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Learning about being a "little girl" on one's... - 8/8/2009 11:09:16 AM

fuzzywumpas

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I am in the somewhat painful process of discovering that I have a "little" in me that wants to come out. However, I'm not sure about anything like to how to let her out, how can she safely explore, what's appropriate for her (me?) and to put it bluntly, am at a total loss of what to do. My Master has told me that He has too much to deal with between work and another situation so that I am to work on this on my own. I do admit to feeling let down and hurt with His reaction because He claimed to be very experienced in age play and helping in this type of situation.

Should I just shove this aspect of me down and hope that at some time in the future Master will have time for me (somehow that feels wrong but it is an option), try to explore on my own or what? How have others gone about exploring their littles inside themselves? Are there books perhaps I could read? I'm feeling very lost and confused right now.....

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 11:17:52 AM

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I found mine with teh help of Master but I'd already done some exploring on my own. Coloring books or craft activity kits geared towards kids are usually safe, this way you can let her out and let her do an activity that's both 'age" appropriate and lets you keep some control. I myself also do some "automatic" coloring like taking a blank page, having markers, colored pencils and crayons and chalk in front of me and just kind of zone out and let her draw whatever she wants. this lets her have full control and lets you see into her, or what she wants or needs ect. Sometimes if Master and I are cuddling she'll sneak out and be the one in his lap. Go to the zoo or teh park and let her enjoy those things too.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 11:19:36 AM

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I've never been to this site myself but have heard that Guardian Island has lots of littles.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 11:55:50 AM

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Thank you, DarkSteven, the site looks very interesting.....

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 12:01:07 PM

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Can I ask what has made you realise you have a ' little girl who wants to come out' and why it is so important that you do it now alone? Surely part of the 'point' is to have the little girl/daddy relationship?

Also if you are saying

quote:

Should I just shove this aspect of me down and hope that at some time in the future Master will have time for me

and meaning it then you really do need to ask why are you feeling that way.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 12:14:42 PM

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Can I ask what has made you realise you have a ' little girl who wants to come out' and why it is so important that you do it now alone? Surely part of the 'point' is to have the little girl/daddy relationship?

Also if you are saying

quote:

Should I just shove this aspect of me down and hope that at some time in the future Master will have time for me

and meaning it then you really do need to ask why are you feeling that way.

To answer the last part first, it is something that I have done all my life, stuffing, or burying issues that probably should be addressed but I am not able to at this time for whatever reason. Ideally, I was hoping that Master would walk with me me through this discovery so that we may learn together. However, He has clearly stated that He can not, or will not, at this time. So if this is a bad time for Him, then I must consider just shoving this all back down and hope that at some later time He is willing to help to help. If He is not, then I must consider the fact that I have either been lied to or played, as during our discussions and getting to know one another, He repeatedly talked about age-play being one of His preferences. What is one to think if someone claims to have a strong interest in age-play and yet is not willing to help their girl learn about herself? Where is the "Daddy Dom" in that?

As for the first part, maybe it's because I was finally starting to feel in a safe enough place where my little could come out and play, only to find out that maybe now is not a good time. *shrugs* Who knows? I sure don't - I'm extremely saddened and confused at this point. So I "stuff" and deal, go on with life. Maybe another time will be better. I have always had a playful side, just recently have I discovered the depth of the playful side and who she is...

Life is always a learning experience. Some good, some bad. I was hoping this would be a good one. Perhaps I was wrong.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 12:16:33 PM

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fuzzy.. (love that nic, btw :) ).. that Guardian Island site looks like it could be a good resource. Also, check your cmail in a few minutes....

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 12:21:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fuzzywumpas

quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally

Can I ask what has made you realise you have a ' little girl who wants to come out' and why it is so important that you do it now alone? Surely part of the 'point' is to have the little girl/daddy relationship?

Also if you are saying

quote:

Should I just shove this aspect of me down and hope that at some time in the future Master will have time for me

and meaning it then you really do need to ask why are you feeling that way.

To answer the last part first, it is something that I have done all my life, stuffing, or burying issues that probably should be addressed but I am not able to at this time for whatever reason. Ideally, I was hoping that Master would walk with me me through this discovery so that we may learn together. However, He has clearly stated that He can not, or will not, at this time. So if this is a bad time for Him, then I must consider just shoving this all back down and hope that at some later time He is willing to help to help. If He is not, then I must consider the fact that I have either been lied to or played, as during our discussions and getting to know one another, He repeatedly talked about age-play being one of His preferences. What is one to think if someone claims to have a strong interest in age-play and yet is not willing to help their girl learn about herself? Where is the "Daddy Dom" in that?

As for the first part, maybe it's because I was finally starting to feel in a safe enough place where my little could come out and play, only to find out that maybe now is not a good time. *shrugs* Who knows? I sure don't - I'm extremely saddened and confused at this point. So I "stuff" and deal, go on with life. Maybe another time will be better. I have always had a playful side, just recently have I discovered the depth of the playful side and who she is...

Life is always a learning experience. Some good, some bad. I was hoping this would be a good one. Perhaps I was wrong.

Hun if you want validation for leaving your relationship then you have mine, if you genuinely feel that you need to be something and it is a huge thing for you and he knows this and it was a draw for you then you arent getting from the relationship what you wanted. If that is the case go find someone that is going to be what you want.

However hun the way that you are describing this seems a little deeper than that and that does concern me, I can't lie about it, maybe that is just your wording though, however if there is something deeper that you need to address then please please do that.

If it is an urge that you feel you need quenched well life is a learning curve but it is also about experience so get off your ass and do it.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 1:35:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fuzzywumpas

I am in the somewhat painful process of discovering that I have a "little" in me that wants to come out. However, I'm not sure about anything like to how to let her out, how can she safely explore, what's appropriate for her (me?) and to put it bluntly, am at a total loss of what to do. My Master has told me that He has too much to deal with between work and another situation so that I am to work on this on my own. I do admit to feeling let down and hurt with His reaction because He claimed to be very experienced in age play and helping in this type of situation.

Should I just shove this aspect of me down and hope that at some time in the future Master will have time for me (somehow that feels wrong but it is an option), try to explore on my own or what? How have others gone about exploring their littles inside themselves? Are there books perhaps I could read? I'm feeling very lost and confused right now.....

Your Master might be experienced in *age-play* etc ........ but that doesn't alter his situation at the present.

If his hands are tied by work and life in general at the moment, does that mean he really doesn't give a shit ? I don't quite see why you have to *shove* everything back down just because your discovery has come at a time that he's indisposed. You can think about it , write about it, explore how you feel in your mind and bring that all to him when he's got through the tricky spot.

Your post sounds a little contradictory in that you first say he's got *too much to deal with between work and another situation*.... and then go on to say that he's not *willing*. There's quite a difference between not being *able to* and not being *willing to*.

Did he tell you that you'd have to get on with it alone for good, or just for the moment?
Did he suggest in any way that he didn't care or wasn't interested, apart from the fact that life got in the way right at this moment?
Did he say *cannot* or * will not*?.....big difference.
Did he say you were TOTALLY alone in it, such as no discussion, no talking, no communication at all?

agirl

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/8/2009 6:12:44 PM

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I am not sure what a little girl does. I wasn't a little girl when I was one. I was serious, would read under the covers till the early morning. I didn't get dirty even if I played football with the boys. But.. I love dolls. I have been a barbie-holic for many years. When I think there is no one watching I suck my thumb or my fingers, something which was not allowed when I was a child. I still giggle, love watching animals, and now I play in clay.

What is your idea of "little girl"? What makes it seem appealing and how do you see it developing?

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/9/2009 12:03:52 PM

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I am a Daddy Dom with time on my hands i can assist in your self exploration if you are willing. I have been a Dom for 12 years and can teach much....

now in saying this i am not advicing you to find a new Dom i am only offering advice and guidance online.... if you are interested message me

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/9/2009 6:10:24 PM

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I agree with a girl, there is a huge difference between "Can't at this time" and "Not willing to any time". OP, you need to sort out clearly which it is in this situation. How long have you been with your Master? Is it live in or not? How much time do you spend interacting with Him? All that has some bearing on the advice you might receive.

Otherwise, you've been given some good suggestions for safely letting your little out for some initial explorations and I don't see why you can't do that on your own recognisance. It might be good in the long run for you to get to know her before your Master might start moulding her into His age play dynamic. So I would encourage you to stop stuffing things down and be brave enough to explore on your own. Without the extra info I mentioned above I am hesitant to judge, but there was a trace of petulance "now i'm ready to do this why isn't HE ready now" coming through in your posts. Real life can be a real bitch, and timing isn't always as we'd like it to be. Only you can assess whether He really is snowed under or whether this indicates something more fundamental about your relationship.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/9/2009 6:13:27 PM

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/10/2009 3:45:46 PM

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I would say go with it. Discover your inner Little Girl, and see what works for you. Especially if you Master told you to do it. I wish I could find the Little Girl in me, but being a Male, isn't as much fun, as being a female. You get to shop and buy all kinds of nice things for Little Girls, without getting the looks.

One thing I do recommend though, get some Mary Jane Shoes, They are perfect for Little Girls, and little Boys like me too. I wish I had you to dress up. We would have so ,uch fun. I (and my dear wife) always wanted to have children, and were never able too, but this is getting away from the post. SORRY !

Anyway, have fun. Maybe you might just get something, that might PLEASE your Master, and give him some ideas to take time off, for his Little Girl too.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/10/2009 8:04:21 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyoftheVally

Surely part of the 'point' is to have the little girl/daddy relationship?

Really not necessarily so.

I am for the first time in a relationship where age play in explored. For the first time my Dominant is also my Daddy, though He is Sir first, He is Daddy always. The girl I can be for Daddy, His baby girl, His princess is one of the happiest, safest, brightest head spaces I can be in. It is quite simply magical. I am not with Daddy all the time - and sometimes she comes out when He isn't with me, but I can provide for her in the mean time. I can have her favourite flavour of milkshake in the house, or the lollies she likes, I can make sure she has her blanket clean and fluffy and her story book. I sometimes even leave a night light on for her in case she wakes in the night - (how sad is that .. but its true lol) My little space was around before I found Daddy, and she is there whether He is or not.

A year ago none of this was the case. Even the slightest hint of my little was crushed, her needs were not just ignored but proactively humiliated as pissy passive aggressive bad behaviour. "Princess" was a dirty word. I felt guilty (and therefore was furtive and secretive) for needing to be in that space from time to time.

Until Daddy, here is what I used to do to let my little out to play. Go somewhere, anywhere, with kids stuff in your price range. Walk. Explore. Something will catch your eye, or more precisely your little's eye. Indulge in it. Go home, do all the grown up things you have to do. Have a bath and let your little pick something to wear. Then simply sit and play with your nu nu. If your little doesn't want to come out, try again another night. Try different triggers. Food or drinks - tastes and smells of childhood - often work.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/11/2009 10:47:22 AM

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I can relate to this, softness because for years, I subconciously dealt with her needs, watching childrens shows, even if the kids weren't home, reading favourite childhood books over and over, curling up and eating cookies and milks, playing with the animals and just acting a kid. i didn't realize how much of her I let out at times. But now being in a totally different household, with a 24/7 D/s relationship, all of a sudden, she doesn't get her time, she doesn't get that attention I gave her and for whatever reason, "Daddy" isn't in a space to give it either. So I've decided that based on his absence as "Daddy", I'll just revert back to doing little girl things when I can. She needs to come out, I can't hide her anymore. I'm going to try to structure "little" time for her, and see if that helps.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/11/2009 10:55:04 AM

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*hugs* Fuzzy

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/11/2009 11:22:30 AM

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I appologise then for my flippant remark, it was genuinely from a state of not understanding more than anything else, as it is not something I personally relate to.

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/11/2009 11:29:21 AM

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How do you get to be a dom of 12 yrs with much to teach at age 23?

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RE: Learning about being a "little girl" on o... - 8/11/2009 11:30:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: fuzzywumpas

I am in the somewhat painful process of discovering that I have a "little" in me that wants to come out. However, I'm not sure about anything like to how to let her out, how can she safely explore, what's appropriate for her (me?) and to put it bluntly, am at a total loss of what to do. My Master has told me that He has too much to deal with between work and another situation so that I am to work on this on my own. I do admit to feeling let down and hurt with His reaction because He claimed to be very experienced in age play and helping in this type of situation.

Should I just shove this aspect of me down and hope that at some time in the future Master will have time for me (somehow that feels wrong but it is an option), try to explore on my own or what? How have others gone about exploring their littles inside themselves? Are there books perhaps I could read? I'm feeling very lost and confused right now.....

Your Master might be experienced in *age-play* etc ........ but that doesn't alter his situation at the present.

If his hands are tied by work and life in general at the moment, does that mean he really doesn't give a shit ? I don't quite see why you have to *shove* everything back down just because your discovery has come at a time that he's indisposed. You can think about it , write about it, explore how you feel in your mind and bring that all to him when he's got through the tricky spot.

Your post sounds a little contradictory in that you first say he's got *too much to deal with between work and another situation*.... and then go on to say that he's not *willing*. There's quite a difference between not being *able to* and not being *willing to*.

Did he tell you that you'd have to get on with it alone for good, or just for the moment?
Did he suggest in any way that he didn't care or wasn't interested, apart from the fact that life got in the way right at this moment?
Did he say *cannot* or * will not*?.....big difference.
Did he say you were TOTALLY alone in it, such as no discussion, no talking, no communication at all?

agirl

there is a fine line between being too busy to______....and being too busy.

My guess is Fuzzy was dismissed, as in the slamming of an iron curtain, as opposed to her Master taking a few minutes to realize the emotional growth it has taken to recognize this aspect of herself.

Granted, life gets in the way, for all of us. Whereas he may be too busy to explore this aspect of Fuzzy's persona...he should not have been too busy to offer encouragement, praise, and a promise of his attention in the future.

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