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RE: Help with Rituals, daily task and training ideas - 8/16/2009 9:37:40 AM

LadyPact

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I find is kind of sad how cynical everyone is on here. If I do not give much of my own experience or past it is with purpose and not out of a lack of experience.

Think about it. Say you have a business. It has been successful for years. You enjoy your work but you have the desire to bring some new ways into your enterprise.

You go to your fellow business people for fresh ideas. If you tell them what you are already doing or tell them what you are thinking of doing you focus their thoughts in a particular direction. If you leave the table open, then you are much more likely to get an idea that is surprising or out of the box.

What I was looking for was new or innovative ideas.

Thank you all for your ideas. Anything else?

This basically means that we are different types of people. I'd probably be furthering My own education from an accredited school or people that I knew in business. I wouldn't be taking business advice from people that I've never met or couldn't even verify that they've ever owned their own business. I'd want to see that their methods worked over the long term. Even at that, their business structure may be so different than My own that their methods don't apply.

If I were in business for fifteen years, I'd probably already know a number of My peers. I'd be going to the people that I already knew and had faith in. Not somebody that I've never met or I had no idea of whether or not they had any business sense whatsoever. For that matter, if I had a successful business and I didn't know you also owned your own business, why would I be showing you around Mine?

I mean, let's face it. I provided you three links of things that I've written prior. In all honestly, how do you know that anything that I've written has had any positive effect? For all you know, I'm some guy in Jersey living in his brother's basement, who has never had one lick of BDSM experience or ever been involved in a D/s dynamic.

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RE: Help with Rituals, daily task and training ideas - 8/16/2009 11:37:47 AM

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I recently read a post where a young (I think), male submissive hopped to find a Master who would act as a rather strict- taskmaster regarding exercise, weight control and diet.

I’m thinking that could be interesting…but also a lot of work for the dominant. Still…

And speaking of rituals, another I know insists his slave squat, rather than sit on the toilet, when she pees. Why, you might ask? Just to keep her head-space where he wants it…where she is to do what he requests, regardless of the reason. Always.

I kind of like rituals…but having said that they would only work if they fit the two people involved. IMHO

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RE: Help with Rituals, daily task and training ideas - 8/16/2009 11:45:37 AM

Arillis

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I think the operative words in your post was help, irrespective of how keenly honed your skills are as a dominant you have demonstrated a quality rare indeed in the dominant. That of recognizing you are not all knowing and in asking for innovative and creative thoughts you may have overlooked or comments that will refresh your mind to those techniques you have placed there for review at a later date you have done more then ask for help. When including inputs from subs or slaves regarding the experiences skills and expertise’s they have undergone and refined in your request you have evidenced wisdom.
Of course, there were arrogances and sarcasms as opposed to an eagerness to share but surprisingly one male offered advice that appeared to be of genuineness.

As a practitioner of D/s I am very much a proponent of wondering the corridors of the dominators mind, identifying their fears, especially those they have yet to recognize themselves and subtly meld them with the arrogance of their insecurities. From that format the submissive or slave imparts realistic inputs that both assist and guide the dominator in the development of mental emotional harmonies that alter and change points of reference in the brain and forces that resonate in their physical conducts and behaviors throughout everyday life. If you want more on this age old tried and proven technique e-mail me on the other side.
Remember, when you set out to write your guidebook to live by began beneath the cognitive level and listen to your slave or subs unspoken words.

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RE: Help with Rituals, daily task and training ideas - 8/17/2009 3:44:19 AM

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My rituals and daily tasks are mundane; i wash myself, brush my teeth and comb my hair, dress, make coffee and His lunchbox...then i have breakfast... clean, do the groceries and stuff, cook, look after the youngun... ; i am a housewife. He tells me if anything out of the ordinary needs doing and i see to it. I am expected to run my own business and ask for help should i need any. He handles all our finances and insurances, looks after the cars and the diy jobs and the bbq... i take his boots off after work and serve drinks in the evening.
Anything out of the ordinary that i want i have to ask for... i ask for permission to masturbate or a night out with a girlfriend or a big purchase. I ask to go to bed when i am tired, we watch movies that He likes...i watch drama or girly movies by myself or with an other female.
I understand that he expects me to obey Him, i trust Him to make the right decisions for us.
When i need a new car He will decide what i am to drive... i might be able to pick the colour.

When i understood my nature and my needs it became clear to me how and what to ask of my Husband and so enabled Him to respond to me with much more authority and so our life runs very smooth now.

Any kinky thing i should like to try with Him i might suggest and sometimes i find this extremely embarrassing... and if i'm lucky He might actually indulge me which might be even more embarrassing...

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