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Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 1:39:19 PM

Kellyx

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So we meet like every now and then for some random bdsm fun times. He's a completeee sadist haha.

Anywayyy he took me out for a meal the other day cause i complained that no one had took me out for ages and now i think i properly like him. Hahah i feel like a stupid teenage girl now ew

But i was wondering if you could have a normal relationship and also have a great DOM/sub understanding aswell?

I just don't think it could work both ways. Im just really lame and want everyone to be like Disney

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 1:45:20 PM

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Why do you feel that those two relationships have to be mutually exclusive?

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 1:51:05 PM

Kellyx

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Arhg im shit at explaning

Like im worried he might start to like meee properly and be less dominant in the bedroom and also in everyday life it would be strange to be submisive

And what if we have a proper couple fight it would just be strangeeeeee

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 1:51:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kellyx
But i was wondering if you could have a normal relationship and also have a great DOM/sub understanding aswell?

Yes. There are many married couples who also do BDSM and have their own "Dom/sub understanding." For me personally, I won't play with someone unless I'd enjoy going to dinner and doing nilla things with her too. I get no joy out of a spank-a-booty call.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 1:59:39 PM

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Heh. Just enjoy. Love is nice.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:10:13 PM

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does your E key keeeeeeep geeeeetting stuck?

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:11:13 PM

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quote:

But i was wondering if you could have a normal relationship and also have a great DOM/sub understanding aswell?

of course it is possible. Just take it slow and communicate.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:18:24 PM

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Kelly, express what you want. I know age 18 feels like you're all grown up, but really its okay to have a 'normal' romantic relationship if you want one. Change your mind a thousand times if it suits you. You don't have to dive off into the deep end of the sexual pool (BDSM) before you even know how you feel about vanilla dating. JMHO, IMBFOS

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:28:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kellyx
But i was wondering if you could have a normal relationship and also have a great DOM/sub understanding aswell?

Yes. There are many married couples who also do BDSM and have their own "Dom/sub understanding." For me personally, I won't play with someone unless I'd enjoy going to dinner and doing nilla things with her too. I get no joy out of a spank-a-booty call.

"Spank-a-booty call" Delicious!!!

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:34:02 PM

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I like sirsholly advice. Take it slow, communicate, and you'll be fine. I've had relationships that were D/S in the bedroom, and going to the supermarket/mall together vanilla.

Communication is the key to most relationships.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:39:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kellyx

Like im worried he might start to like meee properly and be less dominant in the bedroom and also in everyday life it would be strange to be submisive

Silly. Save the worrying for when there's something to actually worry about.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:52:12 PM

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So this is a bad thing? giggles

Sweetie, it is not a huge disaster. These kinds of relationships work out all the time. But before you get too carried away, I would caution you to slow down and take a deep breath. Folks in these very intense relationships can get really carried away sometimes. Further, you need to talk to him. These kinds of feelings unreciporcated hurt. Be safe, smart, and careful. All in all, enjoy the wonderful ride!

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 2:55:33 PM

Aileen1968

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I just read your profile....You fell in love with the random fat guy, didn't you?

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 3:11:36 PM

Kellyx

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LOL LOL LOL

Ewwwww no!

I don't eben know what the hell hapend that night. I never saw him again bahaha. I do however love his belt! I think it's a Bowie belt.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 4:16:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kellyx

So we meet like every now and then for some random bdsm fun times. He's a completeee sadist haha.

Anywayyy he took me out for a meal the other day cause i complained that no one had took me out for ages and now i think i properly like him. Hahah i feel like a stupid teenage girl now ew

But i was wondering if you could have a normal relationship and also have a great DOM/sub understanding aswell?

I just don't think it could work both ways. Im just really lame and want everyone to be like Disney

OP
A DOM/sub relationship is normal <<picturing Sleeping Beauty doing CBT on the little dwarfs>>

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 4:38:21 PM

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Something fishy about this thread ...

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 5:35:06 PM

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When you're in love with the person spanking/whipping. fucking you, it just makes it better.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 6:20:14 PM

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I fell for my dom, and I am still falling. Falling is great.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 6:37:24 PM

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I'm with the crowd thinking it makes things better to really like or love the person you're playing with. I've done a play session or two outside of that type of situation and it was fun- I'm definitely not knocking it. I just think for me I gravitate to the deeper connection I feel if there is an emotional relationship in place as well. There are a lot of committed couples here on the message boards at CM that seem to have the whole package going on with love AND D/s. I don't feel from their postings that D/s has taken a back seat in their lives because they have a deep emotional connection with each other. Quite the opposite, it can open up things to a greater level.

I can also personally say that I was with a total bastard of a Dom for a while that never lost his edge even though we had some feelings for each other so it can happen - depends on the guy.

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RE: Oh SHIT.... I think im falling for my dom - 7/9/2009 8:03:02 PM

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My male sub loves me and I love him. Nothing strange about a D/s relationship where love is involved. Heck many D/s couple even get married....

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