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How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 6:34:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		How do you handle it when pain becomes too much to handle?  Here is an example:  My Master loves clothespins.  He puts them on my nipples and on my arms and thighs.  He also puts them on my cock, cock head, and balls.  Eventhouh this is painful, I can handle it just fine.  Then comes the torture.  My SIR likes to lay on top of me with his full weight on the clothespins.  It feels as though my skin is going to rip off sometimes.  Also, sometime he makes me lay next to him with my full weight on the clothespins.  This is very painful on the clothespins on my cockhead.  Many times he will tell me not to scream from the pain because if he hears me he will make it last longer.  He can cum very quickly after doing this to me.  I have never used the safe word before and I don't want to disapoint my Master.  Do any of your Masters torture you in this way?  Also, for the Masters reading this do you enjoy doing this to your slaves?  For subs, how do you handle intense pain in general?  I enjoy taking pain for my Master because I know it gives him great pleasure.  I try to focus on him and I try to take my mind off of it, but sometimes I end up in tears.  Any tips on how to learn to endure more pain?
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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 6:44:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		The only "tip" I would give,and it sounds simple....but here it is....breath.When one is experiencing extreme pain most people have a tendency to slow down their breathing rate....as if holding ones breath can help you get through the unendurable.....it doesn't work.You are much more likely to ride out and even enjoy the pain if you breath at a normal pace.

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:03:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, breathe. Breathing with the diaphragm (which is North-South/Up-Down motion) is best. Breathing with the chest/rib cage (an East-West/Left-Right motion) isn't much better than holding your breath. Deep and slow breathing with the diaphragm is very helpful. I also use imagery in conjunction with breathing to help me. I see pain as the color red, so I imagine pain as red "smoke" leaving my body. Once I can block out so much of the pain, the smoke turns dark blue and becomes light blue the closer I am to the place I go.

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:09:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ahhh the musings of a fellow masochist.....while maintaining my breathing I like to find a spot on the wall ceiling whatever and just focus.....the pain flows through me and becomes something interpreted by my body as pleasure.....heaven indeed!!!!

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:10:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, the first thing that leaps to mind is that your safeword is there for a reason. If you need it, you are letting your dominant down by not using it. If you fail to use it, then it is possible you will have allowed harm to come to his property and I can assure you that is thoroughly unacceptable. Granted, I am terrible about communicating when I am having trouble myself, but I still have to say this. I know. Easier said than done, believe me. If he didn't expect you to use it, it wouldn't be there.

I agree with the above about breathing. As a matter of fact, breathe deeply and concentrate on breathing the pain out of your body. Grasp at something, but otherwise try to relax your body too. Tensing up will make it worse. Especially keep the parts in the most pain as relaxed as possible.

I think another worthy question would be if this is good pain or bad pain. Good pain can present in many different ways. Bad pain is usually just, well, painful and often is clearly telling you of danger. Bad pain might require you to use your safeword or some form of communication on your part. Good pain, well then what are you here whining about? LOL!!!! Just kidding!

Hope this helps!

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:28:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like extreme pain; and by extreme, I mean that I am the kind who actually welcomes the kind of pain that comes from a bone breaking.

However...even I have a limit to how much I can accept before it get's to be too much.

Breathing, as the others have mentioned, does help; so does having a fixed point of focus...almost like they tell women during childbirth. I have also found though, that for me, when I reach that stage...I totally and completly focus on the pain itself. That's MY focus point. By doing that, I have found that I can distance myself from the pain that I am actually feeling and it becomes more of a ....analytical...process. I can break down the pain itself so that it no longer becomes something that is unbearable, and instead becomes...distant.

Though, I also feel it is important to mention that you have a safeword for a reason. Not using it, is cheating your Master our of knowing what your feelings and thoughts are.


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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:34:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Trust your Dom to know when you can't take anymore. Trust yourself to know when you can't take anymore and communicate it clearly to him..I'm not talking safewords. I'm talking normal everyday English. Sit down and tell him what you feel and think. I would hope that he is watching for your signals and body language and getting to know you as a person to understand when enough is enough.

And as others have said..breathe.


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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:48:46 PM   
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How do you handle it when pain becomes too much to handle?  Here is an example:  My Master loves clothespins.  He puts them on my nipples and on my arms and thighs.  He also puts them on my cock, cock head, and balls.  Eventhouh this is painful, I can handle it just fine.  Then comes the torture.  My SIR likes to lay on top of me with his full weight on the clothespins.  It feels as though my skin is going to rip off sometimes.  Also, sometime he makes me lay next to him with my full weight on the clothespins.  This is very painful on the clothespins on my cockhead.  Many times he will tell me not to scream from the pain because if he hears me he will make it last longer.  He can cum very quickly after doing this to me.  I have never used the safe word before and I don't want to disapoint my Master.  Do any of your Masters torture you in this way?  Also, for the Masters reading this do you enjoy doing this to your slaves?  For subs, how do you handle intense pain in general?  I enjoy taking pain for my Master because I know it gives him great pleasure.  I try to focus on him and I try to take my mind off of it, but sometimes I end up in tears.  Any tips on how to learn to endure more pain?



  When I was slave, my Dom would just ask me what I would like, and sometimes I would let him briefly try new things out on me if I really wasn't sure... I was such a painslut that he was really honestly trying to find out what new ways of torture I would tolerate well. There were extremely painful things that I asked for shamelessly because I deeply desired them... And there were other equally painful, or less painful things that I did not want to do at all. He allowed me to set those limits, because there was so much else in the way of pain play, that I actively craved.
  
   Quite simply: we had plenty of overlap, in the extreme pain play that we enjoyed. There was no need for him to push me into stretching my limits by delving into things that I just did not want to experience.

    I was quite happy to let him beat me hard, over long hours... Mmmmmm... It was lovely. I adore him to this day, for taking me so deeply into those dark places that I so badly wanted to go, with him.

In answer to your question: I took the pain in the manner that pleased him best. I followed his lead, in the matter. I was as obedient as I could manage, under the circumstances. Pleasing him in this way was extremely pleasurable for me. Sweetly, exquisitely humiliating and yummy. White-hot pain, and the almost unbearably pleasurable humiliation of my own willing submission.... Jesus I'm creaming...


OP, your screen name indicates that you are a pain slut. Maybe you just aren't into the same kind of pain that he enjoys giving. Maybe he's not the best match for you, in this respect. 

Can you be honest with him about the kind of pain that you crave, and the things that you really don't enjoy? If you found that there is plenty of other pain play that you both would enjoy, it might be easy for the two of you to transition happily into those other areas. Candid, explicit communication is the key. Talk to him.

   

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 7:51:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		I must be sick...I'm getting excited just reading these responses.Yep,one sick assed masochist here...

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/7/2009 8:00:50 PM   
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Sweet memories.... (Sigh...)

All that's left for me to do is to try my best to give my own sweet slaveboy as much loving care, close attention, exquisite pleasure, and sweet humiliation as I myself received from my Dom....

God, I miss him. We still keep in touch, and adore each other to this day.


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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 12:18:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Long deep breaths.. .and if you can't take it anymore then just safeword out and try again later. 

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 12:58:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		fast reply but have read the responses...
my first reaction?
You should try childbirth!( unlikely?)
But it is right...there is 'googd' pain and 'bad' pain and I would think that there is a lielihood of skin being ripped here so beware.
Use your safe word.
Ir's ok if you are inexperienced but for both of you to be well....


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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 5:07:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		I cry and then try to focus on my breathing. And if that doesn't work I try to sneak away. That never works...

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 5:54:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'm assuming that you mean pain that's not helping you go into subspace. i don't have to safeword in those situations. As soon as i reach tears it is enough for Master to feel i've been a "good girl". If you are crying with the pain and still being pushed, it may be too intense for techniques. Discuss if you're purposefully being tested to safe word.

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 5:56:05 AM   
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How do you handle it when pain becomes too much to handle?
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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 6:01:01 AM   
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i'm assuming that you mean pain that's not helping you go into subspace. i don't have to safeword in those situations. As soon as i reach tears it is enough for Master to feel i've been a "good girl". If you are crying with the pain and still being pushed, it may be too intense for techniques. Discuss if you're purposefully being tested to safe word.

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Tears are good. It turns us both on. I love when he pushes me further than I think I can go. I don't have a safeword.

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 6:22:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not being into s & m, I can't talk about pain. But I'm curious as to why you using the safeword would be a disappointment. You have it for a reason.

Presumably he cares about you as a person, not just as a thing to put clothespins on. Yet you are denying him the truth of how you feel by not telling him what you've told us. What happens if you decide this is too much to take and you break off the relationship? Wouldn't he rather know your limits ahead of time and adjust what he does in order to keep the relationship strong?

Why do you feel that the only way you can not disappoint him is to lie about your responses?

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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 5:48:45 PM   
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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 5:51:14 PM   
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RE: How do you handle extreme pain - 7/8/2009 10:45:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Breathing helps. Visualization helps. Regular practice helps. Something else I would suggest is to try to maintain a pattern of thought during moments of extreme pain. The body is designed to survive, right? Well pain tells your brain when some kind of damage is being done to the body. So fundamentally it is information, just like your vision or any other sense of your world. However, the mind is to varying extents a separate thing from the body. Trying to keep the mind apart from the body can lessen the pain. It sounds really esoteric and kinda fruity, but it works. Conscious effort to distance your consciousness from your body can make it more bearable. With practice the amount of pain that can be endured this way is very significant. Does that make sense? I'm not sure I explained it well, lol.

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