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pahunkboy -> RE: Long time friend passed away (5/2/2009 3:16:28 PM)
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Hi everyone and thank you for your thoughts. They cheer me up. A number of months back- I was at his house and he was weak. I did not want to leave. Back then, I felt- it would be the last time I seen him. So I refused to leave. By 1AM he seemed normal- he seemed back to normal.
This makes 2 or maybe 3 that have died in that same house. (this is PA- the houses are old) Jim had a guy die in his bed. The guy had no ID on him. Try and explain that to the cops in a town of 12,000. lol
Who does one leave their fucks to when they die?
Jim was so good at figuring me out. He KNEW the outcome of almost any situation. He was 1 in maybe 100 that could do so.
Oddly- he always kept his friends separately from each other. He had a fit when he then learned mom worked at the retardation center where he worked. Like I withheld information. Then he later said- he would never know she was my mom -because she isnt smart in the way that I am. Mom isnt stupid or dumb- she simply is not sophisticated, yet- amazing as mom is- she can get a punch in when it is absolutely necessary.
Once he got to know the family better- he realized that. I used to visit him at his job when he got promoted. I encouraged him to go for that promotion. He was so proud of that. His gram was a long time union gal. This was many years ago. So he followed in the worker rights mode. He could outargue the state on many occasion on a work contract that THEY made. Seeing him in action was a joy..it truly was. He took this big impersonal state bureaucracy and turned it on its head- when a buddy was getting fried at work. Some of these same tactics carried over to other areas in life. I loved to learn from him and add to the tricks.
He even managed to baffle a lawyer or 2, based on the worker contract issues. The place he worked was very much a cut throat place. When mom worked there- this is where her unsophistication, but able to pull a punch came in handy. She stayed out of the main fire most the time. With mom- she did not know weather to work the extra 5 years to get her extra retirement. I told her just get your basic. She did- the same day she could retire she did. Jim was an ally in the work place.
He also was a great coach to me when I worked 5 years in the group homes. :-) Understand that MR/MH work is a massive mind fuck; if someone is not liked- 2-3 worlers will swear under oath that the dude commited a horrible infraction. It could be totally untrue- but often it would stick.
Jim his sister and I went to a historic event locally where they talked about native indians. He let my brother use his computer when I did not have one. He sent flowers when my grandfather died.
When I went thru my lawsuits he was THE HELPER that got me thru. All of them. I mena the courts are HORRIBLE to go thru. Jim coached me on what was what and I came out ok. (I lost 3, but won the big one)( and the one loss could have been 10x bigger so you could say I won that by not losing to that degree)
We went to Harrisburg once. He irked me by sticking his tongue out seductively at ALL the truckers! I mean it was my license plate and my car- and his flirtation might have ended us up rammed off the road!
The year it was record cold and the governor said we all were to cut back on elctriccity- we were going bonkers and had to get out of the house. Jim came and got me and we went to a restaraunt and he asked which lights they shut off. LOLOL. They turned off one light in the back. LOL. state emergency ahhhhhhhhhhhhh.
It is 6pm I just got up. man- "just" is close to his intitials.
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