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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 2:15:39 PM

SoulPiercer

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Read the fine print on the Payment page.

"Your Credit Card/Checking Account will be billed by Generic Sounding Company Name....."

They give you that notification because they know you're going to read your credit card/checking account statement, see a charge from Generic Sounding Company Name and forget that you purchased a membership at A Plus Fuck Buddies.com. You'll call your bank, and the nice customer service rep will tell you that in "the description of services it says this is an adult dating site. Sir, do you live with your parents??" You'll be embarassed and deny the charges which will cancel your membership, when all of that could have been avoided if you had just read the fine print on the billing page.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 2:28:10 PM

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That's right, I have just noticed this the second time I had a glance at Terms of Use. They are going to use a generic name. Silly me, I should had noticed it the first time I had a glance on it.

I was going to read it completely before signing in anyway, but I need to learn being more careful.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 2:31:27 PM

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I had a gold subscription at one of those dating sites you are probably referring to. I also order quite a bit of software/real goods from online merchants. At no time do they send a paper bill. In fact, unless you are ordering physical merchandise, there is very very little chance of anything appearing in a physical mailbox. Sending paper bills is expensive and even companies for whom that is traditional (utilities, etc.) are trying to get out of it. Online merchants who never sent bills aren't about to start now. The only thing your parents might see is, as SoulPiercer said, a line from "Some Generic Sounding Company" on your credit card bill. Unless your parents google that name or something it will mask as, say, a gaming subscription.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 2:36:37 PM

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Thanks for the information. Yes, that's what I'm intending. I can talk about my this side with my parents another time.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 3:15:15 PM

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Short information.

He lives in Turkey. Not uncommon for a 21 year old male to stay with his parents until there is a reason to move. Reasons would be things like university/job in a different city, or getting married. Simply moving out because he is adult is not the norm.

Cultural differences once more.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 3:17:43 PM

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Most companies I have dealt with will not send paper mail and if they do it has nothing sexual in the envelope, I think a lot of sites go thru a merghant accont like CCBill which shows "CCBill " on your credit card statement, not "gangbanging pony girls" Most are aware that their customers enjoy and demand some kind of discretion. Just read the fine print. Also a PO box is mostly unnaceptable ONLY for secure items products such as credit or banking items.I have mailed many parcels to post office boxes containing some very rude things...their reason is their reason.
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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 7:46:51 PM

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So I'm going to assume you don't work then since mommy and daddy do everything for you...so how are you paying for this subscription? Their credit card?...you may have more explaining to do to them than about bdsm lol.

I would probably not be calling myself a Dom before I at least learned how to pay bills by getting a job, learn how to pick up after yourself and wash your own clothes and dishes among so many other things.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Cultural differences or not, if you expect Me to see you as a Dominant, you'll provide for yourself in regards to food and shelter. You aren't even in control of your basic needs, let alone your concern about your mail, and you feel qualified to control someone's submission?

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 7:51:59 PM

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What LadyPact said.

aka........grow up

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 8:26:16 PM

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"You aren't even in control of your basic needs, let alone your concern about your mail, and you feel qualified to control someone's submission? "

Yes.

I don't want my parents to see I have joined an adult website because they would prevent me doing it or punish me, just because I believe they are not ready to learn it. And I wanted to be sure such a thing won't happen. If they were really sending customers "XXX! Best pr0n!" mails, I would learn how to prevent getting those mails and everything would be still the same I wanted: I signed in and my parents are still happy. Now does it make me controlless?

I don't think I will need more money for a D/s relationship than a vanilla one. If she needs and asks me to support her financially just because I'm his Dom, wouldn't it be strange? I have got sufficient control on everything I have, but a girlfriend who would accept my control on her.

I can't claim having grown up, but not because I am in a position to build my own home, but because I have (and will) got much to learn. I just won't wait for the experiences that wait for me, that's not my style of living.
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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 8:27:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

What LadyPact said.

aka........grow up

God knows, LaT, I love ya.

ETA. Speaking of 'grow up' the roast of Joan Rivers is on Comedy Central.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/9/2009 11:28:58 PM

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I don't want my parents to see I have joined an adult website because they would prevent me doing it or punish me. Now does it make me controlless?

Not to be rude, just being honest. Yes. The statement above makes you seem very much submissive rather than dominant. You're worried that your parents will punish you and you're of legal age to make your own decisions?

I am taking into account the cultural differences, but even so, if you still fear being punished by your parents how can you hope to be in control of a D/s or M/s relationship? You admit that your parents have controlled your life right up to the present. As others have mentioned, you must first wean yourself from your parents and learn what it takes to manage your own life before you can even dream of managing a submissive or slave.

Again, good luck, though.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/10/2009 4:03:01 AM

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I was trying to say 'the reason why I avoid it isn't being punished by them, because they don't punish me anyway'. They used to try punishing me in my childhood, but I managed having them regret. Moreover, I am not afraid of being punished or attempts of being deprived of anything I want, I always find a way to reach whatever I want unless they lock me to a prison.

I've stated my thought about having not grown and dominance before. I can't say you are wrong about it, but I always hated the idea of 'too early'.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/10/2009 7:04:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirLost

Firstly, I admit this is a funny situation: A Dom living with his parents and hiding his this orientation from them. And asking a n00bish question.

There are some facts those drives me crazy:
*Most of the submissive people are looking for local Dom's
*I believe I am much more better than some Doms those find a chance to be considered as a candidate by submissives, as I read. I read many profiles of female subs who are looking for a local Dom who has my own qualities, they are meeting some local Doms who attempts to hang them to a torture tool and fuck them at their first meet and then complaining there are no kind Dom's. (No, there were some submissive candidates that had contacted me, but I couldn't like them for various reasons)
*There are only a few locals here, but they are not looking or not people that I'd want to contact
*I am rich, but haven't seen its benefit for meeting someone to dominate yet (There is no way for me to give anything to a prostitute, don't ever advise it)

So what would you advise to this man? To subscribe a paid website where I could find locals like I wanted and show them his difference, isn't it?

The funny part is that I am 21 years old and living with my parents. I am quite happy with my life, my parents are like my friends and they don't interfere in me much. I'm like a prince, but I still don't know how to tell them I am into BDSM. I am going to subscribe to a website that is advertised in CollarMe (I doubt if I should give its name here, though) and the bill that they are going to send me is disturbing me. My parents don't read the content of the mails that I receive, I can tell them it is about a game engine whose licence I purchased, but it is going to inconvenience me if something like "XSOMETHING : The best fuckbuddy finder" is written in the envelope.

Well, many thing can be discussed under this topic. You can even make fun of my situation, but don't expect to be unanswered

Bud....you're rich (you said so), you live with your parents (that too).....you're 21.....deal with it....I was dealing with a fuck of a lot more at 18...a smidge prior to your current...and all that.....

PO Boxes.....chics house.... bud's place....local 7-11....this ain't all that fucking complicated.

(Honest....no....really...unless you have an IQ of a battery powered keyboard {without the batteries}...this shouldn't be all that much to handle....really now....).

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/10/2009 8:51:57 PM

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"I also thought of asking help from a friend of mine who lives in his house, but I think it would be asking too much. I don't want to announce I'm into BDSM to my friends yet and receiving bills may not make them happy."
Have you missed my this sentence?

I admit being ignorant in these things, 'cause I never needed to learn them. I didn't even know these hireable PO box services were there in Turkey (strangely; nor I had never heard anyone using them here, neither people I have talked about it knows anything) and their address would be valid even if I've found a service here (well, maybe I haven't researched enough?). Sorry, but I just couldn't ask it anyone else if they really send such "XX Best p0rn" mail and I would need to do apply another way to solve that problem; but know that I was able to think whatever you offered.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/11/2009 5:07:21 AM

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i am really tempted to comment on you having the family jewels on your forehead, but i do not want to give the impression i am a wise-ass.

(Trying to keep the poor boy in the dark about your true nature, there, Holly? *snicker*)

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/11/2009 8:33:26 AM

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Hey, I'm not poor! :P

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/11/2009 9:49:24 AM

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You're 21 Dude...an adult. Why are you still living with your parents in the first place?

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/11/2009 10:02:54 AM

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Cultural differences in my country, as calamitysandra stated in an above post.

Adding these: My university is in the same city I was brought up in, I can gain some extra money without going to an office, using only online communication and my parents are fabulous people. The question would be "Why do you live in another apartment?" if I did.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/11/2009 10:11:02 AM

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it is easy to judge him and his lifestyle, but how many of you actually spent a week in Europe not to mention live there for a while, to undertstand the need of living with parents in urban areas? Dont judge so much, after all you are supposed to be open minded perverts.

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RE: Bill mail from paid adult site comes to parents' home - 8/11/2009 10:20:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: hizgeorgiapeach

quote:

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i am really tempted to comment on you having the family jewels on your forehead, but i do not want to give the impression i am a wise-ass.

(Trying to keep the poor boy in the dark about your true nature, there, Holly? *snicker*)

how am i doing so far?

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