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lally2 -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 6:26:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

What the hell is "slavery" anyway?

In the old days slaves rebelled, killed their master, rose up and burned cities to the ground and all the rest.


This is not an accurate nor balanced historical statement.


I am speaking of the history of slavery on this planet where slaves might be physical property but sometimes little more. I my relationships, I want a LOT more than simply owning their body, I kind of want their mind to be at least vaguely interested in being with me out of their own free will.


but it is free will.  before you check in youre free will is in tact and youre cognisant ability to make choices and decisions for youreself is in full working order.

i can think of two slaves on here in full Ms relationships, beth  being one and misst being the other and im sure there are more, theyre just ones off the top of my head, who are brilliant, intelligent, vibrant women and who happily and willingly give of their own free will by giving up free will.  neither woman is being forced to stay.  it is their free will to be enslaved to their Master and it is that given up free will that is expressed daily with all the brilliant, intelligent, vibrancy that makes them who they are to their Owners. 

i dont understand why you feel that isnt so when you have the evidence right here, plainly in view.  im just curious thats all.




barelynangel -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 6:44:12 PM)

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I know some people on this forum believe that a certain (insert gender or race here)should all be slaves, but educated persons know that is hogwash.


Who said anything about ALL of one gender? you are absolutely correct educated people know this and ignorant people even if they are or claim to be educated tend to believe tripe they hear about things they don't understand lol. grins As an example and a bit of a tangent -- we get this BS in the Gorean forums and from ignorant people all the time and it amazes me. And people try and use it as digs against Goreans many times passive-aggressively to somehow get a one-up on them lol - it's amusing to watch actually. However, I have yet to meet any Goreans who believe ALL women -- which tends to be a misconstrued rumor ignorant people tend to generalize that all Goreans believe -- are meant to be slaves -- just a bit of trivia, if that were REALLY the belief, slaves on Gor wouldn't have been less than 5% of ALL the women on Gor. This is the rumors that get started lol when people rely on quotes instead of actually reading the books. And educated people believe what they hear instead of obtaining the information from the source. So yeah, i agree with you the ignorance of people is amazing. But i digress.

However, you stated and this is a DIRECT quote from your post:

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No one should be forced into slavery as it is an unnatural condtion for ALL people (regardless of gender). But for some with the personality and disposition for it, it is a natural condition.


If you notice the emphasis which i added, that i where you contradiction comes in. My former Master forced me into slavery to him THROUGH his mastery of me. So simply by nature of being ONE person, i have proven your absolute wrong. I am utterly thankful he chose to force me to acknowledge what i had no clue about prior to knowing him. IF he would have explained it to me, i would have said HELL NO. He didn't, he simply forced me through his mastery to acknowledge slave.

grins what do you think i mean by force? That he tied me up, kidnapped me and chained me up? Seriously? No, sorry its not really that dramatic, i am speaking about the power of mastery. That is a pretty powerful force that if a woman is capable of reacting as slave she will and does, even if she doesn't understand it or know what it is - especially this -- MOST peopel have no clue what slavery is until the actualy are slaves. THIS concept is why there are so many misunderstandings and dramatizations of different aspects of it out there because people guess instead of know the actuality and its more fun to dramatize words such as non-consent and force and such. I mean afterall, if all force was meant that a Man through his ability to master a woman who was reactive to him and his mastery was capable of being a slave to him and if he determined it to be so -- it would probably happen -- i mean that's rather dull to the other concept of force - you know the kidnappings, screaming, beatings and rapes. - Personally i think the internet allows for too much drama to be attached to words associated with slavery and so many misunderstandings.

Your own statements clearly state that its a concept that depends on the person and therefore it can't be UNNATURAL for ALL people lol, if SOME people can exist in such a state naturally. I do believe you are thinking along the lines of legalities, and yes to me, i fully agree however, force doesn't necessarily mean illegal or harmful to the person involved. As i have said, sometimes a woman needs a umm helping hand into understanding her nature, and a Man unleashing the force of his mastery upon her -- is a force that is not harmful or illegal. When some girl who is a slave says to me i was forced to become a slave, it doesn't make me go OMG your Master is an abuser and should be put to death. I know MANY women who say plaining they could not leave if they wanted too. And this also doesn't make me go into OMG mode. Why? Because i understand it and know what they are saying.

Which is my point -- force isn't and shouldn't be a trigger word of drama, which many tend to use it dramatically. Perhaps of people recognize it for the natural source sometimes between a Man and a woman, they may understand the usefulness of such a concept. However, you would also have to be open-minded enough to see force as a concept that has nothing to do with violence or illegalities. Most peopel aren't willing to do this because it scares them because if it works on others, they themselves may find themselves in a situation where their determination they THOUGHT was their nature, really isn't and some may find themselves fully capable of maintaining their freedom as they suspected was their nature.

angel




SimplyMichael -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 7:17:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lally2

i dont understand why you feel that isn't so when you have the evidence right here, plainly in view.  Imo just curious thats all.


Having just spent a weekend basking in the sun with Merc n Beth, I do know how wonderful that relationship is. I am not saying she isn't under Merc's control, what I am saying is profoundly different.

That slavery, as it was, is an empty, shallow, and ugly thing and what Merc has in beth is something beautiful, deep, and transcendent.

Its like comparing a cave drawing to a DaVinci and calling both nothing more than paintings, or even better, comparing actual rape to lovemaking. Both involve much of the same acts but the are vastly different things.

I use the words master and slave, I find them hot and sexy but at the same time, they fall far short of what it is I seek and what I have created with someone.




thetammyjo -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 7:23:43 PM)

I think it depends on the person you are talking about.

Someone can consciously make that choice to become a slave for whatever reason. You might call that consent.

Another might discover that this sort of dynamic is what works best in their life or with a particular person. You might call that acceptance.

Both however are choices that you make. One to fully pursue, the other to continue the dynamic you find yourself in.

With Fox and I, it was honestly a bit of both. We did formal training and in that process discovered that 24/7 Ms was our best dynamic choice and we decided to accept that and work with it.




heartcream -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 7:37:11 PM)

Seems to me if someone is compelled to experience slavery, it is something they desire, something they want.

I bet some folks would deal with the willing slave different from how others would. Some folks might be far scarier to put one's tender life into their hands than others.




PMnpanthercub -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 8:02:26 PM)

after reading the OP, i have to say i believe slavery in our context has to be a consent only form of lifestyle.  the s-type has to want it, the dominant has to want a slave, both need to accept the responsibilities of that kind of a relationship.  when they find each other and it clicks, great for them.  if that is not the way it is, then is someone forcing another into captivity and illegal slavery?  quite possibly.

PM 




SlyStone -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 8:02:31 PM)

..and while submission mirrors "enslavement", it is more accepting to hear it on "this side of the fence" than the
other, would you agree? or would u say that u dont like the word slave at all...no matter the context?



I agree that it is more accepting, as it is not enslavement based on racism or forced coercion, but rather a self defined perception of reality.

But yes, I do still have a problem with the word when it is used in the BDSM context, mainly because the attempt to adopt the word to an essentially consensual relationship, in my opinion, both strains ones imagination, and at the same time devalues just how evil the reality was, and can be.

But, to each his own.





breatheasone -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 8:24:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone
Just curious why you dont like the word "
consensual"


Eeek beautiful breathingone, don't ask that... Kinda a running joke so I am when it comes to that since you took a break (lovely to see you back btw).
 
the.dark.

Ask what?...what do you mean...i don't recall... LOL...and thank you its been good to read you again LOL!




cpK69 -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/3/2009 9:51:35 PM)

 
~fr~

For me, it has been accepted, but I think that it is possible, for some, it is consensual; both knowingly and unknowingly.

I say accepted, because I became aware of the possibility and made it happen by learning to accept me.

Kim




ExSteelAgain -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 5:59:41 AM)

 
Who knows? The consequences of the action whether consensual or accepted can’t be judged in one light. It is a blurred philosophical question. There can be double or more effects from the relationship that affect the morality of whatever is happening.




Mercnbeth -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 7:21:31 AM)

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...Do you think that slavery is consensual*?...


this slave believes the type that we engage in is.
 
at least within the context of a bit of contrast from one historical version, when orphans were kidnapped from the docks, forced onto a ship bound for the colonies, then sold to the highest bidder once the ship reached the New England ports.


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...Or do you think that slavery is accepted?...


this slave doesn't perceive the "choice" to be slave, outside of a relationship specifically crafted that way.  it doesn't have to be an intimate BDSM relationship...that relationship could be one between that person and their Creator, or that person and their family or religion or culture or whatever they are slavishly devoted to serving.
 
often Master will refer to Himself as a slave...not to this slave, but to the relationship we have crafted.




lally2 -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 9:04:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: lally2

i dont understand why you feel that isn't so when you have the evidence right here, plainly in view.  Imo just curious thats all.


Having just spent a weekend basking in the sun with Merc n Beth, I do know how wonderful that relationship is. I am not saying she isn't under Merc's control, what I am saying is profoundly different.

That slavery, as it was, is an empty, shallow, and ugly thing and what Merc has in beth is something beautiful, deep, and transcendent.

Its like comparing a cave drawing to a DaVinci and calling both nothing more than paintings, or even better, comparing actual rape to lovemaking. Both involve much of the same acts but the are vastly different things.

I use the words master and slave, I find them hot and sexy but at the same time, they fall far short of what it is I seek and what I have created with someone.


is that because, as someone else has said, the terms by association make them tainted.

i can understand that.  more to do with the disgusting slave trade going on at the moment.  it almost feels wrong to assume the name slave by virtue of what those people have to endure. 

but there are also people who sell themselves into servitude and are happy to do so and historically not all slaves were miserable or treated miserably - it isnt in every case an ugly word.

i do see what you mean though.  i just dont think the two worlds compare.

kidnap, enforced slavery, illegal trade in lives, greed, contempt, abuse v free will, nurturing, two way giving, two way taking, compassion, love

you cant compare them.  and taking the worst analogy of a word is narrowing its meaning.

in the oxford dictionary it says: slave.  one who is another's property, a human chattel.






ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 10:33:38 AM)

I have a difficult time imagining how it could be anything but both. For me, it has to start with the acceptance of my fundamental nature, something that's pretty much a constant awareness for me anyway. From that point, the next step I need to reach is the acceptance of my partner as a compatible dominant, the acceptance that surrendering to her is a natural progression for me. This is something that I can't really explain, but seems to happen on an instinctive/intuitive level.  It is only from that point of complete acceptance that I can functionally consent. If the genuine acceptance is not there to begin with, I don't see how consent alone can sustain the dynamic for any real length of time. I'm sure it works for some people, but for me there would just be too many internal conflicts. 




RavenMuse -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 11:13:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Do you think that slavery is consensual*?
Or do you think that slavery is accepted?



In relationship terms I don't believe this to be an either/or question. IMO it is BOTH.

When she gave herself to Me, in accepting what that ment she was consenting to what it entails.

My girl has never formaly nor verbaly consented, she didn't need to.... when I reached out My hand to take her, she complied, accepting AND consenting to her positon as My Owned property in the same instant.

Take it out of a relationship context however and it IS an either/or question.... on a personal level slave isn't something she consented to being, she just IS, it was just something she discovered in herself and accepted rather than trying to fight and change, long before Our paths ever crossed




NuevaVida -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 11:28:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

Do you think that slavery is consensual*?
Or do you think that slavery is accepted?


Personally speaking, I consent to being someone's slave (in whatever way we define it). 

As for "accepted" - by whom?  By the slave in the relationship or by society as a whole?  I'd say not accepted by society as a whole, and again, personally speaking, I must accept who I am ("slave", if that be the case) in order to consent to being someone's.

So, for me the answer would be "both."  Then again, I don't consider myself a slave at this point, so perhaps my reply is a moot point.




junecleaver -> RE: Slavery-consent or accepted. (5/4/2009 12:17:14 PM)

I would use the word accept, because it didn't feel like a choice to me.  It didn't feel like I consented.  It just happened and I was okay with it, in fact quite pleased with it.  It certainly wouldn't be non-consensual, but I would say I consented to it either.

This is an interesting question.




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