barelynangel
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To me, slavery isn't about obedience -- i.e., the obedience or asking your preference doesn't make her a slave. I would not attempt to use this as an explanation to her because it could back fire on you and her if she one day wakes up and realizes she was simply doing that as a facade. There are MANY people in the world who enjoy pleasing people but would not make good slaves and would not be capable of being slaves.
Slavery has to do with YOUR mastery and enslavement of her. It isn't something SHE does. If she is resistant to losing her freedom, if she has the determination to resist your mastery and enslavement of her -- if you are even trying too --then she may never BE a slave. Freedom is a very powerful determination for some people. It seems what you each need to do is figure out WHY you want a certain definition.
for example, if you wish to be her Master -- you have to first understand why you yourself choose to own a woman. Then you need to decide what you want to own a woman for, and then you have to honestly look at yourself and recognize if you are CAPABLE of mastering and enslaving a woman -- especially one who may be resistant based on ignorance and fear. You have have all these answers already, but the fact that you are asking this question tells me you really may not.
MY personal opinion is whatever you do DON'T let her come online to try and figure this out.
On the other side, slave is instinctual and reactive to the mastery of a Man who has determined to own a woman. So its a concept WOMEN many times don't understand when they encounter it. And yeah, it scares the hell out of them. BUT the strength and determination of the Man she is with who masters her gives her the security within her fears. We were taught that freedom is what creates happiness. We were taught certain things are seen as weak something women are no longer "allowed."
I am a big advocate of what you don't know won't hurt you lol but that is also how i found slave. My former Master MADE me a slave without my even knowing it. What do i mean by this -- he mastered me until such time i could do nothing but go to him and beg him to make sense of why i was so frustrated, so scared, so needing of him. I didn't sit around once he made sense of it for me wondering about my freedom or fretting about making THE CHOICE (personally i think online has created a huge obstacle in this aspect of people that they now do the thinking thing instead of the reacting thing). I simply lived life as his slave because of his determinations for me. Some days would be great days, i was safe secure obedient and content flitting around in my "chains." Other days i woud fight it like hell, deciding this was all BS and yet i still was unable to walk away. And all days in between. And all of that is okay. Unless you need some concrete decision from her, simply be the strong, secure Man she needs. Don't say well you already do this and that, that is nothing but a guilt trip in attempt to hav her identify herself when all this time she thought she had -- she is yours.
IF you feel you wish to take it to a level, then tell her, explain to her what you envision. Tell her YOUR responsibility, explain to her mastery and enslavement are YOUR responsibility not hers. Set out your expectations and standards of what you will create the environment wherein she will be able to reach and maintain same. I would suggest you stop focusing on her lack of definition as a fault -- that's what it seems on some level. Simply decide what it is you want and then lead her to same as it seems she follows you. It doesn't need to be a concept of you have no freedom bitch you are a slave. Instead simply set up the environment, set the expectations and standards and from what you said, she may instinctually and reactively thrive within same. If she doesn't, then you have your answer.
Slavery is not linear. Its not a thinking thing. Its simply a living thing. No matter what is determined she WILL struggle. Don't expect her not too. Even a woman fully accepting of being a slave at times have days when she wants to be free of the chains, its human instinct. Simply be who you are, and don't push her in to "decisions." Again BE WHO YOU ARE, and if she is meant to be slave, yoru mastery of her will prevail, if she isn't -- it won't.
Personally, i wouldn't make a big deal about it simply let things come as the will be honest of what you wish and what you expect. Let the definitions come later. Again, What i personally would NOT allow her to do is come online to figure this out. BIGGEST mistake that would be made in my opinion.
I know people will freak out with this statement but MANY Times, the best way for a woman to finally understand she is slave is simply by not letting her make the DECISION whether she is or isn't and make it for her -- not some big tado but simply by being the Master she reacts as slave too. Simply as the Man who has determined to master and enslave her, set up the environment and proceed to do so. Sometimes taking the "choice" away simply allows a woman to exhale and simply BE.
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< Message edited by barelynangel -- 5/12/2009 4:37:08 AM >
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