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RE: Have i gone over the edge? - 6/9/2009 6:44:50 AM

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Do you know how many times I have said these exact things to my partners over the past several years? I should just go. I'm nothing but a burden. Why in the hell do you stick around? I'm just a drain on your whole life and you are better off without me. You know what their answer is every single time? Bullshit!

If the tables were reversed, that would be my answer to them if they said these things too. Funny how it looks different from the other side of the table. I keep giving people ample invitation to walk away. They stay. Some days I think they are the dumbest people alive for doing so. In the end, however, I have to respect that as their choice and understand that the burden of the consequences does not rest with me. By determining to stay on their own, they have taken that away from me. We can simply enjoy and comfort each other.

He is choosing to stay and bear whatever his heart and soul may go through for you. Please allow him the dignity and, yes, honor of doing so. Don't shut him out. If he wanted to leave, he would have. Just love each other and weather this storm together. Hugs, sweet girl!

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RE: Have i gone over the edge? - 6/10/2009 7:30:55 PM

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Since it drives me freaking crazy that people start threads and never come back and tell us what happened i though i probably should not do that. :P

i talked to Him about where i was at and what i was feeling... He's such a sweet man. Seriously, i will never understand what on earth i did to deserve such a caring, loyal,devoted, honest, and trustworthy man but He's mine!!! i'm grateful that He's so caring and compassionate and patient. Hell, i think if i had been Him tonight alone i would have beat me just to make me stop being such a bitch. But, the truth is He would never do that.
i'm not sure if it was the pain that was trying to convince me to find a way to get Him to leave me, the guilt, or the undeserving issue.
i just wanted to thank each and everyone of You. You all displayed such kindness, grace, and mercy to me and for that i will be grateful for a very long time.
i hope that for each one of You someone treats You with all of the wonderful qualities You all treated me.
Kali

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RE: Have i gone over the edge? - 6/10/2009 7:41:09 PM

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I'm glad that you decided to level with him.

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RE: Have i gone over the edge? - 6/11/2009 8:55:06 AM

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Hi Kali:

Let him make that decision for himself. He's there for you because he wants to be (I gather this from reading your previous posts). I've had mixed feelings reading your posts, mainly because it's obvious you're in alot of pain and I hate reading that, but I loved reading how he takes care of you even if it's just to hold you. You can't buy that type of caring devotion. Don't rob him or yourself of that. Talk it over with him, let him know this is what you're thinking and let him decide where he wants to be.
Trust him to do the right thing for both of you.

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**Eta, I just saw that you did speak with him. Good for you!***

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RE: Have i gone over the edge? - 6/11/2009 9:18:53 AM

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Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen....

Have faith that love can overcome these things that seem bigger than you both. Look back on every obstacle you've beaten so far. Remember how "worth it" each success has been. Continue to move forward together...if for no other reason than it's what He really wants!!!!!!!

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RE: Have i gone over the edge? - 6/11/2009 9:47:12 AM

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quote:

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen....

and the ability to withstand that which we do not understand...

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