two years; I just WANT a new one. To date, this has not changed. I still get a new truck every two years. Then there are my gun and knife collections. Not 'collectible's' ...but collections in that I have about 18 different handgun and rifles; and about 100 different kinds of knives. These, unlike the truck, I can say no to if I have to. Dayum, it sure is hard though. Other than these here, there reallly is nothing that I would place in the category that you are referring to.

subtlebutterfly -> RE: Denial and self control. (9/8/2009 7:59:31 AM)
hides my maxed out credit card well it aint maxed out.........yet[8D]

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