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Impact Play - 8/8/2009 5:59:56 PM

DomImus

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Another thread that I did not wish to hijack reminded me of a discussion I had a few years ago with a local female submissive friend of mine. We were talking shop and she asked what sort of things I liked. I said "My three favorites in no particular order are needle play, breath play and electrical play". She replied that two of those three were hard limits for her. I replied "Not a surprise. What do you like?". She said "Oh I like lots of things. Floggers, slappers, paddles, stingers, canes, whips, crops.".

What percentage of your activities involve impact or percussion play? Is is all/mostly impact play or do you rarely engage in impact play? My perception of the bdsm demographic at large is that impact play encompasses most of the play for most of the folks but that could be entirely mistaken. It accounts for about 80% of all play I have seen at play parties and dungeon settings but I am not a play party veteran by any means.

I'm not much for it. It's just not my thing. I have two floggers I made myself but I was driven more by having made them then actually using them. I have a long and short riding crop but again they are not on my short list of favorite toys.

What about you?

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RE: Impact Play - 8/8/2009 6:08:20 PM

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Well, just to skew your statistics, for us it doesn't include any sort of SM activities and virtually no BD ones. Your call whether that still counts as BDSM for what you're looking for. We just do the authority dynamic part.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/8/2009 6:18:28 PM

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I think part of why you will see a lot of impact play at parties and such is because there is more space and equipment to utilize that folks don't necessarily have at home for such things. Depending on the partner, I have had impact play be a major portion or an almost nonexistent part of how we played. I am all over the board and very flexible. I am interested in various things for various reasons. There is very, and I do mean very, little I will rule out trying at least once whether it be from the dominant side or the submissive side. Aside from severe phobias and areas that are triggers from past damage, I am pretty wide open. A few things are limited by my health, but even those I try to insist upon finding a way to push beyond.

My current relationship is heavy on all fronts as far as type of play, but I would guess the most common thread is that they involve some level of impact play. I think, as my introduction to new things expands, it will be only one of MANY forms of play that might occur in a session rather than a staple. He and I both thrive on variety, so constant repetition will eventually bore us. I look forward to all the new places we will go.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/8/2009 6:26:52 PM

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To be fair here, I have to give you two different answers. There's the answer that comes from what types of play I engage in when playing with My sub and the play I engage in while playing with others.

With clip, it's probably something like 65/35. That might be seen as pretty high, but I'm taking into account that we tend to do scenes that are a combination of things. For example, we'll do impact play (as he calls it, a good beating), aftercare, break period, and then move on to something like needles, staples, fire, electricity, etc, then rinse and repeat with the aftercare and so on. In his case, I've found that he's more likely to get more out of the additional types of play if I've beaten him first. The sub space doesn't carry over from one activity to another as he doesn't stay in space that long, but he's more likely to go if he's had the prior trip.

In casual play, it's more likely to be 80/20. Many forms of non impact play that I do (needles, wax, etc) has a cost factor that I'm not willing to spend on just anyone. I'm more likely to do wand, fire, cupping, or something along those lines. I'm still more likely to get My own rush from the impact play.

I have to admit, I had a hard time with coming up with proper percentages. Categories such as cbt can be considered impact, non impact, or both. Had to throw that out as well as any kind of mental play or mind fuck, as I'm taking the question relates to physical forms of play only.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/8/2009 6:28:41 PM

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I love impact play and a wide variety of the implements used in it, but I also love fire play, wax play, electrical play, cupping, claws and various other things. Impact play, especially with singletails, requires some room to do and dungeons and play parties generally offer that space.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/8/2009 6:57:05 PM

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I don't do play parties or public play ( dungeons etc ); I have not been to one since my husband passed away, nor do I have any desire to go to one now.

However, even when he was alive, and we did occassionally go somewhere; I would have to agree that 9 times out of 10; the play was more impact than anything else.

For myself, anything that delivers massive doses of pain is good for me. In addition to that, anything that makes me question my own survival is good for me ( in other words; I like ALOT ).

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 12:25:47 AM

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There's always a lot of impact play at the parties we get to, but folks indulge in plenty of other stuff, too. Fire, electrical, wax(all of which I guess would be under the "sensual" heading). Bondage, suspension. Several months back my pretty one, with my permission& also with my hand on her at all times, faced her fear of enclosed spaces & crawled into a vaccuum bag&enjoyed it. My home group also does a lot of educational demos.There's a lot of D/s in evidence at these parties- there's a good number of couples, afew of whom only play with each other but many who make a habit&point of sharing in the dungeon. .

We do our share of impact play. She needs spanking as much as I enjoy administering& we have done more flogging as I've learned how to do it right & I now own some nice ones. We seem to be ina rut- of sorts - bondage-wise: of late we do more mental bondage than the real thing(but mental bondage is good, no?). I know she needs more humiliation than I've been providing for her. Real life has interfered with play a lot this summer, plain&simple. We play hard when we get to a party but she works hard hours at a hard job & we've also been doing a lot of work together around the house & we've been on the road more often than normally& the result is that we find ourselves without the time&energy to really get into serious play. Her kids dont live near us but have been here much of the summer& that by nature deters play. Then, the two of us recently spent a wonderful 4 days living in a tent, but in close proximity to a bunch of vanilla friends&relatives so no play there, not to mention the time&energy consuming preperation&gretting re-settled which occurs around a camping trip. Our D/s didnt suffer though, even when tested, which is gratifying. The calender is looking good, though, & after the weekend & beyond I'm foreseeing more time&oppurtunity to play.........

The short answer, though, is that impact is high on our list but everything on our list is kind of skewed lately..........

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 1:04:14 AM

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100% impact friendly here

To break it down into percentages is a little rough. Spanking is impact and that can be a daily thing with me. Spanking is scene warm up, bondage foreplay, whipping foreplay, sex foreplay, breakfast foreplay... impact play as warm up for impact play.

Even ropes and bondage involve whipping with the ropes… So I guess impact play is a %100 at my house.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 5:46:13 AM

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I would say pretty much 100% of our sessions involve mostly impact play, though they often involve other things too.... bondage, ice/wax, clamps, wooden pony, insertables etc. Impact play would probably account for 90% of total play, though.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 5:56:11 AM

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quote:

I guess impact play is a %100 at my house.

Well, no wonder i feel so at home there.

i've never been tied up, then left alone. i've never played with wax, or a wand, and had nothing else to follow. There is always some form of impact play at some point.

This thread is one of those, "Now that you mention it...." challenging things. Imagine playing, without impact. Hmmm....does frigging count as impact???? Nipple clamps??? So many questions......

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 7:27:24 AM

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Yes, please, I’d like some. Yummmmmm… impact play. I do enjoy needle play, knife-play and electrical play (not breath play, however…seems like chance (Russian Roulette), rather than control.) As with all things, everything is relative and newbies need to consider that.

For me, needle play does not include shoving bicycle spokes through the meatiest part of my breasts, knife-play does not include cutting pieces off and electrical play does not include electrocution. Keep that in mind when I say I love impact play.

I like floggers (are whips really impact play?) and various toys that go “whap”, especially those that darn near pick me up off my feet when they hit. Stingy toys like wooden spoons and canes are (for me) more like punishment or tools to actually hurt (even though I know they also drive me deeper and leave lovely lasting marks.)

I also like punching. Yes…punching. However, punching does not include dislocating my jaw or blackening an eye; it is all about controlled, balled-up hands impacting large muscle groups on or near my torso. Generally, such play begins softly and rhythmically and accelerates to almost a deep-muscle-massage.

I wish people would not have knee-jerk reactions to words which represent actions with which they have no experience. Real Doms do no lasting harm!

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 8:45:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee
I wish people would not have knee-jerk reactions to words which represent actions with which they have no experience. Real Doms do no lasting harm!

I agree wholeheartedly with your first statement but wish you had left the second off.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 9:53:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomImus

Another thread that I did not wish to hijack reminded me of a discussion I had a few years ago with a local female submissive friend of mine. We were talking shop and she asked what sort of things I liked. I said "My three favorites in no particular order are needle play, breath play and electrical play". She replied that two of those three were hard limits for her. I replied "Not a surprise. What do you like?". She said "Oh I like lots of things. Floggers, slappers, paddles, stingers, canes, whips, crops.".

What percentage of your activities involve impact or percussion play? Is is all/mostly impact play or do you rarely engage in impact play? My perception of the bdsm demographic at large is that impact play encompasses most of the play for most of the folks but that could be entirely mistaken. It accounts for about 80% of all play I have seen at play parties and dungeon settings but I am not a play party veteran by any means.

I'm not much for it. It's just not my thing. I have two floggers I made myself but I was driven more by having made them then actually using them. I have a long and short riding crop but again they are not on my short list of favorite toys.

What about you?

In local clubs it would be impact, and sensation play for the most part

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 10:58:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomImus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee
I wish people would not have knee-jerk reactions to words which represent actions with which they have no experience. Real Doms do no lasting harm!

I agree wholeheartedly with your first statement but wish you had left the second off.

Perhaps I should have used ‘permanent injury’? I mean...what is the point of breaking your toys? Sure, I have tiny little marks on my back, from a single tail or two, but no one is going to be doing stuff to cause my bones to break or a nipple to fall off or some orifice to quit working properly. Ya know?

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 12:11:39 PM

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I love impact play that leave marks, bloodied welts and scars. I also love needles, scalpels, scarification, cupping, and fire play. As a sadomaso, I like being on both the giving & receiving side. I don't mix impact play with blood/needle play. I'm only into the SM part. (I don't care for the BD or DS parts.) I like the endorphins I get from impact.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 5:27:29 PM

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We're not into s & m. We're bondage freaks.
Which reminds me, the rope bag needs straightening out.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 5:43:38 PM

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Impact play is something we enjoy, I love spanking a willing butt and i also adore Master spanking me! But we also both enjoy a wide range of other play when we get the time and energy, and our ongoing humourous age play is a staple part of our interaction at all times.

I think the reason you see so much impact play at parties is because want to use the equipment such as crosses and spanking benches that make it easy to do and which they don't necessarily have at home. Also, as LP said, impact play can make a lovely scene starter, getting the sub into a good space in which to do other more passive play such as needles, wax, bondage etc. Plus if I am playing with someone new to Me, I like to do a spanking early on so I can monitor how the skin reacts and fades while I am continuing with other play. Then I have a better idea of how hard I can go next time!

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 6:51:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomImus

Another thread that I did not wish to hijack reminded me of a discussion I had a few years ago with a local female submissive friend of mine. We were talking shop and she asked what sort of things I liked. I said "My three favorites in no particular order are needle play, breath play and electrical play". She replied that two of those three were hard limits for her. I replied "Not a surprise. What do you like?". She said "Oh I like lots of things. Floggers, slappers, paddles, stingers, canes, whips, crops.".

What percentage of your activities involve impact or percussion play? Is is all/mostly impact play or do you rarely engage in impact play? My perception of the bdsm demographic at large is that impact play encompasses most of the play for most of the folks but that could be entirely mistaken. It accounts for about 80% of all play I have seen at play parties and dungeon settings but I am not a play party veteran by any means.

I'm not much for it. It's just not my thing. I have two floggers I made myself but I was driven more by having made them then actually using them. I have a long and short riding crop but again they are not on my short list of favorite toys.

What about you?

Impact is what starts most of our play except for take downs. If he's going to cut me or wax me or something, that usually comes afterwards. Take downs, are the exception as those start much differently and are never planned. Take downs are also the number one reason dinner gets burned or forgotten in the house. There's something about me being in the kitchen making him food that trips his trigger.

Maybe he doesn't like my cooking as much as I think he does and that's his passive-aggressive way of stopping it!

About that 80% you've noticed.. it doesn't surprise me. Impact is easy, fun, causes bruises and since a lot of spaces limit other activities, it's almost always going to be okay by the rule books of the various venues.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/9/2009 7:14:07 PM

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I would say that our public play is mostly impact play. When at home, our play is much more cerebral, and more sexual. Not that impact doesn't take place at home. The fact is, I enjoy flogging her. I get something out of it too, which is much the reason I do it.

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RE: Impact Play - 8/10/2009 2:45:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lronitulstahp
...does frigging count as impact????

If you do it right, yes.

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