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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 2:47:46 AM

Goddess2002

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Just wondering why she has to be labeled a slave from the start....if labels are even necessary why not just allow her to get comfortable in a labeled D/s "submissive" role while she is exploring her interest?

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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 3:15:09 AM

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She's already doing things that you both enjoy, right? It's just a word. If she already act's like a slave for you, who cares?

Best wishes to your newer marriage though. I hope it grows and burgeons for both of you in the future :)

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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 6:27:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darklight17

She's already doing things that you both enjoy, right? It's just a word. If she already act's like a slave for you, who cares?

Best wishes to your newer marriage though. I hope it grows and burgeons for both of you in the future :)

THIS is a thought that has occurred to me over the last several days...her title is just that.....it is just a word. she DOES already act like a slave in many way....most ways....okay in 99% of the ways. she is very compliant, obedient, and does it all with very little complaint. So, she is, in essence, doing everything I want.

I believe, thanks to the advice on this board, that I will simply keep this course...and do as many have suggested and just lead her, slowly and almost imperceptively, deeper and deeper into slavery until she needs to have it...craves it. she is fine as long as the "s" word isn't attached. I believe the sexuality will follow.

Thanks everyone!!

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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 9:39:50 AM

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Hello HerTexasMaster
Yes, slow is a good idea. I got introduced to this lifestyle at 55 and it has been a slow process for me to become comfortable. I get comfortable with one thing, then another thing would pop up. Labels confused me, listening to what is real/true confused me, so I just had to back away a little. Sir took things very slow with me, after all he was the only bdsm person i ever had a relationship with. Your wife is a natural so let her get comfortable. I am not sure I am natural or not, and finanlly decided it didn't matter. What mattered was my conditioning prior to Sir, and if i as a person could let go of them. CM boards have been a blessing for me. Found out truism doesnt exist except for those who must have them.

Just some ramblings, maybe they will help

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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 10:08:49 AM

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It sounds like she is interested, and that is a good thing. The worse thing you can do is force it upon her.
Try to locate local people for her to talk and meet with. Munches would be a great thing as well.
She needs to see that she is not alone, and then she will begin to accept it.

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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 3:06:26 PM

WiseCracknSadist

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So basically you everything you want but the label and this is keeping you from being happy? Habits are hard to break and at 50 something I'm sure she's used to her freedom.

Besides there's no such thing as consensual slavery, just extreme submission.

If you want a slave take her, chain her, break her. That's how you slave her.

Otherwise be happy where you are. Why mess with near perfection? It could turn her off.

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RE: Need some help to help My wife accept who she is... - 5/13/2009 9:04:42 PM

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Patience will be rewarded.

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